Do you want to have a second child, and often quarrel with your husband?

Updated on parenting 2024-07-23
28 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    Whether to have children is your own business, but you also have to consider whether you can love the child well, the child's growth needs a warm family, if the child is born after you can only let him quarrel with his parents.

    Rich and unwealthy to have a second child.

    The distinction begins after giving birth.

    After giving birth, rich mothers do not have much financial pressure and do not need to return to the workplace so quickly, and can spare time and money for scientific postpartum recovery while accompanying their children.

    Faster recovery.

    And the mother who has no money has to take care of two children at the same time, and she has to return to the workplace as soon as possible in order to make a living. There is no professional guidance or time for postpartum recovery, and mothers can only let their bodies recover on their own in the midst of running and working.

    Having money to have a second child vs not having money to have a second child, the troubles of having a child are not the same.

    When the newborn is just born and the two children can't be brought in, the financial strength is enough for the rich mother to hire a confinement lady to help at home. In this way, the mother can free up her hands to give her child high-quality companionship, and can get professional care and help.

    The ancestors clearly told us to "have more children and more blessings", how did it come to modern people, and whether to have a second child has also become a question to be discussed? In fact, this has something to do with the changing times.

    In ancient times, medical technology was underdeveloped, and neonatal mortality was achieved.

    Much higher than in modern times, and the average life expectancy of human beings was generally lower than it is now. At that time, the total population was low, the density was low, and the pressure of resource grabbing and competition was not so great.

    At that time, the common people raised their children, as long as they were guaranteed to feed. Smallholder economy.

    The people are required to farm and live, and the half-grown children can become half of the labor force in the family.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    If you often quarrel now, it is not recommended that you have a second child now, because now your relationship has problems, unless you solve the current problem well.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    It is not recommended to have a second child if you quarrel often, maybe your quarrel has hurt the boss's heart, and having a second child will not pull you into the distance.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    You can give birth to one! It may be an opportunity to turn around your relationship and ease your relationship.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    If the two of you have the financial strength, you can choose to have a second child.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Whether or not to have a second child is a matter for both husband and wife, and the decision should be made on an equal footing, voluntarily and through consultation.

    Having a second child is also for the sake of happiness in the future, and if it leads to a quarrel because of this, it is not worth it.

    Quarrel over the birth of a second child, even if you give birth to a second child, you may still quarrel in the process of raising a second child.

    So, don't have a second child.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Don't rush to have the idea of having a second child, because your relationship is not very good, if you want to have a second child, you must first cultivate your feelings well, and never think that with a second child, your feelings will be improved, and it may become the opposite result.

    There is no mistake in the child itself, the key is that the relationship between your husband and wife should be taken seriously, learn to create a happy atmosphere for the child, so that the child will grow up healthily, and take it seriously in the face of such things, and the feelings are cultivated by each other.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If the relationship is not good, it is not recommended to have a second child. The relationship between each other is already very unstable, and when I have a second child, I can't think of a good emotional adjustment effect, which will further aggravate your emotional instability. The birth of a second child will increase the original pressure of life and the cost of living for each other, and then indirectly lead to an increase in the number of quarrels due to the increase in the pressure of life, and at the same time, it will also make your own bad relationship become more unstable, and may even lead to divorce in your marriage.

    Therefore, it is not recommended that you have a second child. If you are very good with each other, you can consider having a second child.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Whether it is necessary to have a second child depends on the couple's perception of the concept of fertility and their willingness to have children.

    For a family, having children is naturally a big deal, as a rational couple, before conceiving a second child, you should consider the family situation carefully, and face the current situation, including family economy, age conditions, husband and wife feelings, work status, husband and wife body, nurturing environment, etc. Only by considering the above circumstances clearly and then making a decision about whether to have children or not is the "right way". You tell me?

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I don't think it's okay not to use children as emotional mediators.

    Now that the relationship is not good, I have a second child, and I really can't live in the future, what should I do with the child? Be responsible for the child, because the child was born in October when you were pregnant, and the one who loves him the most is you who cares about him the most or you If you can't give him a happy family, why do you have to give him a baby? The arduous process of a child going from baby to adulthood will also bring a lot of friction, and all the suggestions are that the relationship is more stable and regenerate.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    With the liberalization of the two-child policy, more and more families have joined the ranks of having a second child. Before I was reborn, I thought about having two children, which is double happiness. After that, the two children will be filial to themselves together, but maybe it will be double troubles and worries later.

