Why do some people marry well and others marry badly?

Every time I go home, I hear the most talked about by the old people in the family is whose daughter is married to a good family.

Having money is good for her, and then the girl of whose family is not well married, and she suffers very hard, and the conditions of the man's family are not good. So, why do some people marry well and others marry badly? Let me tell you what I think.

I believe that every girl wants to marry a good family like me and not worry about food and clothing for the rest of her life, in fact, why don't parents think so? Like many parents say, children can't lose at the starting line.

Above. Some people are on good terms themselves, some are destined for a fate, and some are premeditated for a long time. In short, there are all kinds of ways, which leads to some people marrying a good man, and some people marrying badly.

Some people say that I married well, and some people say that I married badly. The main reason for saying good is that my husband is good to me, and my parents-in-law are also honest people. said that I didn't marry well, mainly because their family had no money, I worked hard outside every day, sometimes I wanted to do two jobs, the money was not enough, no money, no house, no car, and I lived with his parents.

In fact, in everyone's heart, there are different definitions of the good and bad of marrying, maybe in the eyes of others you are happy, think that you marry well, just like those who marry a rich second generation, what we can't see is the bitterness behind them. It is said that a man will become bad as soon as he has money, but in fact, there is really nothing wrong with this, and it is his choice to marry well or not. If it were me, I'd rather laugh on a bike than cry on a BMW.

No matter whether you marry well or not, you choose it yourself, and you have to finish the road you choose on your knees, don't envy others, maybe others are envying you. toThe above is just my personal opinion, I hope it can help everyone.

Let me share my opinion.

How can I find one that satisfies me? The topic is 10 million, which is not very clear. But I still feel a little bit of a trace, I have always felt that men and women should not enter the marriage hall too early, at least for a year and a half, why?

In short, this is a good thing, testing the degree of tolerance and mutual appreciation between the two. For example, some people in love, like me, even try to make the most perfect side possible, that is, in a short time, the poor can also pretend to have money and take you to a big meal in a three-star hotel or more, can, of course, but he can take it after a long time, not short? However, during the period of crazy love of women, with zero IQ, they met the plot of all Korean dramas, and suddenly they had a big belly, so they got married.

If you want to find a handsome, talented, rich, tolerant, and considerate man, what kind of capital do you have to make him like you and like you all the time? Is it because you're quirky that you like it? What can you give him?

Don't talk about 50 million in your familyThat's not yours, that's not your right to brag, it's not your capital. That kind of man will also meet a lot of good women in normal times, so will you feel safe? At the moment, it feels like your husband is a bit poor, but it's also relative.

People rely on themselves to support their families, not their families. Your husband already has the ability to make money, and your marriage is very happy regardless of the family. You can see that most people want to show the good side in front of outsiders, but in other aspects, the relationship between her and her mother-in-law, and the conflict between her and her husband, you understand?

There are good and bad things that are not standard, and do not take what others call the standard quantization, such as people are rich and handsome. People end up living in the real world, rather than being immersed in the unreal, including the idea of the golden key and the diamond.

Marrying well doesn't mean that women are really bad. It shows that women have vision and are blessed. Marrying well is not about marrying a rich man, but about marrying someone who can give you a sense of security.

If you live in a villa and cry every day, you will not enter heaven but hell. A woman who really marries well is a woman who lives in a simple house but is coaxed like a stupid bird by her husband. I love you for a while, spoil you for a lifetime, and lie to you for a lifetime.

In fact, only those who have come here know that a good life is really not about how much money you have, but about being carefree and worry-free.

No, I think only good women can marry well.

My point of view is: if a girl wants to marry well, she must first be good for herself. Marrying well may not be able to live well, but living well must be marrying well.

What is "marrying well".

What does it mean to be "well married"? Everyone has different standards.

1.If you marry a rich man, is it good to marry? Many people think so.

But I don't think marrying a rich man is necessarily a good marriage.

Good economic conditions can better meet one's material needs, but it may not make oneself happy.

If a man often commits domestic violence against you while satisfying your material needs, or hooks up with women outside, are you really willing to sit in a BMW and cry alone every day?

Such a view of happiness is distorted, and people's happiness must have a certain material basis, but the feeling of happiness is mainly spiritual.

Therefore, I think it is more important to marry a good person than to marry a good money.

2.People who are suitable for themselves can bring happiness to themselves, and they are good to marry.

If the economic conditions are good, you can only satisfy your own vanity, and only when you are good can you enjoy true happiness.

No, it means that the girl has a good vision, and at the same time, the blessing is also good. Everyone wants to marry well, so be sure to keep your eyes peeled when choosing a partner.

1. The cost of marriage is too high.

Now that I am married, the house and car are already standard. The first question when you go on a blind date is whether you have a room, not only the girl's request, but also the girl's parents, and of course, the matchmaker's request. The attitude of having a house and not having a house in the eyes of matchmakers is really completely different.

