Children always pretend to be sick and don t want to go to school, should parents believe it or not?

Updated on psychology 2024-07-10
29 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    When your child says he is not feeling well, is his face pale and his hands and feet cold? Does your child vomit and get hot? Is there any inflammation and redness on the surface of your child's body?

    Does your child feel dizzy and unsteady on his feet? If your child has one or more symptoms, parents can give your child a break and continue to be observed. Is the time when the child is uncomfortable fixed?

    For example, does your child say they are uncomfortable every morning at school time? Does your child say that his hands hurt every time he goes out to practice the piano? Does your child complain of a stomachache every time he has to clean up his toys?

    If the frequency is frequent and the duration of each discomfort is more fixed, then parents can remain skeptical for a while.

    If the child does not want to go to school a little often, and the child does seem unwell, but the doctor cannot find the reason for the child's discomfort, then there is an 80%-90% probability that it is due to psychological problems. Such as stress, separation anxiety, bullying, ......When your child's behavior is inconsistent with the real illness and behaves frequently, you should not only communicate with the school teacher, but also ask the teacher to help observe the child's performance in school, whether the child has encountered difficulties or interpersonal problems, whether the child is bullied, etc. After all these factors are ruled out, then you can basically conclude that the child is just "feigning illness" for some reason.

    Many children subconsciously choose to avoid interpersonal unhappiness at school or learning difficulties. Going to school is often considered by parents to be something that children cannot afford to do, and sometimes children avoid school by pretending to be sick in order to achieve the goal of staying at home more easily.

    A child's illness is a disaster for families. I want to be sick for my child. However, in some families, children already know that illness is a way to escape something they don't like, or an opportunity to get special care.

    Pretending to be sick can be a child's distress signal or an attempt to seek excessive attention. In both cases, it is important to process the beliefs behind the child's behavior while dealing with it.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    If your child is pretending to be sick and not going to school, parents should tell him about the importance of studying and communicate with him more about why he does not want to go to school. Give him more rewards for his studies and make him love school.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Children always pretend to be sick and do not want to go to school, parents should communicate with the child why he does not want to go to school, and give him some rewards as long as he does well in his studies. Also tell him about the importance of reading.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I don't think it should be believed, because this will encourage the child's arrogance to pretend to be sick, and it will be more frequent in the future.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    At this time, you should take the child to the doctor, saying that if he does not go to school, the doctor will give him an injection, and he will not pretend to be sick immediately.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Be sure to communicate with your child calmly, make your child aware of the importance of going to school, encourage your child, make an agreement with your child, and buy gifts or snacks for your child after school.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    At this time, you can tell your child that you want to take him to the hospital for injections, or you can give your child some medicine. Then it's okay to send your child to school.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    In such a situation, I think parents should communicate with their children in a timely manner, do not beat and scold their children, and should actively guide their children to make them realize the importance of learning, and at the same time, they should also let their children not lie.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    You don't want to go to school, so what are you going to do at home? You don't study, you pretend to be sick, you pretend to be one day and pretend to be two days. Can it be a long time? Therefore, it is better to find a way to go to school, pretending to be sick will not solve the problem.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I really can't do it, it's all a tiring part-time job anyway.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Sorry, I can't provide this information.

    Faking illness is an immoral and illegal act that can cause harm and suffering to others. If you have any other questions or need help, please feel free to let me know.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Children pretend to be sick and do not go to school, in fact, many parents have a headache, and even many parents will encounter a problem, because the child does not want to go to school, he will think of all kinds of reasons and refuse to go to school.

    For example, when taking care of him at home, you must pay attention to whether he is really pretending to be sick, and some parents will be very anxious as long as they hear that their child is pretending to be sick, and even ask for leave to take care of their children. That's also very normal, but when we take care of the child, we can let the child take medicine, most of the children are more resistant to taking medicine, but at this time, we let him take medicine, it is very likely that he will show his original form. Therefore, if parents want to solve the phenomenon that their children love to pretend to be sick, they can let their children take medicine when they are sick.

    If you are sick, you have to take medicine, which is actually very normal, so parents should not think that there is any problem, and if the child is really not sick, he may not take medicine, because most children are resistant to taking medicine, and we just need to take some pills that do not have much impact on the child's body and give him it. If the child refuses to take medicine, it means that he is not sick, then the problem will be solved naturally, and parents can send him to school with confidence.

    In fact, in this matter, there will be a butterfly effect, that is, when he pretends to be sick and does not go to school, then he will definitely delay his study course, and then his academic performance will decline, which is a series of butterfly effects. For example, when his grades dropped, we asked him why he fell, and then let him find his own reason, if he couldn't say it himself, then we could wake him up and ask him if he didn't go to school at that time, so he couldn't keep up with the following classes. When he learns to think about this problem on his own, in fact, the purpose of parents has been achieved.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    At this time, he should be educated, and he must be allowed to go to school obediently. Because this situation is very serious, if you indulge him now, it will be difficult to manage in the future.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I think the best thing to do is to criticize the child seriously and let the child know that pretending to be sick is a wrong thing to do, so that he will correct it.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I think the best way to do this is through inducement, for example, telling the child to go to school honestly that he will get a reward, so that the child will not feign illness.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    At such times, education must be obediently schooled. Because this kind of environment is very serious, now indulge in words, and from now on it will not matter.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    I think that in such a situation, parents should understand their children's real thoughts and then take corresponding solutions to specific problems.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    The teacher called me today and said that the child was sick, let me send him to the hospital to see, today I will take a day off for a day, when I received the child, he told me that he was not sick, he did not go to the hospital, he lied and did not want to go to school, I was very angry after hearing it, scolded him, he did not speak, how should the junior high school student pretend to be sick and not go to school? The first year of junior high school, boy. Children in junior high school are in the rebellious period of adolescence.