    We had to do everything we could to have a second child.

    Raising children now is actually a time to fight for the economy. Raising one child now should be a headache for most families, let alone raising two children. A family that can afford two children must have strong financial resources.

    That's what the sister-in-law of a relative's family thought. The average family income at home is tens of thousands of yuan a year, and relatives work alone. My sister-in-law disciplines the children, and the days of tidying up the house at home are very tight, but it is not good to see someone else give birth to a second child and want to have one.

    Who knows that a child will regret it after birth, because it seriously affects the daily life of the family. The money spent by the two children almost every month is the total income of the family! The family hadn't saved money for years.

    Sometimes I have to borrow money from relatives when I don't have money, and I haven't changed it until now. Although it is not easy to know, after all, the money is earned by others. Since you can't afford it, don't be blind!

    It cannot be said that if you can't support yourself, you will trouble your relatives.

    Now many relatives are afraid of receiving the ** from home, because there is nothing else, that is, when borrowing less money, when borrowing more than one or two thousand, when borrowing more than two or three thousand, it is very good to repay the money in one or two months, and some have not seen any movement for half a year, and they have not said anything when they meet. I felt that there was no hope of repaying the money, so I didn't plan to repay the money when I borrowed the money, but I just looked at the good relationship before and could help.

    Many friends around me are very happy to have a second child, saying how good it is to have two children! It's a bit difficult now, but when I grow up, it's good to have two children who are filial to me. When I first realized that I had my second child, the pressure of raising two children was definitely beyond my imagination.

    Almost all of them were after I gave birth to my second child, and I didn't go far at home. They all went to the old people's home for dinner, and they all changed their clothes to help them give money. Jewelry stores always say that double happiness is not visible at all, and double troubles are spent every day.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    No, one more child is more happiness, if two people are dedicated to this family, for the sake of children, it is not wrong to have a second child.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I don't think it's a mistake to have a second child, but the two sides will often quarrel if they don't deal with some contradictions, and they can't blame the second child.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Finally, I hope you and your husband can solve the problem of having a second child, after all, quarrels between husband and wife are not conducive to the growth of children.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    If you quarrel because of this kind of problem, you can communicate with your husband and explain your troubles clearly, because it is usually a financial problem, if your husband can't accept it, and you don't want to have a second child, you can file for divorce.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    This situation is unavoidable, but after the quarrel, the two people should communicate the problem well, and only by reaching a consensus can they better plan for the next step.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    You can have a good talk with your husband, talk about your difficulties and worries, and then talk about the good or bad of having a second child, he should be able to understand you if he is reasonable.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Then the two people should sit together calmly and talk about this matter, then there is a problem, a contradiction should be solved, and finally the matter is settled.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    It is recommended that you and your husband should have a good talk, express each other's thoughts, and weigh the pros and cons, I believe that you will be able to come to a good conclusion.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    I think you can tell your husband that it's okay to be hard now, and the two children can support each other in the future.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    This question always has to be solved, so it is important to have a thorough communication with a calm and calm mind, make your point of view, and let the other person know what you think.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Two people must reach a consensus on the issue of the second child, so that the conflict can be reduced and there will be no quarrels.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Be sure to talk to your husband calmly about this issue, talk to your husband about your thoughts, and try to seek common ground while reserving differences.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Then sit down calmly and talk to your husband about the second child, and it is best to seek common ground while reserving differences.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Then try to talk to your husband about the second child and resolve the contradictions between them.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Summary. Kiss, hug <>

    <> you must adjust your mentality at this time After the end of the mother's pregnancy, the body and psychology will undergo great changes, for your own body and baby, we must be strong. <>

    <> since giving birth to her second child, her husband has quarreled every day.

    Hello dear, can you find out what you and your lover are quarreling about?

    Is it because of the child's problem?

    The baby is only 5 months old and 11 years old, what should I do, I can't stop the tears, I am aggrieved I take the child by myself, I'm sorry, I made you wait for <> for a long time

    Kiss Yu Da and hug <>

    <> you must adjust your mentality at this time, your mother will change a lot after the end <>of her pregnancy, and your body and psychology will change a lot, for your own body and baby, we must be strong

    Teacher <> suggests that when your lover is at home, you can have an in-depth conversation, talk to him about your emotions and thoughts in your heart, some negative emotions need to be vented, and also tell your husband that I hope he can understand a lot of his current involuntary emotions, which cannot be controlled by Brother Yuan, I hope he can be more tolerant.