If you don't have a house, the matchmaker has always been me, and I don't have any good resources here, so I don't want to help you pay attention to it. When you have a room, the matchmaker immediately takes out a bunch of girl resources for you to choose, and if one doesn't work, arrange the next one.

But for young people, without the help of their families, there are a few people who can really afford to buy a house on their own. If you want to have a house and a car in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, you really can't work for a few years. In second-, third- and fourth-tier cities, it is also very difficult to buy a house or a car compared to the wages of young people.

In the face of the current high housing prices, I believe that many people, like me, have no hope of struggle, look at their balance and look at the ** of the house, and instantly feel the terrible gap between the rich and the poor. Of course, there are bride prices, wedding rings, banquets, etc., everything needs money, and in this era, no money is really suitable for anyone. The cost of getting married is too high.

2. There are too many requirements for marriage.

As I get older, I find it harder and harder to find a partner because of the more and more requirements I have. A series of requirements such as height, appearance, work, family situation, etc. It's basically impossible to really find satisfaction, and it's especially difficult to find someone who is about the same.

Marriage is different from love, in addition to your own requirements, there are also various requirements of your parents. If you want to get married, it becomes very realistic, not only considering whether you have a car and a house now, but also considering a series of issues such as supporting your family after marriage, providing for the elderly, raising children, and so on. Sometimes it's harder to get married if you think about it too much, it's better when you're young, it's good to fool a stupid person to get married, the older you get, the more you worry, and the harder it is to get off the single in the end.

3. It is difficult to find a marriage partner.

The older I get, the more difficult it is to find that most of the people I can know around me are married, and it becomes more and more difficult to find suitable and satisfactory people. I am usually busy with work and overtime, and my life trajectory is only one line between the company and my home. Basic blind date has become the only way to get rid of singles.

But every time a blind date is introduced, there are crooked melons and cracked dates, and many girls are ugly and have special requirements.

Basically, now on a blind date, as long as you are single, you will pull it out to meet, and cast a wide net looking forward to meeting a blind person who takes a fancy to me. But the cost of blind dates is also very high, eating and watching movies cost money, and many of them are not followed when they meet, and blind dates are also a lot of expenses for a year. I really feel that the older I get, it's too difficult to get off the list.

4. The impact of the general environment.

Today's society is too impetuous and realistic. There are more divorces than marriages. Now that there are more and more older men and women, many people feel that it is normal not to get married, and more and more people would rather choose to be single than find a partner to marry.

Most of the girls I've been on a blind date with are in their 30s and still feel that they are still young and have no desire to find a partner. It's true that the older the girl, the more problems there are.

Is it difficult to marry because of your own vision? But I'm not in favor of compromise. Why bother to grieve yourself?

Nowadays, many young people are under too much pressure to cope with on their own, so why bother to let people accompany them? Marriage is also fate. As long as you meet the right one, nothing can stop it!

It can't be said that marrying someone is a difficult thing, it can only be said that your requirements for the object are too high, so it feels difficult to marry.

For women who marry far away, Stuffy Yuan is the biggest in this problem.

Compromise. Every parent doesn't want their daughter to marry far away, and women before marriage always can't understand their parents' thoughts too much, they all think that marrying far away is nothing, but the difficulty is indeed that life brings them involuntarily.

Girls are always the one who makes concessions in marriage, and this rule has long been written into everyone's subconscious in thousands of years of traditional culture. Once a woman gets married, it means saying goodbye to her mother's family, saying goodbye to her past self, thinking that she is married to happiness, but in fact, she is married to a long period of loneliness.

The water spilled by the married daughter is a stereotypical rule that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the Chinese people.

Nowadays, unlike a few decades ago, most families have several children, and even if one of them is not there on the day of reunion, it will not seem too cold. But nowadays there are more and more single-child families, and every child has been pampered since childhood, and it is difficult for the elderly to accept it from the bottom of their hearts when they suddenly leave when they grow up, which is why the contradiction of who to spend the New Year at is becoming more and more intense.

Before marriage, people will naively think that love can overcome everything, and life after marriage is still a matter of rules. At the wedding, he swore that "he will be where he is", but the times will always be changed, and there will always be a little loosening of the original deep-rooted ideas.

Some things just can't have it both ways, and no matter how you choose, you will still end up in a dilemma and will not get a satisfactory result. Not all questions will have a fixed answer, and not all enthusiasm should be answered.

The husband and wife may be able to set a rule in advance on this matter, but it is not suitable to add some rules and regulations to future marriages, which will do more harm than good to the health of the marriage. Perhaps the best thing for both husband and wife to do when facing this problem is to be understanding and tolerant, and make the greatest concessions, and maybe the problem can be solved.