Can t make new friends Friends make new friends and become estranged

Eun, it should be a mental illness! I don't talk to my classmates when I'm studying, maybe I can't communicate! A few months ago, we had a class reunion with our classmates!

At that time, I realized that it was not that they looked down on me, but that I didn't dare to communicate with them! So in the 3 years of studying, there have been few classmates who can talk well! It's really sad to look back on!

After entering the society, I have seen more and become more bold (a little). After drinking and chatting with your classmates in the class reunion, I realized that it was not they who rejected you, but that you didn't dare to talk to them and take the first step! That way, naturally people won't talk to you very much!

In fact, we were born to learn to be a person, and the landlord hopes that you can be inspired!

I hope you can learn to get out of the first part and try to communicate with your classmates! If you try, you won't necessarily have more people pay attention to you, but if you don't try, you won't have it! Got it?

I'm against the ground floor.

You don't need to do anything deliberately, find someone you think may be acceptable and have a relatively close regular schedule, and spend time together every day to be friends. Even if you come from different places, you won't be used to being together for a long time.

I'm also from the south, and now I'm half of China away from home. The classmates in the dormitory are all from different provinces, and even talking has become similar after being together for a long time. Now I'm a sophomore, and a few days ago I hit ** on the bunk, and the first sentence I actually said was my hometown!

Haha, I almost laughed to death! I can take the train (express) to her house in 24 hours!

College classes aren't always together.

Do you like to learn? Then find a classmate who loves to learn and talk to him about the content of the textbook. Find classmates who are similar to you if you like, and it's a good start! It's easy to have good friends.

You can take the initiative to try to talk to people, otherwise they are talking hotly there, and who will notice you if you are alone in the corner?

The main thing is to exercise your eloquence.

You're isolated.

Try to learn from the Northeasterners, and mingling with them will change your image as a Southerner.

I will continue to be whatever my original personality is.

Something to change for others.

At least change the people of Dena.

If the time is long, it will be good.

Bu Yong worried. There will be friends De.

Believe in yourself and be confident.

Communicate more with your classmates.

Learn to smile.

Be sincere to your classmates or future friends.

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Treat everyone around you with your sincerity, I think you must be interested in having friends!!

Summary. Hello dear, this is a very normal thing, people generally will be a little like the new and hate the old, at this time as long as you are always with those friends who are always the same.

Proper distancing is also an opportunity for distance to produce beauty.

Friends make new friends and drift apart.

Hello dear, this is a very normal thing, people generally like the new skin and hate the old, at this time, as long as a fierce is with those who have always been with the burning of friends. Proper distancing is also an opportunity for distance to produce beauty.

The main thing is that I don't want to lose this friend, and I don't understand that ** did something wrong, and my friend didn't say why.

You have to ask her about it before you have a chance to explain.

When I asked, she said, you don't need to say it, don't think about it, I won't know, anyway, I won't explain the reason.

She just wants to break ties with you.

I don't even give you a chance to explain, and I think you can give up this friendship appropriately.

I haven't made new friends for a long time now, almost all of them are nodding etiquette, and my colleagues are all leaving the circle of friends, and after a while, the circle of friends is gone, and it's difficult to make an appointment.

It's really easy to make friends when you're young.,Friends of friends are my friends.,I feel like it's too late to count the number of points.,Now the definition of friends is also very strict.,It's almost hard to admit which person is my new friend.,It's just that sometimes I go to the store to discount and say a friend introduced.,Maybe this friend is a side of the relationship.,Or never know.,I know that the sedan cave talks about money hurts feelings.,As long as it comes to money, there are few friends.,Because who doesn't use money now.。

It's not that there are fewer and fewer friends, but we understand more and more what is true, we don't like the socialization of those who think they are friends, we learn to pinch the head and go to the tail, and now the ineffective social simply doesn't go, a few friends who are still in contact now, but also think about it for a few months to talk about it, the older I get, the more I don't communicate personally, and I am more and more afraid of society.

It can be seen that you are still full of yearning for life, but you are not very motivated to push yourself to implement it, but are just waiting for some kind of power to let you get everything?

Dreaming all the time?

Always looking forward to miracles and hope for life.

Or you can change your sex overnight and live a wonderful life to the pinnacle of life.

Or the withdrawn person who doesn't like himself and has low self-esteem.

He doesn't like to touch old friends and is willing to accept new ones.

Your inner juice is longing to rise and fall, and you feel like you're a little nervous. You wonder if you're lazy or socially phobic, maybe it's just a lazy procrastination, and you're not allowing yourself to take steps to change yourself!

Psychologists believe that knowing that "there is an important task waiting for you to complete" can easily lead to a sense of anxiety, and not only that, but it can also make people nervous and uneasy to imagine what the outcome may be after the task is over.

Therefore, people will avoid this anxiety by avoiding denial and diverting their attention, avoiding what they should do, and unconsciously procrastinating.

There is an urgent need to regulate the emotional state.

There are also depressed and depressed people, who usually have a pessimistic attitude towards themselves, the external world and the future, which is a natural barrier, and everyone has the same starting line, if you indulge in negative emotions, it will undoubtedly be worse.

They are often uninterested, listless, and unable to concentrate, which makes it difficult for them to complete tasks.

In many cases, the idea of how to improve their mood has already taken up the whole of their thinking and life, and the action related to the thing itself is delayed. So you can reduce this negative coping emotion and inject energy into yourself.

Accept yourself and self-care.

What we call "acceptance" is the first and most important step in coping with and managing our emotions. You may be constantly criticizing and blaming yourself for your previous procrastination.

This lack of self-care can not only make you feel ashamed and blame, but it can also make you feel more anxious before the next task starts to get high, and you can fall into a vicious cycle of procrastination.

