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1. A cruel fact: in interpersonal communication, almost no one likes cowardly people. If you behave nervously, timidly, humble, and likable, then you will suffer the deepest malice in the world.
Only a tough attitude and great strength can keep you safe.
2. In interpersonal communication, people will constantly test your bottom line to see what kind of person you are. They won't stop until they touch your bottom line and your nails, so you can too. Raise your bottom line a little higher, and if it touches your bottom line, fight back resolutely.
1.If someone verbally attacks you and offends you, you should fight back on the spot. Otherwise, he will repeat the same trick next time, and there will be no psychological pressure.
To make matters worse, if you don't fight back, there's a good chance that those present will follow suit, and it's easy for everyone to offend you because they know your weaknesses.
2. Don't be easily ordered or controlled. When you first make contact, some people (especially women) always ask you to close the door, pour a glass of water, and bring something ......They're just testing your control (maybe they don't even realize it's a test). When you are temporary, they will ask you more and more.
At the end of the day, you're a bad person, and they won't thank you in their hearts.
3.How to reject someone? One is to find all kinds of excuses:
I don't have time right now, I have other things to do......Be firm and elegant in tone, don't hesitate, it's your fault not to help him. The most important point is that when you reject someone, don't look at the other person's reaction. The second is to follow the principle of value exchange.
If someone asks you for help, then you also ask him for help. For example: "Go and help me carry something", "Okay, my cup is empty, you fill it for me", if he agrees, you can help.
If he refuses, you have a good reason to refuse him.
4. Be a strong person.
5. Friendship without strength will not be cherished. People respect you, not because of your kindness, but because of your strength. So try to improve your strength.
6. Care more about your own feelings and less cater to others.
7. Have the courage to express your opinions, and don't be afraid that your opinions will conflict with others. Being obedient will only make people look down on you.
8. Struggle for peace, peace will exist; If you seek peace through compromise, then peace will disappear. The same applies to relationships. Your peace with others should not presuppose your tolerance.
9.Don't be afraid of conflict. In interpersonal interactions, conflict is inevitable. It's not your fault, it's normal. You have to get used to this normalcy and be a winner. People will only respect the winners.
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A "good talker" person in life is easy to be bullied, if you respond to anyone's needs, others will think that you should help him, and if you don't help him, he will get angry. Such a person should learn to refuse tactfully.
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Kind, unassertive, and always considerate of others; They should learn to respect and love themselves, learn to say no in their dealings with others, and refuse unreasonable demands from others.
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People who are particularly honest, timid, and cowardly in interpersonal communication will often be bullied by others, because people who are particularly low will also be ignored and bullied by others; Such a person should improve his ability more in life, to make himself better, better, and stronger, so that others will not dare to bully you.
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Poor communication skills, I understand that popularity is relatively poor.
Some of them are reflected in expression, in fact, they have relatively low emotional intelligence, they hurt people as soon as they say it, or they can't grasp the degree of joking, they don't understand the world, and they don't know how to be a person.
Some of them are embodied in doing things, they don't know the etiquette, the priority, and it is easy to offend people.
The highest standard of being a human being is to do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Hold the bottom line. Don't let your unlimited tolerance become the capital of others bullying you, if you are honest to the point that you have no bottom line, it will become a habit for others to bully you. You should let others know that your bottom line is in **, what you resolutely cannot tolerate, and when you touch your bottom line, you must resist appropriately and show your anger.
If a person cares too much about the feelings of others, when he encounters things, he is easy to be taken advantage of by others, looking ahead, indecisive, timid, and it is difficult to bring out his best state. This kind of person is easy to miss the opportunity, be bullied by others, and be taken advantage of by others.
If a person is not aggressive, utilitarian, or competitive, he will have no competitive advantage in the workplace. They are very "Buddhist", they are at peace with what they encounter, they do not fight or grab, they go with the flow, they are complacent and stop moving forward when they get a little success, they are very unenterprising, it is difficult to get the appreciation of the boss, and they cannot show their strength in the workplace.
It's not because of your independent personality, it's still an introvert that makes you feel like you don't want to communicate with others. The reality is that although the group tends to be blind at times, there are many drawbacks. But the group also has a lot of power and can give people a sense of security.
For example, if you dance with a group of people in a dance studio, you will be naturally bold, and you will also be able to learn from other students. If you dance by yourself, you will feel very thin and there will always be a feeling that something is wrong.
