Thank you if anyone is willing to help me, about my ex girlfriend

…You know the key is to ...... on your own

But you know the choice is yours.

You're with him because you've listened to people say that you'll regret it later. Then you are so speechless to take the chase after others, and they already have their hearts.

If you skip a few years and look back, will you regret not moving forward cleanly.

Even if it's a dog that I used to have, I like to go and touch it and pay attention to it when I give it away. You think that's a crush on you, what is that ex-boyfriend? Could it be that she is in Cao Ying, and her heart is in Han? Don't you think that's disgusting?

You do it yourself, you know. Not all at once, though.

My ex-girlfriend messaged me and said she needed my help, what was the matter? If you can help, it is to help her, after all, it is two people together, even if you can't be boyfriend and girlfriend, there is still affection.

1. If the ability allows, I will choose to help, although the two people are not together, but they are also familiar with each other, and there are many beautiful times when they are together, and they can recall. So my girlfriend sent a message saying that she needed my help, and I would definitely do my best, after all, she is a girl who doesn't know anyone in this city, and I can help him, which shows that she trusts me more. Although the relationship between the two people is exhausted, they will still help when they should help.

Last time, my ex-girlfriend called me **, saying that there was always someone at the door who was harassing in the middle of the night, and asked me to help take a look, knowing that she lived alone in a rental house, so I was also worried. Later, I went to help her take a look, and it turned out that someone was drunk knocking on her door, so I went up and asked, and the drunk man ran away. Later, I helped my ex-girlfriend find a new rental house, and my ex thanked me for it, and that's it, because they are still friends.

2. If there is already a current one, I will definitely strive for the opinion of the current one, and then choose to help or not to help If there is nothing big, just a small thing, can help or not, and I already have a current girlfriend now, most likely I will choose not to help. Or ask for the consent of my current girlfriend, I may help her, if my current girlfriend does not agree, then I'm sorry, I can't help, because this kind of thing will definitely cause the current sour if you help your ex, so it's better to avoid this happening. Because love is selfish, only the current one has no predecessor, so it is better to be open and have trade-offs.

It's not a well-intentioned thing, it's something that can be done. My girlfriend can ask for help when she has something, and there are corresponding workers who can help with everything, and as an ex, I still have to avoid suspicion.

My choice is to look at what is going on, to see the attitude of the current person, and then decide whether I can help or not. If that's you, what should you do?

Marriage and love are very important things for everyone, we must be cautious when choosing a partner, but there are still many people who have experienced a relatively failed relationship, so there will be their own ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, if the ex-girlfriend comes to you for help, then you should choose to help or not to help, in fact, this situation we have to analyze according to the situation at the time.

When the ex-girlfriend comes to ask for help from him, he must have encountered very big difficulties, and there is no way to solve it with his own ability and the ability around him, otherwise he will not ask his ex-boyfriend for help, because this is undoubtedly a very faceless thing for women, but in the face of this kind of thing, whether we need help it still depends on the situation at the time.

Although two people have had a relationship before, and it is a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, but now they have separated after all, so it is more important to consider their own interests, if they help themselves, the girlfriend will not cause damage to their own interests, then we can choose to help them, on the other hand, we also have to consider whether his situation at the time really needs our help.

The relationship between men and women is very magical and wonderful, so it is more common for men and women to get back together after a breakup, but because girls have a thin face, they are not embarrassed to say it directly in many cases, but need to find an opportunity to finally make both parties able to reunite, such as seeking help from men is a safer way, if we find the problems encountered by women, with the energy around them or by themselves can solve them. Then we must consider whether there is a possibility of wanting to reconcile, and at this time, we must also look directly at our inner feelings, and finally make a choice after comprehensive consideration, so that we can better solve the problem.

If you don't help, it's over completely, and I don't think two people who have been together can still be friends, so keep a moderate boundary.

It depends. If it's a life-threatening situation, then it will definitely help. If it's something that someone else can help with, then I would choose not to help. After all, if you break up, you have to break it up, not to mention that I have a new girlfriend now.

Depending on your situation, it should be that the relationship between the two parties is not bad after the breakup.

It's okay to help, but it's all about the line.

Even if you are open-minded, you must be careful to avoid suspicion.

The scope of helping her cannot exceed that of ordinary friends.

It's best to let your current girlfriend know about this kind of thing very calmly. If she is generous, then she can help, if she doesn't want to, then don't. And you have to pay attention to this kind of thing, you must also be measured in this kind of thing, and the frequency of help should not be too high, otherwise even if your girlfriend doesn't say it, you will be jealous, and in the long run, it will be very bad.

You may feel embarrassed. But know that it is your current girlfriend who will live with you in the future, not your ex-girlfriend. So make a difference. If one of them thinks you're unreasonable, then your ex-girlfriend must dislike you.

We need to recognize the question of whether breaking up is the same as forming a grudge.

The purpose of falling in love is to find a suitable spouse, if everyone is getting along with this purpose, the reasons for not being together are diverse, some old and dead do not get along, but the landlord can be regarded as a normal friend.

2.To what extent is it reasonable to help? Since it is to help friends, you must have the attitude of helping friends, and you should not give extra care too much to the identity of your ex-girlfriend, otherwise other friends will also complain. So this has helped many times, but it can't break through the principle.

