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The feeling of being empty and unaccustomed to wanting to take the initiative to getting used to not taking the initiative is not accustomed.
At first, I will feel empty in my heart, I will feel something missing, and I will be inexplicably irritable, and then after a long time, I will feel that this person is so good, and then bury this person deep in my heart and never mention it again. But sometimes I want to be recognized but I'm afraid of rejection, and when I think about my arrogant heart, I feel that I still don't want it. And then the two of them will never be in touch.
Nothing to say about not knowing each other is the most hurtful, the contrast is too big to accept, obviously used to the existence of a person at the beginning, used to relying on him, used to sharing everything with him, telling him everything, but one day he was forced to forget this habit and quit this habit. At this time, the mood is like the craving of smoking when you quit smoking, and you want to smoke but do not smoke. Uncomfortable but helpless.
Later, there was always a time when I felt that I should go to this person and couldn't help but go to this person, but suddenly I thought that he didn't take the initiative and all the courage was worn out in an instant, I was afraid that I would take the initiative and be rejected, and I was afraid that I couldn't keep my only self-esteem and arrogance, so after thinking about it, I still felt that it was good to try to hold back, and I tried every way not to think about it, and slowly got used to this feeling, and it was flat, the difference is that this person is no longer in my heart and in my heart, and will not be mentioned again.
He and I started chatting as soon as we opened our eyes in the morning, and we chatted all day, and in the middle of him would call me when he cooked, washed clothes, or why couldn't he reply to my messages with his hands**, and then the two of them chatted, and then ah, I don't know why, we suddenly stopped talking the next day, I sent him two messages and he didn't reply to me, I thought forget it, so far we haven't said a word, and now I'm used to this kind of life.
Sometimes it's not the loss that is sad, it's the habit that never arises again.
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In fact, it is very complicated, and it cannot be explained in one sentence. But there is more melancholy, and the changes in interpersonal relationships will always make people feel that things are wrong.
Everyone in the world will feel different, two people never talk to each other in the process of not recognizing each other, something must have happened to cause such a result, otherwise who wants to get to such a point? The human heart is always complex and changeable. And the difference in that incident, of course, also determines the difference in feelings.
In my life, I have met many people who have drifted away as time has passed. But there are some people who have never talked about old age and death back then.
The separation of friends is inevitably accompanied by quarrels, sometimes the quarrel will wear out the friendship to the point that they hate each other, and sometimes for some reason they cannot continue to get along but the relationship is not exhausted, and in general, these are the two situations. The former doesn't have so many complicated emotions, and he only has disgust for his former friends, and maybe he will have the resentment that he can't recognize people, and he is glad that he doesn't have to face him anymore. I have a friend who is like this, her table mate has a weird and selfish personality, she gets angry for some reason, and when I ask her afterwards, she says:
I think you're hiding something from me. As soon as she accidentally made her angry, she kept making all kinds of small actions in private. At first, my friend endured it, but the same table didn't feel guilty at all, and it became even worse, needless to say, I had a big quarrel, and when I saw each other, I took a detour, and my friend now feels disgusted even when he sees her.
I've had the experience of not being able to look down on that friend at all. The Tao is not the same, and the words are not speculative for more than half a sentence, and that's it.
The latter is much more emotionally complex. Some people always say, if there is still friendship, why should we separate? At first glance, it is true, but life is not a sentence that can be solved, the same is true of interpersonal interactions, pressure is all the time, people's emotions also change with these pressures, pressure forces us to give in, friendship is not a good way to solve everything, no decision made, you have to bear the consequences, only rely on friendship and ignore others, and ultimately hurt yourself.
Therefore, there are regrets, melancholy, longing, reluctance, regrets, and of course embarrassment. These emotions mixed together and finally made us decide to stay away from her. That's how fate is inseparable, probably this can be regarded as falling in love and killing each other.
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I have a friend who used to talk about everything, but now I don't know each other; After seeing this question, I suddenly missed her very much, and silently opened her Weibo to see how she was doing recently. After reading her Weibo and thinking back to our previous events, my heart is very conflicted and complicated, and I don't know how to express that feeling.
We were best friends in high school, and at school we were inseparable, and to no exaggeration, I knew everything about her, and she knew everything about me. But we gradually had a disagreement, and I felt that she was becoming more and more disrespectful to me and more and more self-centered; She also felt that I had changed and no longer treated her the way I used to. In short, there was a period of time when the small contradictions between us were uninterrupted; In this way, both sides will also have suspicions from time to time, and sometimes some small things will also be associated with a lot.
Under the slow accumulation, the contradictions are getting bigger and bigger, from the tacit cold war before to the quarrel later, after a few times, we all feel that there is no need to continue to be friends. And so we went from talking about nothing to not recognizing each other.
After reading her Weibo, I know that she has been doing well recently, and I am very happy; But I saw that she still hadn't changed, those old little habits, small shortcomings, and little tempers still existed, and I couldn't help but worry about her why such a little shortcoming hadn't changed, and could others accept it. In the final analysis, complex feelings are uncomfortable, uncomfortable to lose a friend, a friend who has nothing to say; I feel sorry that I didn't handle this friendship well; Discomfort with the harm caused to the other party; It's uncomfortable to leave such a bad impression and memory on a former good friend.
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Many couples never say nothing to nothing to say, and you are an enmity in this situation.
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When two people love each other, they need to maintain a certain frequency of chatting, but chatting at a high frequency all the time will only accelerate the consumption of love between two people.
Why?
Because the early stage of the relationship and the hot love period have passed, the mode of getting along with couples is constantly changing.
For example, when pursuing someone we like, we need to chat with each other every day, create various topics every day, and take the initiative to find topics for each other to talk to.
What is the purpose of this?
