Can anyone help me? Why am I always hated?

I think you must have a little inferiority complex in your heart, maybe you also have a little bit of insecurity, or your suspicion is very heavy, sometimes don't be too careful, don't let others like you, and do what others like (you think in your heart), that not only will not let others like you, but you are very introverted, I am also like this, but I think my relationship with friends is quite good, the most important thing in interpersonal communication is sincerity, courtesy, and what kind of friends to choose, Some can be deeply acquainted, and some can only be placed on ordinary friends, and you have to analyze what you have done or said.

If you're a man......Don't talk about other people's strengths and weaknesses, don't be in the limelight. It's good, it only shows that you are introverted, and there are still people who can make friends. If you still like sports, you don't have to think about your friends at all.

If you're a woman......This is so abnormal, a woman is a gossip animal. You don't know who the first place in your year is, but you can't know who Duan Cao is; You don't know who the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom is, but you must know that Beckham, the number one handsome guy in the United Kingdom; You don't know who the wife of the American ** is, but you can't not thank Nicholas for who his wife is. If you don't know anything, you're out of society.

Gossip is wrong, but it's not your sin. There must be a topic to talk about between classmates and friends, and gossip is a girl's favorite. If you just want to call a few regular friends, this is enough.

If you want to make some sweet friends, it's time to prove it.

What a friend is is to chat with you when you are bored. I can help you when you are in danger.

Who are you made for? For oneself, one should not follow in the footsteps of others. Every trait on your body is given by your parents, it is unique, you should be proud and proud, you should be that it is yours alone!

Go to a plastic surgery first and then see a psychiatrist.

I'll help him, but it needs to be within my power.

Everyone can encounter difficulties in life, and when Qiaolianxiao encounters difficulties, it is also human instinct to ask for help from people you know. It's just that when I meet someone who usually needles me when I have nothing to do and asks for help from myself, the inner entanglement and struggle really make people a little unsure how to do it.

If it's not cornered, no one wants to bow to others.

Everyone is an independent individual, and they are slowly moving forward on their own life path. In this process, we will meet like-minded people, of course, we will also meet people we hate, and the dislike of one person is easily perceived by the other party, and the two people may drift apart because of this.

In this situation, two people should never have crossed paths again, but one of them suddenly asked the other for help, and I think he must have been in trouble in his life. If it weren't really out of options, I don't think anyone would want to ask for help from someone who hates them, which would be tantamount to trampling their self-esteem under their feet.

I will help him as much as I can, and I will not harm my own interests.

I'm a more emotional person, and if someone asks me for help and is earnest, I think it's hard for me to refuse. But if someone I hate asks me for help, I will subconsciously want to refuse.

I will carefully consider my ability to see if you have a conflict of interest with me, whether it is within my ability, and if all conditions are met, I will choose to help him, and if it is beyond my ability or will harm my own interests, I think I will refuse.

It's not that I refuse because I hate it, it's just that after so many years in the adult world, I've long learned to take responsibility for my own life.

In fact, there is a certain problem with this problem itself, and it is unlikely that the person you hate will ask you for help. Because the emotion of hating is often mutual, and when a person is in trouble, it is difficult to remember to ask for help from someone they hate.

Maybe for real friends, I will really help, but for those who I hate, I can only promise not to hurt each other.

The other party is easy to get an inch.

As the so-called Shengmi Endou Mi hatred, some people are not only grateful to their benefactors, but resentful of you, the biggest reason is that you are too good to them.

There is a group of people who are accustomed to getting an inch, and they take the help of others for granted. Although helping others comes from our own kindness, we must be aware that not everyone is worthy of help, and we are ungrateful.

The person who will take revenge is not worth helping at all, after all, they don't understand the painstaking efforts of others at all, they will only take it coldly and selfishly, even if you pay more, they will only write it lightly, and even use it as your way to please him.

Hit the other person's self-confidence.

An individual's position in interpersonal interactions depends largely on his self-confidence, and the stronger his self-confidence, the higher his status in the eyes of others.

In real life, there is such a type of person, they have an independent temperament, have a strong sense of self-esteem, even if they are in a trough, they do not want to show a frustrated side in front of outsiders, but as long as they can get through the difficulties themselves, they will never take the initiative to ask for help, in this case, if you rashly help him, it is likely to hurt the other party's self-esteem.

A person with strong self-esteem will never be able to stand the pitiful eyes of others, and the best way to treat them is to pretend that he doesn't know anything and continue to associate with them with the same attitude as before, only in this way can he save his face and no longer feel ashamed.

Don't act rashly when someone hasn't explicitly asked you to help, and don't disrupt someone's rhythm, because you never know what their plan is.

There are also those who are overly dependent on your help, and if you stop helping them, they will hate you so much that they will turn you into enemies.

All in all, being kind and helpful to others is indeed one of the traditional virtues, but before taking the initiative to lend a hand, it is important to analyze your own abilities and the needs of the other party, if you are not sure to help the other party completely, then do not act easily, this is also for your own safety.

That's because of helping the wrong person (if someone falls, it's embarrassing, embarrassing and miserable, you run to her (him) and help her (him)), not only can't you get thank you but get an idle egg pain! Ying Blind should pretend not to see the slippery spirit, and let Qin Laqi get up by himself.

This depends on what the person you hate did to you in the first place, if you do something to hurt yourself, then you won't help him, you will just look on coldly, if some of the things you do are insignificant, or if it's a child's childish behavior, then when you help him, if you can not affect your own life, you will still help others. After all, it is not easy for everyone to survive in the world, and if you can help others, you will also help.

1. Helping others regardless of previous suspicions For some good people, there is no bottom line when helping others, and such help will not only affect their own lives, but even affect family harmony in serious cases. After all, life is not easy for ordinary people, and it takes a lot of people's energy just to live, let alone help others. Therefore, when you choose to help others regardless of your previous suspicions, you should also do what you can, and don't let your family fall into trouble because of your own help, which will not only affect family harmony, but also disapprove.

Second, it is a good virtue to do what you can to help others, after all, with the continuous development of modern society, after people are under increasing pressure in society, many people have lost the ability to help others, even their own family members choose to stand by. And for those who help others, it is actually more precious. It's just that when you help someone, you also have to see whether the other person is worthy of your help.

After all, some people are not worthy of help, and even if they help others, they will take it for granted and will not know gratitude.

3. For those who have hurt themselves, there is no need to help others. I don't have that kind of honorary mother's heart to help others, so I choose to watch coldly, but don't go to the well, it's not necessary. For those who have hurt themselves, just be a stranger.