3.Taking into account the feelings of her current girlfriend, a woman is jealous, and no matter how atmospheric a woman is, she will be jealous, the difference is only in showing it, so she must take care of her emotions, do business, and never cross the line, especially if it should not happen, it is strictly forbidden to pay for personal debts.

To sum up, I will help my ex-girlfriend when she asks me for help, and I want to be frank and open. Hope it helps.

It's no problem to help out among friends.

But in moderation.

It's better to keep a distance.

Otherwise, something bad is likely to happen again.

First of all, I think I should tell you about my current girlfriend. Otherwise, if she finds out in the future, you can't explain it. (Of course, maybe a little unfounded) and if it's me.

I would be right with my ex-girlfriend for the reason for the breakup and the amount of damage to you. Don't call me stingy, I have my principles. If the reason for the breakup is too...

Then I won't contact him.

This is clearly something that should not be helped. A breakup is a breakup, and there shouldn't be any social contacts. Ask your ex-girlfriend to come to you for help when you broke up, then I think he has bad intentions and ulterior motives.

You should have a good attitude, and the good horse will not eat the grass.

If you don't have a girlfriend right now, you have to go with your heart and ask yourself if your heart still likes him? If you break up because you don't have feelings for each other, that is, you don't have any special feelings for him now, then you don't want to help her, even if you helped him because you once loved him, he will be lucky and think that you are still possible. So in order to avoid these unnecessary troubles, it is best to stay away from your ex and not let your ex have illusions about you.

If you decide you want to give up, don't bring it up again.

If you still have some special feelings for your ex and want to rekindle your old relationship with your ex, then you need to give him help, because it is possible that your help will lead to you getting back together. I've seen many people just break up and get together again after a long time, and when they fall in love for the second time, both parties will know how to cherish it more. It's better to go back to the original and it's a good ending.

If you don't have a girlfriend right now, and you're just treating your ex-girlfriend as a friend, I think you can help her. After all, if you break up and are still friends, it means that you have all let go, and friends are in trouble, so help if you can.

If your ex-girlfriend asks you for help, and if you have a girlfriend, don't bother with her in order to cause unnecessary misunderstandings and hurt your relationship with your girlfriend. You both broke up, and you don't have that obligation to help her. Once or twice is okay, if there are more, your girlfriend will also suspect that there is something wrong with the two of you, and will definitely be jealous and break up with you, do you want to compensate you and your girlfriend for someone who has nothing to do with you?

I don't think it should be, in my dictionary, I can only pretend not to know each other when I break up. Because they have loved each other, people who used to be so close, if they break up, it must be because of a particularly big thing, and this incident must have hurt your heart, otherwise it would be impossible to break up. Because there is a certain amount of love and hatred between each other.

So I don't think it's time to be friends. And if you already have a girlfriend again, be sure to turn her down.

If I were you, I would definitely say no. Because there is no need to involve so many things between you, if she has no money because her parents are sick and needs to borrow money from you, you can lend her the money when she needs it urgently. But if he always has some trivial things, even you can see that it is a reason to trouble you.

For example, she still asks you to buy her supper in the middle of the night, or she has something on her mind and asks you to accompany her when she is in a bad mood. I don't think you should help with this kind of help.

Anyway, if I were you, I feel like I should refuse to help. Unless it's the kind of human life at stake, or it's really an urgent matter, she must have other plans.

If it's something that only you can help with, you can help, and if it's just a small thing, you shouldn't help. Not helping doesn't mean that you are ruthless and unjust, on the contrary, not helping is good for both of you, after all, you have broken up, and you shouldn't have contacted each other in the first place, so why bother to break the connection.

Although you are the people who know each other best when you are together, this does not mean that the other party will not be able to live without your help, and the breakup must be clean, even if you still love her, you are desperately trying to suppress the idea of feeling sorry for her, because I believe that since you broke up, there must be a reason why you have to break up, so you will not be able to help her at all, which will only make you miss her.

But if you feel indebted to her, you can try to help her with what you can, but that doesn't mean you should help her. But love is a thing, there is no one right or wrong, no matter what your choice is, no one can say anything about you, everything just depends on what you think in your heart.

But I've also tried this situation, at the beginning of the breakup, if my ex needs my help, I will definitely choose to help without hesitation, but after a long time, I found that I will be more and more unable to forget him, in this case, then why let yourself have so much concern after the breakup? Isn't it nice to be ruthless?

I learned two important information from your question, one: always ask me for help, that means very often, no matter what help I ask you for, I think I should still refuse to refuse. Two:

Ex-girlfriend, since she is an ex-girlfriend, there is no need to contact each other too often, no matter what the reason is, she has separated, so she shouldn't disturb each other's lives too much.

Many people have doubts in their hearts: Can boyfriends and girlfriends still be friends after breaking up? In fact, ordinary friends can still do it, as long as it doesn't touch the bottom line and doesn't affect each other's lives. After all, the two once loved each other, so there is no need to become enemies when they are separated, and they will never get along with each other.

However, judging from your question, I think what you need to figure out now is whether you still have love for your ex-girlfriend now? Or is it just out of the concern of ordinary friends? If it's the latter, I advise you to keep a certain distance from your ex-girlfriend now, and make your words clear, don't let the other party have a reverie in her heart, so that it is good for you and her.

If you are still in love with your ex-girlfriend, you should also think about it, can you overcome and solve the reason why you broke up now? If you can't, let's die as soon as possible!