How can you chat with someone you like without being cold?

Aha, that's a hard question, and it's a quality you should have if you want to be someone's boyfriend. Looking at the idol dramas we have watched, the plots are probably the same. Men attract female protagonists with humor, aha, natural, talkative, and grasping the chat atmosphere is a big killer for boys to pursue girls.

You're going to pursue a girl just like you're going to break through a subject. We who have had student experience and know that the 10-minute examination room in the examination room is full of teachers' papers. Freedom allows you to do well in the exam only if you have fully practiced the revision.

It's the same with chasing girls. You didn't succeed, what excuse do you find to say that you are not talkative enough, you are always cold, you say that you are not romantic enough and have no sense of humor, it's all fake, you just don't take it to heart, you don't take the exam naked, it's strange if you don't fail the subject. You go to understand the girl's usual concerns, the idols she likes, what she likes to eat, what colors she likes, aha, you go to study accordingly, take good notes, no, isn't there the content of the chat.

How much do you care about her life rules, personal preferences, knowing yourself and knowing that the other side can survive every battle, no, you can make some romantic plots from it, wouldn't it be good.

Of course, these are superficial things and not worth mentioning. Now I'm going to teach the mind. As the saying goes, if you want to walk into a person, you have to go into that person's heart.

How does this work? Find out what kind of books she likes to read through her good friends, and you can also read them, and you can understand the spiritual needs of this person. You also need to browse all her spatial dynamics, Weibo, Moments, as long as it is her sincere words, you have to experience it, so that you can know what she is thinking.

And so it goes. After chatting, I interjected into it, there was no embarrassment, only inexplicable touching.

Everyone has their own favorite person, and they often want to chat with her and communicate with her, but sometimes because they like her, Want Want chats with him with a kind of psychological pressure, and when they chat, they don't know what to talk about, so they are a little embarrassed, so what are you going to do at this time? <>

I think the most important thing is to find things that both people like, things that both people like, and then communicate together, **, is the best way, for example, ask her, do I have any good movie recommendations for going to the movies today? If he recommends it, it means that he is a person who likes to watch movies, then you can start from the movie side at this time, and then you can also ask her if she has any favorite stars? Then you can also like that celebrity, and then you have more and more, and after you have a common pursuit of the topic of chat, you will have a deeper chat without being awkward.

In addition, you can also care about some other things in other ways, such as caring, as a friend, she likes your existence after a long time, you should talk to him about some other things, and occasionally you can make some small jokes with him, but remember that because you may have just met him at this time, don't joke too much, after all, you are not very good friends. When chatting with her, don't go back after a long time, in fact, you are thinking about how, don't be like that, think about what to say when the time comes, and say the same as a normal friend, because if you are too long, he will think that you don't want to chat with her, and then the tone of your voice should also pay attention to not touch his bottom line, you must know that the bottom is likely to be passed directly, I can say so much, I hope it will help you.

Talk about the topics he likes, try your best to get to know him, and ask him if he likes to watch**or listen**? You can talk a lot, try to be easy-going, relax him as if he were a friend, and don't stare at him in the eyes, it will be very embarrassing. Go with the flow, according to the gender of the other party, think of a way, if it is a girl paper, as soon as you talk to him about League of Legends, Transformers and the like, it will definitely be cold, if the other party is a boy paper, don't talk about nail clothes, bags and the like, because the big men will not be interested in these, which will make the atmosphere awkward.

We have to talk about each other's careers, students, grades, homework, and school. <>

You can talk about interesting things in life from your own point of view, and he will have the same views as you on those things, which will promote the relationship between you, and if you have different views, you can continue to talk along this teng. You can ask about some living habits appropriately, remember not to be verbose yourself, to communicate, to understand the other party's personality. Don't get carried away in your speech, but always observe the other person's expression.

If the other person starts to get impatient, give yourself a nice ending. You can talk about some understanding of love and talk about the dream lover in your heart. Through chatting, capture the common hobbies of the two and find ways to make both parties have a deep understanding of each other.

Create the best image in front of the other person, don't use foul language and speak impolitely. Both girls and boys should dress themselves well in front of the person in their minds and pay attention to their external appearance. To maintain the feeling of "seeing each other and hating to be late", to communicate further through words, if the day is dead, there will be no chance to talk.

Chatting is also a skill thing, which is essential in interpersonal communication, and it is also a small trick to increase love communication! <

1. Affirm others.

Be positive about the person you're chatting with, and don't be oppositional. For example, when the other person expresses his or her opinion on a certain matter, don't always rush to dismiss the other person's opinion.

Because this will make the other person feel very uncomfortable, as if the listener is despising the other person. You should ask for the other party's positive opinion, even if you think that some of the other party's opinions are really stupid, then it should not be too obvious.

2. Find common topics.

For example, two girls who like the same star can talk together for hours. Because they have a common hobby, there are a lot of things to talk about, and the atmosphere of chatting will become more and more lively.

So if you don't want to have a cold spot when chatting with others, then you should be prepared before chatting to find out what exactly you and the other person have in common.

3. Pull the topic to the other party.

If you want to chat without being cold, then you should try to arouse the interest of the other party and yourself as much as possible, and the simpler way is to pull the topic to the other party, let the other party keep telling what happened to you, and you just listen quietly on the side.