Do you still have to talk to a good friend about your emotional problems?

Your questions are actually a bit one-sided, whether you want to tell others about your emotional problems depends entirely on how you look at them Let me tell you a few of my personal opinions

Regarding the problem of confiding in you, I think it is actually necessary sometimes, not only emotional problems, but also all kinds of troubles that need to be confided, and telling others about their troubles is not to be able to solve the problem, because people are social animals, and we all have a generalized fear of loneliness in our subconscious, so when we tell our troubles to others, no matter what kind of person the other party is, our hearts will be more or less relaxed because of the category of the person being confided. This phenomenon has given birth to the current profession of psychiatrist in human beings, so I think it is very desirable for you to confide in your friends, and some things are held back for too long, and if the psychological quality is not particularly good, there will be some large and small psychological problems, and if it is serious, it may even be suffocated

Secondly, I want to talk about the problem of your friend There will be all kinds of friends in people's lives, and we all have to know that these friends do not exist for us, so we need to discern the meaning of each friend to us Some friends are extroverts, some are introverts, some are only suitable for general friendships, and some are worth our lives to maintain this friendship. So before you want to confide in someone, you must first make it clear whether what you want to say needs to be kept secret by friends For example, you say that the emotional problem, you don't want to be known by other people, you should choose a friend you trust and understand, if you know that it is difficult for her to keep a secret for you, then there is no need to tell her, and there is no need to be afraid of hurting your friendship, real friends need to understand each other, if this is difficult to tolerate, Then she really isn't very suitable to be your true friend, in other words, she is not worthy of your cherishment. Also, to have a good relationship, you don't have to tell each other your secrets to become good friends

Sometimes these things just make sense at all, and it's not helpful to say too much, and it's not so easy to explain it clearly, and everything is variable, and how to do it best depends on how you adapt to it.

Well, that's all I can say, I hope it helps you a little.

Don't pay too much attention to the outside world, remember that people live for themselves

Talk to your trusted best friend.

There is always someone to talk to.

Otherwise, it will be very uncomfortable to be stuffy in your heart.

There are many ways to build a good relationship, and it doesn't have to be a secret exchange.

As long as you are sincere about your friends, you can still find good friends.

If a friend is not particularly handy in dealing with emotional issues, he can continue to be good friends with his friend, which is not a factor for you to give up friendship, because everyone may be good at it, and some people are rough and may be clumsy when maintaining relationships. Not everyone will be able to deal with interpersonal relationships at first, so with the accumulation of time and the continuous experimentation, it will slowly deal with it.

A friend can't deal with emotional problems well, but he can handle the relationship with friends well, such a person is still worth befriending, and others can't help with emotional problems. Not all people have the same relationship problems, and people's psychology is the most complex, so others can't help much, but that doesn't stop it from being your best friend.

I think even if it's a friend, if you can't handle relationship problems well, I think it's okay to be friends with him, and there is no big conflict between you and your words.

You're not in a relationship with him, he can't handle it well, what does it have to do with you, since you're his friend. Then you should help him deal with the problem. After all, the bystanders are clear.

If a friend can't handle emotional problems well, it's a matter for the friend himself, and it doesn't affect your friendship.

Some. And I can also tell you that all people have times when they are very powerless in the face of feelings.

This is a very normal situation.

You know, no one can do it, solve all problems perfectly. What's more, emotional problems are often not solved by one person, and many times this involves you, including you, and the second or even a third party is involved. It is inevitable to encounter a situation of extreme powerlessness.

So why can't we solve all emotional problems perfectly? There are three kinds of problems that tend to be encountered here.

1.Everyone has a period of burnout, and it is difficult to maintain a high level of self-efficacy for a long time.

2.There will be a misunderstanding between each other, and communication will not be perfect.

3.With different positions, there are many things that cannot be agreed upon.

So why do you say that?

1.Why is it so hard to maintain a high level of self-efficacy?

First of all, I believe that in your daily life, you will definitely find that sometimes, the whole person will be very depressed, and we often say that it is very "sad". This is because psychologically speaking, people's emotions are in a state of fluctuation. Negative emotions will continue to pile up in your heart, and one day they will explode.

