Why is Dabao disobedient Grandma wants her mother to have a second child

1.Take care of Dabao's emotionsAfter giving birth to a second child, many mothers focus most of their energy on Erbao, so that they will ignore Dabao's feelings, making him feel that he cannot get the attention and care of his parents, and may also have resentment and jealousy towards Erbao. In the child's opinion, it was because of the two treasures that he snatched away everything that originally belonged to him.

So even if my mother is very tired when she takes care of Erbao, she should also devote some of her energy to caring for Dabao, after all, he is still a child.

2.Be patient with DabaoAfter giving birth to Erbao, the mother has to take care of the two babies and find time to do housework, which will inevitably lead to upset. Erbao is still young and needs to put more effort into it, so in contrast, it is easy for the mother to have the idea that Dabao should be sensible, so if Dabao does not do well and makes his mother unhappy, the possibility of being criticized will be greater.

But in fact, Dabao is just a child, and he also needs his mother's help and encouragement. If the mother is often impatient with Dabao, he can feel that in the long run, it will be very bad for his psychological development.

3.Be fair to both childrenIn the eyes of many parents, Dabao should let Erbao when he is older, so if there is a conflict between two children, whether it is right or wrong, it is usually Dabao who quarrels first. In some families, because Bao's mother can't take care of her two children, she will send Dabao back to her hometown for her grandparents to take care of, leaving Erbao by her side.

Mom and Dad are obviously treating the two children differently.

Most of the older generation of people want the family to be prosperous, so they generally ask to have more children, and their concept is that it is normal for children to be ignorant, and it would be good to grow up, so they will say that they want to have a second child, you don't have to be obedient to everything, decide whether you want to do it according to your actual situation.

Dabao is disobedient, and he has to have a second child, not unreasonable, depending on which angle he stands, the average child is disobedient, in addition to nature, more is the arrogance of the family. Don't think that you are not spoiled, but in fact, you may not realize it. Therefore, having a second child and distracting the attention of parents, Dabao does not feel that he is a star that everyone pays attention to.

After having a second child, under the education of adults, Dabao will also learn how to take care of children, and if he has more brothers or sisters, he will have a sense of responsibility, and he will take his younger siblings into account when doing things, and he will become more reliable.

But there will also be a counterproduct, if the family is too concerned about the second child, Dabao will also have emotions, so it is very important to make a good transition.

Dabao should be guided correctly, if the child knows that because he is disobedient and his parents decide to give him a younger sibling, then he will be very repulsive to his younger siblings in the future.

Now that they are busy with work, many parents do not have time to spend with their children.

People with low education are prone to feudal superstition. Don't listen to her.

If you don't have the energy to take care of the child yourself, why do you have a second child? When grandma said such things in front of you, you still brought the child to her? Isn't it too spineless? Are you still not the child's real mother?

If you have already given birth to a second child, but you find that the big treasure in the family does not listen to your parents, then the parents must find out the reason at this time, and you must not directly blame your children at this time. We must observe the child's emotions in our daily lives, and we cannot ignore the child.

Mom and dad want their children to grow up healthy, and this is the wish of every parent, but I think there are many problems that everyone needs to pay attention to. If you plan to have a second child, then you must tell your child about this idea, and parents do not need to hide their children at this time, we must treat our children as an adult, because children will also have their own thoughts. If the child is disobedient, then the parents must need to figure out the reason at this time, probably because the child is not being paid attention to, so the child will be disobedient.

If you have already given birth to a second child, then parents must care more about their children at this time, and they must also take care of their children's emotions in life. We must pay attention to the relevant issues at this time, so that you can make your child healthier and make your child very smart. Parents must observe the children, and we must also respect the children's ideas, and you must not ignore the children at this time.

Many parents have a second child, and at this time the parents will ignore their first child, but this may cause your baby to become very embarrassed, because the child will also feel very insecure. Therefore, we must care more about our children, and we should not treat them differently in our daily lives, so that children can be safe.