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People with poor communication skills can't express themselves, and others don't know what kind of person he is, so he is particularly vulnerable to bullying.
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It's because these people seem to be very honest, and they are also more introverted, so they are easy to be bullied.
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Personally, I want to say, I am the same person as you, so it is difficult to make special changes, here I might as well talk about the pit I have fallen, for the subject's reference, and you will pay more attention in the future.
1. Draw your own boundaries
Colleague bullies because your boundaries are not obvious, in fact, this individual has now learned the method. It is to print out your job responsibilities, stick them on the table, or put them in your own folder, and take them out often. If a colleague asks me to do something outside of my job, I take out the most important things in my responsibilities and say, "Oh, what am I doing?"
There is also the matter of not being too enthusiastic about colleagues, in fact, people with a pleasing personality are those who ask you to work, and you run over with a fart, so you don't need to be too enthusiastic, and focus on your own things, which can also improve work efficiency.
2. Make yourself a little duller
Low emotional intelligence is actually just because you are more sensitive. Let's talk about an extreme case, a former director mistakenly cut down some trees planted by his former former leaders, and the hunger leak was in a state-owned enterprise, and his life has been very sad since then. But then he let go, and when he encountered problems, he was always very sensitive before, and he was afraid that he would not be able to do well.
Then the leader said, no one pointed out that it was about you, so you should be big and leave it alone. So make yourself blunt and be noticeable, and don't worry about so many things. Focusing on the project you're working on will also make the dullness noticeable.
When you encounter something that makes you unhappy, vent it as soon as possible, there are many ways to vent, and sometimes you don't need to lose your temper。For example, if a colleague angers you, you laugh and say, "Oh, I'm so sad that you say that, and I think about what to do to make the project better."
If you are scolded by the boss, don't rush to explain and argue first, of course, you are also anxious, but persuade yourself to listen, and then say, well, how will I do it. Naturally, he will not jump to his feet and continue to curse. But we are still very angry when we go back to our seats, so let's vent ourselves first, go downstairs, and talk to a good friend.
It's all okay, but don't talk to the same rotten thing, this is something to remember.
To sum up, in fact, a person's personality is difficult to change, but we can improve ourselves, so just step by step, adjust your emotions, weak is weak, what are you afraid of, swallow back the words, just smile and say, you will find that you will be much happier.
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There is no point of view and no assertiveness, no matter what the other party says, he feels that what the other party says is particularly correct, even if the group chain knows that what the other party says is incorrect, he will not take the initiative to say it. If you encounter something you don't like or a mess, you should refuse, and you should boldly say it out.
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People who are always bullied often don't look very good-looking, touch fish, are not strong, envy likes to stammer others, or do a lot of things slowly, I think you must talk to others more, try to care more about your workplace image.
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The personality is relatively cowardly, the work hole is incapacitated, the wax is relatively low, there is no judgment ability of his own, he will be rejected by others, and his social skills are not good. We must improve our market ability, make more friends with others, and exchange work experience with others, so as to prevent being bullied and make ourselves a better person.
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These people's personalities are very soft and weak, and they don't want to offend other people's friends and are easy to be bullied. You should usually develop a very good relationship with others, so that you can avoid becoming such a person. Friendly rent.
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Very honest.,There's no own opinion.,There's no sudden ability to answer yourself.,Whatever others say.,Yu Rotten Hui doesn't have his own opinions.。 In the workplace, you must have your own judgment ability, and make yourself a more assertive person or person, and become a very confident person, so that you will not be bullied by others.
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People who are not self-reliant are not social, and they are easy to be bullied. If he is strong enough, with a large body tonnage and large muscles, no one is generally willing to provoke him.
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What kind of people are easy to be bullied, and what kind of personality is easy to be bullied? Those who must be honest are easy to be bullied. And good people bully. People are good and are deceived by others.
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Introverts in general are prone to bullying. There is no basis for speaking. People are more honest.
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In this society, it is easy for honest people to be honest. It's easy for people who have a negative personality to be too weak. Being bullied, so people can't be too honest, let alone too weak.
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What kind of people are easy to be bullied, and what kind of personality is easy to be bullied, tell you that introverted and timid people are the main group of bullied.
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What kind of people are easily bullied? What qualities? It's still a problem to do well, but you don't want to bully others, and if you do this, it's easy to be bullied.
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What kind of people are easily bullied? What personality is easy to be bullied? Honest people are easy to be bullied, and introverts love to be bullied.
