What is the experience of a daughter in law who would rather go to work than take care of her childr

This kind of woman still has her own ideas, my wife just went to work after maternity leave, she said that if women want to be independent, they must first be financially independent, otherwise it is empty talk. A woman is not an appendage of a man, she should be self-respecting and self-reliant, and she should not blindly rely on her husband, in case she breaks up in the future, she will have nothing, which is also inhumane. As for who will take care of the child, it is up to the husband and wife to negotiate and settle, so I have always respected her choice.

I'm that kind of woman, because I don't want to be confined to a small family, I want to contribute to everyone. If we were at home with the kids, we didn't go out and explore. Then our vision will only stay in the present and around you, without our own unique opinions, can not broaden our horizons, so that we have no own ideas, thinking is lagging behind the society, because the outside world is colorful, we can only see more things when we practice outside.

If we are confined to our own home with children, then we may never mature, and we will only focus on our husbands and our own children.

I think that children should also be brought, then they should be pro, work should also be done, let go first, watch the family talk, someone will bring to work, a happy life is priceless, not a comparison of money! Tell a story here, there is a couple, who have nothing to work hard in Shenzhen, in order to earn money, the children don't want to, deal with it, busy with work, not to the time when the money is raised, to the time when there is money, can't give birth, deal with the children too many times, can't conceive, the big house is lived, the empty I is very empty, the luxury car starts, hundreds of millions of family wealth, but the regret is late, the family is rich, the man becomes bad, the host is supported, but the quality of education is low and can not live, the wife divorces and does not want any property! I went to find my wife again, and when the garden was about to be full, the way to marry my wife was gone, and in the event of a disaster, the people and cars were gone, and he was an orphan, all of a sudden, and the money was destined to be not a treasure!

So remember to cherish and be content! Love is happiness! If you are happy, you will be happy, and you will be comfortable and comfortable together!

You will be happy!

The son is biological, now the child is two years old, I took him for half a year after the confinement, returned to work immediately after the end of the maternity leave, and silently said to myself in my heart the day before work: I can bear the old woman, as long as I can bring me a child! Later, I did it myself, she was picky, lazy, and buried ......I put up with all these things, and when my colleagues complained about my mother-in-law, I gave them a light touch:

You can do it, you can't get used to seeing your mother-in-law, you quit your job and go home with you. Everyone will stop talking.

Because of the sense of presence. If you don't make money, it's always uncomfortable to reach out and ask for money. I am pregnant at home, although my in-laws and husband are very good to me, and my husband's salary card is on my side, but every time I swipe a sum of money, he can receive a text message.

Although I have never said anything, I can spend whatever I want, but I still feel that I am still not free, and I am very restricted. Now I come out to work by myself, the salary is not high, but it is enough for my own expenses, and I am very happy, I don't have to ask for money. I want to spend how I want to, and I have a lot of confidence.

I have a girlfriend next to me, she would rather be at home with the child than come out to work, full-time at home with the child until the age of one, this year by the in-laws do not understand and treat coldly, the husband does not care, and finally forced to choose to work. I believe that every mother will love her child very much, whether she chooses to be a stay-at-home mother or a career job, she can't help herself. There is a saying circulating on the Internet, I'm sorry for my children, I can't accompany you when I pick up my job, and I can't support you when I put down my job.

Now I am also at work, the child is in the care of my parents, I gave birth to her but can not educate her personally, witness her every step of every bit of growth, watching her grow away from myself, I am very heartbroken, but I have nothing to do.

After getting married, a woman has to take on the job of husband and child, which is what countless mothers-in-law want their daughters-in-law to do. But the reality is that women also need to be independent, and they are even more reluctant to stay at home and waste their time. The mother-in-law hopes that her daughter-in-law can be honest at home, take care of her husband, be filial to her elders, and reduce her pressure.

But the husband is not happy to see his wife living comfortably at home.

When a woman stays at home for three years, she will be completely derailed from society. Times are changing, and if you can't keep up with the rhythm, you will be eliminated by society. When a woman first gets married, she has a job and money**, so she will naturally dress up beautifully and be intellectual and generous.

But after staying in marriage for a long time, the only thing that can be discussed between a woman and a man is housework and money. Li pants from the previous dream, fall into the abyss of reality, men will change from expectations to disappointment, more and more disgusted with women's chatter. In the end, the in-laws were satisfied, but the husband was bored.

Marriage is not about marrying a "little ancestor" to disturb and guess home, no man really wants his wife to stay at home and only spend his own money. The in-laws want their daughter-in-law to stay, because they are afraid that the daughter-in-law's ambition is too big and she has made achievements in her career, and her heart will deviate from the family. But the husband wants to have a wife who can share the burden of the family with him, instead of a person who revolves around his parents all day long, but has no financial ** and increases his own burden.

Therefore, when the wife does not go out to work and asks her husband for money, she will gradually get bored.

Deal with each other on a case-by-case basis. Women inevitably get married and have children, and if they are three years before giving birth, they can indeed consider not going to work. The child is still young and needs the company of adults, and it is the enlightenment period, so it will be better for the parents to take it with them.

At this time, the mother-in-law did not let her go to work, which is understandable, and she communicated with her husband in time to let him understand the importance.

Communicate with your in-laws to let the elderly understand that her husband is under pressure if he doesn't go to work. The in-laws feel very sorry for their son, especially after marrying their daughter-in-law, they will be more partial to their son. Because one person raises a family, this tiredness is not only the body, but also the heart.

In this regard, the daughter-in-law can start from this aspect and tell the stakes. Let the elderly understand that their daughter-in-law goes to work for the better of the family and reduce the pressure on his son.