2.Why is cognitive communication biased?

And in daily life, there will always be barriers and inconveniences in your communication with others, and the more you face emotional problems, the more difficult you will find it to communicate. So it often happens that the problems you face don't go in the direction you want, and then cause you great trouble. In this case, it is normal for you to feel powerless.

3.What are the problems caused by different positions?

To a large extent, the difficulty of communication is due to the fact that your positions are not consistent. To give a very simple example, I believe that many people have encountered the question of whose parents' house to go to when they take annual leave. When you look at this from your own point of view.

You will find that there are enough good reasons to support your choice. But your partner also has plenty of excuses for this. Often, in the end, there is no unity.

I believe that in your life, this phenomenon is not uncommon, and often at this time it is difficult for you to say which one on both sides has done wrong. However, the results are always unsatisfactory, and in this case, it is particularly powerless.

So, in the face of some thorny relationship problems, there is no other way than to sit back and watch things deteriorate? Of course not, I often say that there is no problem that cannot be solved, only the problem of not finding the right way. As we said earlier, it's normal for you to feel powerless about relationship issues sometimes.

But after powerlessness, how to solve the problem and get out of the dilemma of powerlessness is the most important.

In fact, when you are particularly powerless in the face of relationship problems, it is often because you can't solve them. The problems that can be solved will not make you feel powerless. So since the problem can't be solved, why don't you change the angle and downplay the problem?

The problem exists objectively, but your mentality is a subjective cognition.

To sum it up, when you can't solve the objective problem that makes you feel powerless. You can tune.

If a friend who had a good relationship with you before suddenly told you about emotional problems, then it is obvious that this friend of yours has encountered a certain amount of confusion or confusion in the feeling of falling in love but does not know who can help him, so he will find you, in this case, if you can enlighten this friend of yours, or if you can help him and find the right answer, then you can do your best to help him, but if you don't know how to help him, Then you should tell him that the bell must be tied to the bell, and he needs to think about what kind of state he is in in this relationship and what kind of expectations he has for this relationship, so that he can really find the answer and get rid of his troubles.

Be silent. Don't get involved in the emotional affairs of friends, and it has nothing to do with you whether you break up or not. Otherwise, if something goes wrong, it will be bad for you, Liang Zhuang doesn't ask or answer, and he has a sense of boundary. It's okay to give advice, don't force it to accept.

If you don't feel anything about this good friend, you can leave the topic out of the way. Or Sun Zao can dismantle and tell him that you are not interested in this topic and do not want to do it.

Indeed, in my life, I have friends who have known each other for a long time, but the first call is not often in contact now, and occasionally I will contact him, but such contact is becoming less and less, maybe there will not be a contact once in a year or two, so I think most people are the same as me, there are people who know, but the friendship is no longer there, each has its own life, if there is no intersection with each other, there is no value, maybe the contact will be less and less.

Maybe real friends never need to stick together all the time, and they don't have to talk about everything after they have done something great together.

It's that when you're proud, she's happy for you from the bottom of her heart.

You fall, and she's the first to run and help you up.

You admire her from the bottom of your heart, and she is also sincere to you and never pretends.

You support each other's decisions, and even if they are wrong, you have to accompany each other to complete them.

Lovers may be replaced, playmates may change at any time, but you know that there is one person who no one can replace.

When I'm tired of everything, I think of you. The thought that you are living and existing somewhere in the world makes me willing to endure everything. Your presence is important to me. ”

There are fewer and fewer good friends, but good friends are also getting better.

So in my impression, I can have friends who have known each other for seven years, and there is no broken contact, but friendship can't be talked about, and it's impossible to be together every day, so I think the feelings between friends now can only be said to be acquaintance and not friendship, because people are getting farther and farther away now, and this is the case for most people.

It's not just a matter of knowing each other, everyone and every skinned person's friendship is far and near, deep and shallow, of course, the other party has to fight you as a friend, otherwise you will only be amorous. People will still make friends!