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In today's society, honest people will be bullied, and then introverts will be bullied, this is a social circle.
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They are generally good people in the workplace, and they will only accept them silently if they don't know how to refuse other people's requests, they are not good at expressing their own ideas, and they are more cowardly.
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Such people are generally more introverted, do not like to communicate very much, do not express themselves, are easy to make people feel very good bullies, and are easy to swallow their anger, and do not fight for their own rights and interests.
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People who are always bullied in the workplace are generally more honest. They are often timid and afraid of things and don't like to cause trouble. Always very cowardly, such a person generally can't make a big deal.
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What are the personality traits of those who are always bullied by others in the workplace?
People who are very easy to be bullied usually don't know how to refuse. When others ask him for help, he avoids it, even if he is busy now, he will grit his teeth. That will give others the illusion that this kind of person is good-tempered, and for some people, a good temper is equivalent to a good bully.
It is not easy to find this kind of person to do things, and what psychological burden is taken for granted. In the long run, you will understand that you will not refuse to ask you to do something, and then no matter how big or small it is, it will be thrown to you to do. People who are too good-tempered and overly kind-hearted are also very easy to be bullied by others.
As a person, you need to be kind-hearted, but it is not good to be too kind-hearted. Being too kind-hearted will make people feel that the cost of bullying you is relatively low, because you will rarely resist. Those who do so are usually scapegoats.
It is necessary to understand that being kind-hearted is too expensive, and you have to be kind to some people, and you don't have to be too kind to treacherous villains. If you are kind-hearted, they will be insatiable.
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Now the honest man is actually a derogatory term, and at present, through the baptism of society, more or less practical experience has been obtained. Repaying virtue with grievances has been a routine since ancient times, and in today's workplace and life, only by making yourself strong and smart can you not be bullied. I pay more attention to a person's EQ IQ, because this is related to a lot of experience, so if you want not to be bullied by others, high EQ will make you do things auspiciously!
There is an old Chinese saying: repay virtue with grievances, Ma Shan is bullied by others. If it is a real person, it is indeed very easy to be bullied at work.
You can take a look at these new employees who have just entered the company, after all, they are new employees, they are all so convergent, and they all look a little very honest.
People who suffer big losses are often there, and people often suffer big losses. This is caused by the system and the environment, shouting every day, not allowing honest people to suffer. But in fact, people have always suffered a big loss.
Because, the real people, everyone knows, do not rob, can only work without being known, it is very easy to be forgotten. People who take advantage of loopholes can speak well, will mainly perform, and are often said to be smart and clever, and are widely praised. Actually, at heart, we all like honest people.
Real people, kind-hearted, honest and trustworthy, can make friends, and work tirelessly. However, if the salary and treatment are not implemented for real people, this is oppression and unfairness. I feel that at work, the novice is coming, and the trivial and broken things will be thrown to the novice to do, I used to be like this in a company, the old employees were empty, and the leading cadres explained something, and after a while, it was handed over to me I couldn't bear it, <>
On the day off, I complained to my sisters, in exchange for a sentence of forbearance, the sky was clear, and I thought that there would only be broken waves and no open sky below. The more aggrieved you are, the more you will think that you are good at bullying, sometimes you just have to be tougher, and if you are bullied, you will go back, and you will not win the newspaper. And you must learn to refuse, in the workplace, you don't know how to refuse to get tired and unflattering, and you are often bullied.
Report more and diligently enter the circle of leading cadres. Getting along with leaders is a science. If you want not to be bullied, you need to enter the circle of leading cadres, and the only way is to report more.
If you have a good attitude, have a lot of touches, and have a good performance, the leading cadres will treat you as their own. Learn to say no. Kind-hearted, not wrong in itself, <>
But being too kind is a personality defect. To repay virtue with grievances, Ma is good at being ridden, this is a very superficial truth. If you want not to be bullied in the workplace, you need to have a hard shell outside your kind heart, you must know how to express your dissatisfaction, and you must be brave enough to shout "no" when you encounter unfair wages.
Sharpen your professional skills. In the final analysis, when you first enter the workplace, you still have to rely on your level of speech, and if you don't have the ability to work, you don't have to expect any fairness and self-esteem. Therefore, you need to study more and work hard to improve your work ability.
And, to be a caring person, although you can't not make mistakes, you must make fewer mistakes. If you have a core concept that no one can replace, will the leading cadres continue to bully you?
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