At this time, you should take Dabao to travel, you should also take Dabao to the movies, you should also take Dabao to go shopping in Fuzhou, you should also take Dabao to visit the park, and you should also take Dabao to the playground to play. Because these methods can divert children's attention, and will also make children feel that their parents love them very much, so mothers must pay attention to this aspect of the problem and never bring harm to their children.

You should play with Dabao more, and you also need to choose an equal attitude when treating two children in daily life.

With the liberalization of the two-child policy, more and more families choose to add another child. However, this also comes with its own set of challenges. Some families find that Dabao begins to become disobedient and is often scolded after having a second child, which makes parents feel very troubled.

So, how should this situation be handled?

First of all, parents should understand Dabao's emotional needs. After the birth of the second child, Dabao may feel that the living environment and family relationship have changed, and it is inevitable that there will be some depression and discomfort, and these emotions may be transformed into disobedient behavior. Therefore, parents need to give Dabao more care and affection, listen to their needs and emotions patiently, and help them adapt smoothly to the new family environment.

Secondly, parents should learn to guide and manage their children's behavior rationally. When Dabao behaves disobediently, parents should calmly analyze the reasons, grasp the rhythm, and adopt appropriate ways and methods to guide and manage. For example, children can be taught through games, picture books, etc.; You can also make Dabao feel important through family meetings and help them form a positive family atmosphere.

Last but not least, parents should maintain patience and confidence. Educating children is a long-term process, and parents need to maintain patience, confidence, and perseverance to educate their children consistently. In the process, parents should pay attention to their emotions and attitudes, and don't lose their temper because of their children's problems, otherwise it will cause a greater negative impact on their children.

In short, after having a second child, Dabao's disobedience is common, and parents should adopt a variety of ways and methods to guide and manage it, create a harmonious and warm family atmosphere, and create good conditions for the good growth of children.

You can tell Dabao that there will be a younger brother and sister with you in the future, and you will have someone to play with you, and your parents will not be good to you after having younger brothers and sisters.

You can promise Dabao that after giving birth to a second child, you will never favor anyone and will maintain balance.

As a mother, I still have some thoughts about having a second child. Dabao is not opposed to us having a second child, on the contrary, he is particularly supportive, which should have a lot to do with the family environment.

Having a second child is a more personal decision, and each family's considerations are different.

If we consider the impact of having a second child on the whole family, we can analyze the following aspects to look at this decision of parents.

First and foremost, we should respect our parents' decisions.

For the choice of parents to have children, the family burden and family happiness should be the main considerations. If the parents are determined to have a second child and the conditions allow, we should understand and support the parents' decision.

Especially in some traditional societies and cultures, the idea of having more children and more blessings is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. In this case, parents want to have more than two children that deserve respect and understanding.

Secondly, we should see the impact of having a second child on the whole family.

Whether it is the decision to have a child or the subsequent education and growth, it requires family planning and joint efforts.

The emergence of a second child not only has an impact on the family economy and organizational management, but also affects the growth environment and family atmosphere of the previous only child.

Therefore, we should plan our families to minimize or avoid these effects as much as possible.

After the most elevated congratulations, we should keep a peaceful mind.

When looking at parents' reproductive decisions, we should adopt a rational and peaceful attitude.

Many people may think that the family conditions are better, and they must have two children to be considered a "perfect family", but this is not necessarily suitable for Yu Gaopai himself, and it is not necessarily the best choice.

On the contrary, if you can't meet the energy and conditions of the second child, don't blindly follow the trend, pursue the so-called "human touch" and family harmony, "scramble and care", but it may have a negative impact on yourself and the whole family.

In short, it is a private choice for parents to have two children. We should respect the parents' decision, but also consider the impact of the second child on the whole family, and maintain a peaceful mind.

Only on the basis of rational and scientific assessment of one's own actual situation and family needs can we make correct family planning decisions and bring more sustainable, healthy and happy development to the family.