    All kinds of cleverness can't be guarded against. They often touch the bottom line of human tolerance. It's a real headache. This is the time when the patience of parents is really tested. Parents must correct their children's behavior in time when they encounter their children being smart and lying to their parents.

    What should I do if a junior high school student pretends to be sick and doesn't go to school?

    1.Don't blame the child

    The principle of no responsibility, sit down and have a good talk with the child. Tell your child how worried and sad you are when he doesn't go to school. It's also understandable that children use this choice as a last resort.

    In short, describe your feelings objectively while guiding your child to express their true feelings.

    2.Listen to the kids

    Just listen quietly and let the children vividly express their true thoughts and feelings. Don't interrupt, just listen, empathize at the right time, and make your child feel that you are listening and feel sorry for him.

    3.Find out why

    Parents must communicate with their child about why he does not go to school. If you are being bullied, you should talk to your teacher. If your child is pretending to be sick, you can take your child to the doctor for an injection to see how your child reacts.

    Usually, the child is very afraid of injections, and the child will be very resistant, and he will not dare to take the injection again next time.

    4.Communicate with teachers

    Parents should take the initiative to contact the class teacher to understand the cause of the problem in a timely manner, give priority to encouraging their children, and give them moral support. If conditions permit, you can also organize children to participate in group activities to enhance relationships with teachers and classmates and reduce children's resistance. As parents, we should all be mindful of this and tell our children that it is wrong to do so.

    You can say it when you're sick, but you can't lie about it. If you don't want to go to school, you can apply for a leave of absence, but lying is absolutely not allowed!

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Communicate positively. In the face of junior high school students pretending to be sick and not going to school, parents should not shout when they get up, but must communicate calmly and patiently with their children to understand the reasons why they do not go to school. It cannot be treated in an extreme way.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Then tell your child directly. You can't pretend to be sick. Why don't you want to go to school? Then let your child go to school, let him tell you what he thinks, and if there is no problem, then he should go to school.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    The child's lies should be exposed, the child should not be allowed to succeed, if he succeeds once, he will do it often in the future, and the child must be educated well.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Parents need to contact the teacher first to ask the child's performance in school, whether there is anything unspeakable and does not want to go to school, know the reason to prescribe the right medicine, parents must not blindly force the child, so as not to cause irreparable consequences.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    There are indeed cases where a child pretends to be sick and does not want to go to school; I think it may be true if you find that your child is blushing or sweating, but the best way to do it is to let your child develop good reading habits so that he can love school.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Observe the child's expression, if there is a trance or panic, it is lying, and see if the child's face is pale or the body surface is hot.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    We can talk to the child well, let the child take the initiative to listen, we can look at his condition and expression to see whether it is true.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Children do not like to learn, firmly believe that this is also a situation that many parents are worried about, he is not easy to do, at least interested in learning and training, careful teaching, please tutor teacher or is a tutoring agency, can be improved, but once the child does not love to learn, then it is indeed a trough cake, do not love to learn children have no intention of learning and training, at this time the most important thing is not to blame and reprimand, complain, but to find the reason, face to solve the difficulty, correctly guide the child to think, give the child the future direction. We need to be convinced that there must be a key reason why children say that.

    It may be that it is bullied by students, or even "bullied" by teachers; It may be a hazard for students to fall in love; It may be the harm of "reading useless" in social development; It may be that the basic is poor, I can't keep up with other students, and I can't find a satisfying ......He doesn't want to go to school anymore, or he has only had this idea recently, or he has always had this idea, as a parent, you should be very clear, what is the main performance of the child during this period of time? Why don't you sit down and have a good chat with your child?

    The vast majority of children do not want to go to school because they are bored with the school because of the crowd on campus, poor academic performance, and a feeling that they are passing the time. She was just bored with the school, and never thought about what she would do after she left the campus. At this time, I think we should help the child to find the reason, analyze the road after the analysis and give them a change of school, or let him change the status quo and return to school life again.

    I think we must find the deep-seated reasons why children don't want to go to school, grasp the fundamental thoughts of children not studying, improve communication in all aspects, solve difficulties, calm down children, properly handle the ideological work of relevant staff, and make final decisions to let children continue to learn. Chat with your child well, pay attention to it, be fair, and let your child open his heart; Whatever the child expresses, he allows and accepts; Meet real children. Parents should pay attention to good moral education, and can adopt some specific measures to make children change.

    There are examples on the Internet of parents who take their children out to work hard to earn money and let their children change, which can be referred to.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    In this case, parents must let the baby realize the importance of learning, and you can take the baby to the construction site to see, and the end of not learning well.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    The child pretends to be sick and does not go to school, in this case, parents should not directly dismantle it, but take the child directly to the hospital for a comprehensive examination. Including blood tests, let him know that there is a price to be paid for faking his illness.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    It is a very wrong behavior for a child to pretend to be sick and not want to go to school. Parents must stop this situation, they can communicate well with their children, and explain to him that as a student, they must go to school when they go to school, and they don't want to go to school by pretending to be sick, which is not allowed.

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