Therefore, the first step to break this vicious cycle is to accept your negative emotions and replace self-blame with encouragement and forgiveness. Irrational cognition not only leads directly to procrastination, but also affects people's emotions, making them procrastinate and unable to complete a task.

However, not everyone is aware of the existence of these irrational ways of knowing in time.

You have to know what your goals are.

Instead of blindly belittling yourself.

One step at a time.

Consultation is recommended. Best wishes! zq

Summary. The first reason: introversion.

Many people respond that people who can't make friends are generally more introverted, and when they interact with people, they often don't dare to really express their thoughts, so when they get along with people, they are quiet most of the time and rarely take the initiative to speak. In the eyes of others, they feel that they are more difficult to approach, so they will not take the initiative to communicate with them.

The second reason: the personality is arrogant, which makes people unapproachable. There are some people who have a harder time making friends because they are more arrogant and rarely recognize the people around them.

A lot of people who are more arrogant They perform very well in all aspects, but because they have better abilities, they rarely really understand them in their eyes, and over time they take the initiative to alienate others, and others will alienate them because of this.

The third reason: selfish and stingy, calculating Selfish and stingy people are very unlikable no matter what the occasion.

Why can't I make friends?

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The first reason: introversion. Many people respond that people who can't make friends are generally more introverted, and when they interact with people, they often don't dare to really express their thoughts, so when they get along with people, they are quiet most of the time and rarely take the initiative to speak.

In the eyes of others, they feel that they are more difficult to approach, so they will not take the initiative to communicate with them. The second reason: the personality is arrogant, which makes people unapproachable.

There are some people who have a harder time making friends because they are more arrogant and rarely recognize the people around them. A lot of people who are more arrogant They perform very well in all aspects, but because they have better abilities, they rarely really understand them in their eyes, and over time they take the initiative to alienate others, and others will alienate them because of this. The third reason:

Selfish and stingy and calculating Selfish and stingy people are very unlikable no matter what the occasion.

But I'm kind to them!

In the past two days, I suddenly realized a very serious problem, I don't know how long I haven't made new friends, and I have forgotten how long it has been.

The reason for not making new friends is nothing more than busy, tired, lazy! If you think about it, there's really only one reason: lazy!

Why do you think not making new friends is a serious problem? Because it has affected my life mentality, it has been a long time since I have shared my work, my mood, my thoughts, my confusion, my life with others. I was so used to keeping my thoughts in my heart that I was slowly becoming unable to express myself.

In the past, I always felt that most of the gatherings were meaningless, and I didn't like gatherings with strangers, so I always rejected and excluded.

It's been a long time since I've gone out outdoors with my friends, or done something meaningful with a few friends!

In fact, it is not that there are no friends, but that there are no good friends who are like-minded, positive, have positive energy, and have common interests and hobbies. What I need is this new energy to infuse my already rotten emotions!

Since my work is different from ordinary people, my working hours are from 2 or 3 p.m. to 9 p.m., and there are no weekends. So it's hard for even old friends to have time to get together.

No, what I seem to write is all negative energy, excuses and excuses. What really hinders me is my ability to act and my mentality, and if I want to change, I must act immediately! Well!

It's not uncommon to meet such a person, but it can be seen that Miao Miao herself is a sensitive and delicate person, and she is always self-reflecting, blaming others for their own mistakes, and not blaming the other party, the most serious word she uses is only one "very hurtful" may be that I am not good, review myself, and after a long time in my heart, it becomes inferior, it may be that I am inferior, I dare not fit in, and I have formed a curse of not being able to make friends.

Have you ever been told bad things behind your friend's back Do you worry that you won't be able to make friends?

But in fact, the problem is only in the beginning, you treat the other person as a friend, but the other person does not. If it's a friend, if there's anything wrong, she can say it face-to-face, not scold you behind your back; If you feel that you can't get along, you won't get along, and you're not playing you on the surface.

Maybe in getting along, Miao Miao may really do something wrong, but the other party does not give positive feedback, give her a chance to explain and even correct, if there is, you may find that with such introspection and sensitivity, you will not intentionally do anything bad.

Maybe the other party completely forgot about it later, but you can't forget it for the rest of your life, but this must not be a curse for not making friends, it may just make you more cautious about who is worth making friends?

Do you worry that you won't be able to make friends?

In fact, don't worry, you will always meet friends with the same interests, and you should pay attention to the following points when making friends:

1. Don't treat others as friends, others will treat you as friends, don't imagine too well about people you know and let yourself be hurt.

2. It's not that you have met an unfriendly person, you will be an unfriendly person in the future, don't imagine too badly about the people you know, and let yourself worry too much.

3. Don't punish yourself with other people's mistakes, self-reflection is a good quality, "small province is good for yourself, big province hurts your body".

4. If there is a misunderstanding between friends, the first thing is to communicate positively, and unilaterally saying that you are not really wrong behind your back does not mean that you are really wrong, but saying that you are wrong in the first place.

Have you ever been told bad things behind your friend's back Do you worry that you won't be able to make friends?

5. Bad experiences will have some good value, such as making you know better which friends are worth making, and there will naturally be answers in getting along.

6. Be prepared to understand that the person who understands you is not sent by God, it is you who meet and attract with your own personality charm, believe in the good of your existing partners and friends, first of all, believe in your own good.

7. Not being able to make friends is not a curse, there are not so many friends, look at those who stay and understand you, it doesn't need to be so laborious, and there is no curse to drive them away, recognizing them is enough to break self-doubt.

8. The comfort of "just like Danbi with me, my friends are all your friends" is very heartwarming, and people who choose two-way are also worth believing, but "friends of friends" still need to use their own hearts to distinguish it, maybe it is not suitable for you!