In the family, people who always like to bully relatives and please outsiders often have what kind

The nest is horizontal, and the outside is cowardly. There are some people who are as weak as "quails" in front of outsiders, but especially "brutal" in front of their families, comparable to tigers in the forest. No matter what it takes, I don't know how to weigh it.

Bully the soft and fear the hard, and bully when you see familiarity. A psychologist once said that no one is willing to face the powerful, and no one will forgive weak opponents.

This kind of person is often inferior and wants to be recognized by people, but because of his lack of ability, he cannot be recognized by others, so he will seek the attention of others, and behave more generally in front of his family, but he will try to please them in front of outsiders.

It may be that you feel that the people around you will be less watchful, and you need to belittle the other person to get some people to notice you.

Regarding this matter, everyone must feel that it is just that others are unreliable, and their relatives are especially reliable. Such an idea is not wrong, and satisfies everyone Qi Wang pants Chinese traditional style. Kinship is generally the standard of human affection and sophistication that is relatively solid in the development of traditional Chinese society.

However, when the times have progressed to this day, everything has changed dramatically, and the so-called kinship seems to have been able to give full play to the effects of the past. What's more, some people nowadays, they are still doing the opposite, not because they are bad for outsiders, but because they are good to outsiders. It's not good for the family, it's often especially bad for the family.

From a psychological point of view, in fact, in the depths of every person's soul, there are marks of lack of self-confidence. And low self-esteem just accompanies the development of people. When unconfidence develops into a certain link, everyone will have a distorted mental state and do incorrect things.

For example, a person who is often bullied, he is bullied outside, and he doesn't want to say a word, so his inferiority complex will become stronger and stronger.

However, people's inferiority complex is ultimately vented into some "mentality". Especially the psychological imprint of lack of self-confidence, they also want to hide through some things. Therefore, after they have been oppressed by others, he will point the finger at his relatives and lose his temper with them.

In other words, as others treat them, they may do to their families.

This is a manifestation of too much inferiority. People who are very good to outsiders, especially those who are bad to their families, do not know how to be grateful, once an educator once said that the biggest difference between people and animals is that people have emotions and learn to be grateful. With the word gratitude, we have heard it since childhood, believing that we ourselves also want to be a grateful person, and not allow our conscience to be deceived.

However, it is one thing to want to be grateful, and it is another thing to be grateful to others. In daily life, we will find that many people say that they are grateful to their families, but they can be disrespectful to their family members in private. There are even those who will continue to speak ill of each other and treat each other with sincerity.

I believe that we also have such a family around us, you treat him very well, and he is single-minded, but he treats your sincerity as a "riverside grass", disdains, and has no warmth to talk about himself. In fact, everyone is invested in the family, with sincerity, to make the family's life better. But why does this group of people have such a bad mentality towards their families?

It is because they have not yet guaranteed to be truly grateful, and they have not fully felt the sincerity of their families, but they have focused on others and left the wrong path.

The vast majority of them are more hypocritical people, this kind of person is a nest, and he treats his family very well, and this kind of person's character is problematic.

The family is particularly poor, but the Yu Na is a particularly good person to outsiders, most of these people are particularly arrogant and unreasonable, and often lose their temper at will, do not know how to prioritize, bully the soft and fear the hard.

Such people are all people in the nest, and their attitude towards the people in their own family is very bad, they yell at the people in the family, but they are particularly cowardly outside the house, and they are very brave and small, and such people can't become a big deal at all.