Of course, it is through chatting to deepen the relationship between two people and establish "understanding" between each other.
Only when you know more can you have a chance to be with each other.
And once you are in a relationship, your goals have changed, and you will naturally reduce the frequency of chatting.
After the love period, the relationship between the two of you has stabilized, and there is no need to chat every day.
You know, when you pursue someone, it takes a lot of energy, time, and money.
You need to make a choice between your lover and your life and work, and in the end you choose your lover.
And what about after being together?
In order to get married, you have to manage your own life, and love is the icing on the cake for you.
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The reason may be that two people do not have the same interests and hobbies, so although two people love each other, they will feel more and more speechless. So it's important to have the same interests and hobbies, so that both people will always have something to talk about.
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Summary. Hello dear, happy to answer your questions, two people have been together for a long time, and there is nothing to say for the following reasons: 1
There is a problem with the communication model, both people are originally independent individuals, and many times the way of looking at things and the way of dealing with things are different. Therefore, when encountering disagreements, they refuse to communicate with the other party, and thus are unwilling to share what they have seen and heard with the other party. 2.
Lack of business awareness, we all know that feelings need two people to operate together, rather than one moving forward and the other standing still.
Two people have been together for a long time, why do they have nothing to say?
Dear, hello skating hand clap, happy to answer your questions, two people have been together for a long time, there is nothing to say for the following reasons: 1There is a problem with the communication model, both people are originally independent individuals, and many times the way of looking at things and the way of dealing with things are different.
Therefore, when encountering disagreements, they refuse to communicate with each other, and thus are unwilling to share what they have seen and heard with each other. 2.Lack of business awareness, we all know that feelings need two people to operate together, rather than one side moving forward and the other envy of the original.
Excuse me, but please go into more detail?
Dear, there are 3With the accumulation of negative emotions, it is inevitable that there will be times when two people disagree in the relationship, and there will be conflicts with each other. Each has expectations for their other half, and when the other person can't, they are disappointed.
4.There is no common language of posture, and we are faced with the life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea every day, some people will feel very happy, but some people will feel very boring. I hope I can help you with silver and wish you a happy life!
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Two people have been together for a long time, and it is inevitable that there will be no freshness, which is a normal performance, because it is impossible for two people to have endless topics to talk about, because the process of normal couples falling in love is to talk a lot at the beginning, but then they talk more about some things in life. The process of normal couples falling in love, at the beginning, two people saw some shining points in each other, and then attracted one party to launch an active chase, and the other party felt that this person was not bad, and then chatted with each other, chatted and found that the two people were very suitable, talk about it, and then after falling in love together, it will involve more of each other's past, each other's lives, some habitual things, these will have a hot love period, and after these things are understood, There is a situation where the two of them have nothing to talk about, because the things that the other party can understand are almost understood, and everything that the other party has done since childhood is clear. Two people from the love period gradually to, the dull change is all couples will go through, a time to learn to find some topics in life, two people can keep talking about things, or two people to experience more things, there are more things to talk about, but also to expand their knowledge, the other party likes to understand something, so that your chat can be more pleasant, there is nothing to talk about, The first reason is that you have been together for a long time and have talked about the past, and the second reason is that you have not mastered enough chat skills, and you have not talked more about future problems, because there are infinite possibilities in the future.
Many people can't survive the dull period of love, and feel that they have entered a love mode with nothing to talk about, that is, the emotions of two people have disappeared, not love, in fact, it is not like this, because any couple has to go through such a process, to learn to find a topic, learn to transition from romantic love to real life, and spend it, and the emotions will really stabilize during this period.
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Two people have been together for a long time, and it is inevitable that there will be no freshness, which is a normal performance, because it is impossible for two people to have endless topics to talk about, because the process of normal couples falling in love is to talk a lot at the beginning, but then they talk more about some things in life. The process of normal couples falling in love, at the beginning, two people saw some shining points in each other, and then attracted one party to launch an active chase, and the other party felt that this person was not bad, and then chatted with each other, chatted and found that the two people were very suitable, talk about it, and then after falling in love together, it will involve more of each other's past, each other's lives, some habitual things, these will have a hot love period, and after these things are understood, There is a situation where the two of them have nothing to talk about, because the things that the other party can understand are almost understood, and everything that the other party has done since childhood is clear. Two people from the love period gradually to, the dull change is all couples will go through, a time to learn to find some topics in life, two people can keep talking about things, or two people to experience more things, there are more things to talk about, but also to expand their knowledge, the other party likes to understand something, so that your chat can be more pleasant, there is nothing to talk about, The first reason is that you have been together for a long time and have talked about the past, and the second reason is that you have not mastered enough chat skills, and you have not talked more about future problems, because there are infinite possibilities in the future.
Many people can't survive the dull period of love, and feel that they have entered a love mode with nothing to talk about, that is, the emotions of two people have disappeared, not love, in fact, it is not like this, because any couple has to go through such a process, to learn to find a topic, learn to transition from romantic love to real life, and spend it, and the emotions will really stabilize during this period.
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The most important thing for two people to be together is the same three views and the same personality, but love is for two people to operate each other, two people have different personalities, they should slowly run in and understand each other, but if two people are not willing to change for each other, then the future will be difficult, only people who have experienced it personally understand that feeling, two people arguing for the same issue, it is obviously a trivial matter, and couples don't need to care about winning or losing, but the other party is holding on to this problem and trying to instill their ideas into you, Then the two people quarreled more and more intensely, and after a long time, the relationship was naturally broken, if they could tolerate each other, maybe the situation would be very different, if two people were together, they had different personalities and would not back down, then it was better to have a long pain than a short pain, and it would be dispersed earlier.
It's not **, there is no he set by the author, if you don't like each other, don't delay each other, don't be together.