My girlfriend says I have low emotional intelligence, how can I change myself?

I think that low EQ is not very good for the whole person, so I should go with people with high EQ more, so that you can have higher EQ.

If you have low emotional intelligence, you can chat with your friends by reading some books and reading some jokes, and see how people get along with your girlfriends? And how do you deal with things? It's all something that can be learned.

First of all, you must think twice before you speak in the future, and then you can read some books to improve emotional intelligence and slowly change your words and deeds.

You should take the initiative to chat with your girlfriend who accompanies you and tell your girlfriend to give yourself some dignity when she is outside. You should also make your girlfriend respect herself more. You should also let your girlfriend give herself some steps outside.

You should also set a good example so that your girlfriend's emotional intelligence can be improved.

You should try to improve the emotional intelligence of your girlfriend, and you should also adapt your girlfriend's way of doing things. You should also let your girlfriend learn to think from someone else's point of view. You should also let your girlfriend give you some dignity and face outside. The first sale should also tell the girlfriend what to do is the wrong person to tease.

Girls will say that boys have low emotional intelligence, which at least means that girls don't feel comfortable with you. It shows that in many things, you can't accurately understand what the girl means, and you don't take into account the girl's feelings when arranging things, so the girl will evaluate you like this. Once you've figured it out, you'll have to face your own problems.

Because of your negligence in public, girls feel unpleasant with you, so girls naturally have to consider whether you are suitable for a long-term relationship or even marriage. If there are other suitors next to her, she doesn't have to be with you.

And most of the low emotional intelligence performance of boys comes from the growth environment, such as parents taking care of everything, no loss, no crime, no scolding. Therefore, when dealing with people, I always focus on myself, habitually only think about myself and don't care too much about others. That is, the performance of high IQ and low EQ.

It is recommended to watch more movies and books on interpersonal communication to expand your understanding of interpersonal communication. And consciously apply the experience learned to practical exchanges, such as participating in some internal activities of the unit, such as: singing and dancing competitions, holiday parties, etc.

Experience the joy of completing certain activities by collaborating with others, and learn how to interact with others in those activities.

Join some outdoor sports clubs during the holidays or in your free time to reach more people. By connecting what you have learned, you can also form your own circle and also meet more friends, and you can also learn how to handle things properly and arrange things. When you learn to handle and arrange things properly, you and the girl will naturally get along well.

No matter how good the relationship is, you can't talk about the shortcomings of the other party, especially when someone else is there. The most important thing to maintain a good relationship is to praise others often. However, some people, either because of jealousy and discomfort, always expose the shortcomings of others, intentionally or unintentionally.

How can such a person be loved by friends and colleagues?

Be able to distinguish the identity of the occasion, do not talk nonsense, and be consistent with words and deeds. The benefits of joking are varied。They can lighten the atmosphere, increase the intimacy with each other, and make people feel humorous.

Of course, jokes have to be occasional. You can't joke at a serious meeting, let alone at a lavish funeral. People with high emotional intelligence are easy to understand.

Everyone has a fixed way of thinking, but if you can empathize and look at problems from the other person's point of view, you will be able to understand what they are doing, how to discover the interests of others, how to adapt to the needs of others, and make communication the basis for reducing communication barriers and increasing trust. When we communicate, we need to learn to analyze what they do, understand the deep meaning behind their words and behaviors, and train ourselves to think from the other person's point of view.

You should expand your social circle, communicate more with others, and you should open your heart, and you should also improve your courage, and you should also pay attention to the ideas and opinions of others, and you should also learn from some of the advantages of those around you.

It is better to communicate more with people and interact more with some people with particularly high emotional intelligence, so that you can learn some of their habits and improve your emotional intelligence.

You can read more books about emotional intelligence and the like, and don't say so absolute when you speak, when talking to women, you should praise women more, and at this time, you can stick to it and slowly your emotional intelligence will be higher.

Learn more. Learn from people with emotional intelligence so that you will change with it.

1. Don't complain, don't blame. Don't pour out all the negativity on those closest to you.

2. Respect and patience with the most familiar and friendly people. No matter how good the relationship is, you can't talk about the other person's shortcomings directly, especially when other people are present.