Do you know what kind of girls are easy to marry?

Of the four sisters of the Sheng family in "Do You Know", only Rulan married low, and the other three were all married. Which one is more difficult, low marriage or high marriage? In my opinion, whether it is a high climb or a low marriage, it is not easy.

Among the three sisters of the Sheng family, many people like Minglan ending. But in fact, if we want to live happily like Minglan , we need to deal with the following problems:

1. Difficult mother-in-law and relatives from all walks of life.

2. Manage the interpersonal relationships and reputation of the ladies circle.

3. Get along with the husband's illegitimate children before marriage.

4. Manage the family's property and various industries.

5. The family is peaceful, and it is guaranteed that there are competent and trustworthy employees around you.

Minglan has handled all the above points very well, which requires a woman to have not only a big picture, but also brains and means, high emotional intelligence, and tolerance. If you want to wear the crown, you must bear its weight, if you change to Mo Lan or Rulan, the chickens and dogs will jump at home, and if you fall into the pit, you will have to drag Gu Tingye into the water. So it's not easy to climb high.

Looking at Rulan's low marriage, she is facing a mother-in-law who has limited family strength but thinks very highly of herself. The family interpersonal relationship is simple, which is suitable for a simple-minded woman like Rulan.

However, the standard of living will drop significantly by several grades, and there will inevitably be differences in the three views of relatives and friends around them, and the starting point of children in the future will be significantly lower than that of other sisters' children.

High climbing and low marriage, each has its own difficulties, and there are no two sweets in life. The core lies in a few points:

First, what do you want more?

Second, what can you want? There are two aspects here. 1.Your personality and emotional intelligence abilities. 2.Who can you choose from.

If you want to have the enviable life of Minglan , you need to have Minglan pattern, emotional intelligence, wisdom and endurance; If you want an ordinary little day like Minglan , you need to maintain a normal heart and tolerance. I am most afraid of being like Mo Lan, who wants to marry into a wealthy family, and really succeeds in carrying the happiness that I don't have.

Low marriage is more uncomfortable, the three views of two people who marry low are too different, the other party's concept is very solid, it is impossible to change anything, and two people will be very tired when they get along.

It's a bit harder to climb high. The other party's family conditions are very good, and when two people get along, the other party looks down on you and your family, and always likes to laugh at you.

Low marriage is a more difficult one, although you look more beautiful when you marry low, but the life you have lived in the past is not satisfactory, it is better to climb high, you can live a good life.

01 The mother's family is excellent.

For Hai's maiden family, the play does not use any frame of footage to introduce, but only conveys it through the characters in the play.

The first time the Hai family was mentioned, it was the little grandfather Qi Heng. On the same day, he begged his mother to go to the Sheng family to propose marriage, and made it clear that his parents wanted to marry Minglan as the eldest lady of the main house. The county lord's mother was furious, indicating that Lan was just a "concubine of a five-grade petty official family", Qi Heng hurriedly said that even the Hai family of "one door and five Hanlin" was willing to marry them.

What exactly does the "five Hanlin" refer to?

According to the data, Hanlin is the literary attendant officer around the emperor, which was established from the Tang Dynasty and began to serve people with artistic ability, but since the Tang Dynasty Xuanzong has evolved into an important institution specializing in drafting confidential edicts, and the people who serve in the academy are called Hanlin Bachelors.

How good is a five-man Hanlin? Some netizens said: Think about it, the five generations of the family are all postdoctoral professors of Tsinghua University and Peking University, do you say that cattle are not cows? It's simple and crude, and that's pretty much what it means.

The scholarly family, the noble family, the Hai family's door is unattainable by ordinary people. Hai Chaoyun is a noble woman, who has been carefully taught by her family since she was a child, and her insight and bearing are extraordinary.

02 Be honest with your family.

Hai Chaoyun was married from a high family, but before he officially married into the Sheng family, he specially prepared a gift for the girl of the Sheng family: Xiangshenghua.

In the Song Dynasty, there was a custom of hairpins, and this elegance and concern alone made people happy.

As the eldest lady said, "A lot of oil is not a bad dish, and a lot of etiquette is not to blame", Hai Chaoyun people did not enter the door, and the ceremony came first, and first won a good reputation of being a harmonious brother and sister.

When the Mo Lan incident happened, the situation forced the old grandmother to go to the Liang Mansion in person to discuss the marriage, the two sisters-in-law said to Ming Lan: After Mo Lan's accident, your brother said that the family is the most difficult to tolerate adultery, if Ming Lan and Rulan really can't get married, they will be at home for the rest of their lives, and they will be the same brother and sister harmony.

Although it was said by her husband Jun Changbai, the couple must have discussed in advance, and the Hai family did not want her grandmother to suffer and bow her head for such a pickled matter, and in her usual style of acting, her husband also believed that she could treat her sisters well.

I remember that there is another detail in the play, the Sheng family didn't know at first that Gu Tingye wanted to marry Minglan, and they mistakenly thought that he was going to marry Rulan. But after the Rulan incident, the lord of the Sheng family and the mother suggested to the old grandmother to let Minglan marry on behalf of the family in order to ensure the peace of the family.

Minglan stood outside the house and listened, at this time Hai Chaoyun came over, with a sad face, comforting her sister not to worry, Grandmother Rong thought slowly, and when she heard her in-laws' suggestion, she also said: I'm sorry for you for doing this.

I think girls who know the situation in general can marry well, because they can know what kind of position they are in, and they don't have too high expectations.

A woman who understands her own strength, and also knows her own positioning, and knows that people who are happy will marry well.