    It is indeed not easy for a returnee to take a baby who is a few months old, and the teacher can understand the helplessness and uncomfortable <> you know that you are hungry

    We hope that through our communication, we can help you <>

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Summary. Hello, happy to answer your questions<>

    After conceiving your second child, you quarrel with your husband because you are unwell during pregnancy, and at the same time there are hormones that affect your mood, and you are more stressed and anxious, and you want your husband to understand your hardship, see your fragility, and help you. It's not a bad thing to quarrel, it's just that it communicates in an argumentative way, he doesn't understand you, he doesn't understand your needs, you have to tell her how you feel and at the same time ask for your needs.

    After being pregnant with her second child, she quarreled with her husband.

    Hello, happy to answer your questions<>

    After conceiving your second child, you quarrel with your husband because you are unwell during pregnancy, and at the same time there are hormones that affect your mood, and you are under pressure, very anxious and worried, and you want your husband to understand your hardships, see your fragility, and help you. It's not a bad thing to quarrel, it's just a way to communicate in an argumentative way, he doesn't understand you, he doesn't understand your needs, you have to tell her how you feel, and at the same time make a fuss about your needs.

    Hello, my eldest is two years old and is now 20 weeks pregnant. My husband was reluctant to communicate with me, and I quarreled for three days.

    Kiss, and you quarrel with him, but also affect the child's emotions, regret including the child's feelings for him, if you can, it's best to tell yourself that for the sake of the body, for the sake of the child, you can't quarrel can't quarrel. This way, next time, little by little, you can control yourself. Husband is the common name for husband; It's cheesy to call, it looks pretty good, and it's heartwarming to think about.

    Kiss, why are you looking for this, let him talk to him, and also take care of him, you are pregnant with a child, what do you say, otherwise I will be upset when I look at it.

    He is too macho, and I think that if this continues, our marriage will come to an end sooner or later, and he is not willing to talk to him about it. There's really no way to communicate.

    I'm really speechless about him now I don t want to touch the child I am pregnant with now I didn t talk to him I told the fortune teller that we would laugh quietly after three years or. I really don't know how to communicate with him.

    Kiss, since this is the case, you have to talk to him, you tell him, this is related to the marriage of the high-level here, if you still don't want to talk like this, then our marriage will really come to an end.

    said that he also told him in vain, playing the piano to the cow.

    People don't want to communicate.

    Kiss, then you just say, let's divorce and see how he reacts.

    People say they will leave.

    Kiss, since this is the case, just look at the rough ruler rock high you, you can feel that he doesn't want to be defeated with you anymore, and even doesn't want to talk to you at first, you have to think about it, do you still want to live.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Summary. Hello lady, seeing your situation, the first is because you are unwell during pregnancy, and at the same time there are hormones that affect your mood, and the other is that you are more stressed and anxious, and you want your husband to understand your hardships, see your vulnerability, help you, and love you more, quarreling is not a bad thing, but communicating in a disputed way, he does not understand you, does not understand your needs, you have to tell her your feelings, and at the same time put forward your needs.

    Hello lady, seeing your situation, the first is because you are unwell during pregnancy, and at the same time there are hormones that affect your scumbag mood, and the other is that you are more stressed and anxious, you want your husband to understand your hard work, see your fragile posture, help you, love you more, quarrel is not a bad thing, just communicate in a disputed way, he does not understand you, does not understand your needs, you have to tell her your feelings, and at the same time put forward your needs.

    I don't know what to do.

    It's really tired, maybe he doesn't like children, even if he has time, he doesn't want to accompany his children, and he is not very excited when the second child comes.

    First of all, does your body have a big pregnancy reaction? Chong Xiaozhi: Secondly, do you want him to meet your needs? At present, depending on the situation, you like the child very much, and he doesn't like it, so he passively agrees to your request to have a second child, in this case, he really can't be interested and help you, because this is not what he needs.

    And this situation has something to do with his upbringing and his relationship with his parents, which affects his liking for children. In addition to not accompanying the children, how is she doing in other aspects?

    So in this case, you don't want to make too many requests from Meng Tongyu and him, let him love the child, and let him support him in other aspects of the family, after all, the child is what you want, not what he wants.

    And if you quarrel with him, it will also affect the child's emotions, including Zhaoqi child's Dan Ruzi's feelings for him, your husband should have some pain in his late skin when he was a child, including that he also has doubts about himself.

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