How do you keep your heart from being too closed?

Have a positive and optimistic attitude towards everything, usually contact more friends, talk more about your own affairs with friends, and not rest assured about everything. Participate in more public welfare activities. Meet some new people. Open your heart.

I always pay attention to this problem, remind myself to have more communication with the people around me, try to avoid solo activities, listen to other people's stories more, and find some friends to tell my own stories, <>

Why are some people not open enough to you, can't show an honest heart, can't have a heart-to-heart with you? Because these people are the same as the turtles I raised. He has a thick shell to protect himself, and it is very safe to shrink into his own world.

You expect him to be honest with you and talk to you, that's just your expectation, it's not about him, you can know why he did it, and then take a strategy. But you can't force him to do it, or you'll be bored with the shell.

From my tank to my floor, the environment itself was unsafe for my tortoise, and in such a vigilant and unfamiliar environment, if he didn't shrink his head, he would carry such a heavy shell during the day.

So forgive him for not being willing to surrender his honest heart, and the situation you get along with is not giving him the security he wants.

When I realized that the human heart is actually a turtle, I changed my strategy.

I silently looked into his eyes through his shell with gentle eyes, and then saw his heart through his eyes. I learned patience from him and kept looking at him quietly, without accusation or criticism. After a while, he moved his fingers, then his toes, then his head, and saw that I was laughing.

That's how the human heart is. It was the world that made him feel uneasy and retreated, and it was his experience that taught him to protect himself and close himself. Just because he's not open to you doesn't mean he won't be open, it's just that the situation with you isn't safe enough for him to do that.

So he doesn't open up to you, he doesn't feel safe enough of you.

You have to talk to him a lot.

Let him change little by little.

Hello, I'm glad to answer your question, how to unravel people with closed hearts, please do the following points: one point encouragement, two points of patience, three points of tacit understanding, four points of bravery, five points of friendship, six points of family affection, seven points of freedom, eight points of wisdom, nine points of imagination, and very hope.

4. When communicating with people with closed psychology, we must be sincere and careless, take the initiative to approach them with the principle of care and love, affirm them more on the premise of understanding and respecting their thoughts and feelings, and point out the existing problems in time to help them overcome them.

Perhaps, we didn't know what else could be done to alleviate the fatigue brought by learning in addition to talking to our parents, so we told them everything.

When we grow up, we always want to have a space and space of our own, and that place may only belong to us. However, this does not mean that we have to be completely isolated from the world, we can leave a door, or a window, and create a small world of our own while maintaining communication with the outside world.

Based on the above, I have currently thought of the following ways to "say part to parents and keep part for yourself" for your reference:

When it comes to safety, interpersonal relationships, learning status, emotional management, and other things that can be called important in your heart, you can try to communicate with parents carefully and listen to their opinions. Sometimes their expressions may not be acceptable to us, but it is worth recalling what they expressed, which may have a certain effect on our choices.

In addition to the above major events, our choices will not affect the direction of our life, we will not feel trapped in a whirlpool that we cannot extricate ourselves from, and occasionally you feel that you can rely on your own strength to adjust well, you can try to tell yourself. How so? You can write a diary, you can write articles, make up stories, write **, draw pictures, etc., to express or express your thoughts or emotions.

If you don't have a good grasp of what to say and what not to say, you can continue your previous habit and talk to your parents, which may help you relieve some of the pressure and release some of your emotions, but there may be some left that has not been dealt with well.

If you feel that you have enough strength and experience to try to face some things and emotions on your own, you can talk to yourself first.

If you feel that you still can't solve or alleviate it, or even feel that it is worse, you can take it out and tell your parents that they can help you, guide you, guide or nudge you. There may be some ancillary effects.

In short, the choice is not "black and white, either left or right", and there are many possibilities in the middle for us to refer to and choose.