My mother in law is overzealous, what should I do?

What era is this, and the words of the matchmaker are still the orders of the parents. So what is your husband's attitude towards this matter?

At this time, if the mother-in-law really blames you, you can actually feel gratified, indicating that the mother-in-law cares about you very much, but people will inevitably have wrong judgments, so if you are not satisfied with the management of your mother-in-law, you can actually use it as a reference, but do not forget to thank him, this concept of the older generation has been difficult to change, and only our generation can change, so it is the best policy to face family problems with a happy heart.

Hey, it's easy to have contradictions when two generations live together, it seems that your mother-in-law is still very strong, you have to live together for a long time, you have to fight, see what your husband's opinion is, if he can insist that the two of you pass alone, you two can pass alone, you better communicate with your husband.

Handle it calmly Don't rush. Is it for the elderly? That's all.

Don't be stubborn with her, be patient and make it clear to her, maybe it will work well.

Let's talk about it, it's not like a ...... who will be embarrassed for a daughter-in-law if you are so enthusiastic

I really don't understand if I did something wrong and what should I do, I communicated with him well and he hurt me like this. But your feelings are gone every day, it's better to break up early, your boyfriend's financial power is in your mother-in-law.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if the two have been made public and do not give each other face, then this situation will affect the direction of the marriage. It shows that this contradiction has been made public and irreconcilable. In fact, it is very simple to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if you can do the following 2 points, it is OK.

If you want your in-laws to accept you quickly, it's very simple, put your husband first in front of your in-laws. Otherwise, the most unhappy is the mother-in-law. Because the mother-in-law always felt that marrying such a daughter-in-law, the son was very aggrieved.

As a daughter-in-law, you must accept the fact that after the previous love and marriage process, your husband recognizes you, but it still takes a process to make other people in the family recognize you.

After all, the daughter-in-law is an outsider, blood is thicker than water, and the mother-in-law feels sorry for her son after all, and it is human nature to blame the daughter-in-law first if there is a problem. Could it be that the mother-in-law will stand in the position of her daughter-in-law and have trouble with her son? It is even more unreasonable and unreasonable to have this kind of mother.

Therefore, a smart daughter-in-law will not compete with her mother-in-law for Mr.

Compare your heart to your heart and speak the right words. The elderly are usually more frugal, but in fact, their hearts are for their children; And young people think that the money is earned by themselves, and they can buy it if they are optimistic, so there are often contradictions.

Of course, the daughter-in-law can buy the things she likes, but she must properly consider the feelings of the elders: "Actually, I don't want to buy it at all, but after a look at it on the side, everyone said that the opportunity is rare, and it took a long time to queue up to grab it." If you feel that a discount is more expensive, you can transfer it to a colleague who did not grab it.

Another example is that the mother-in-law asked her daughter-in-law to buy fish, but the daughter-in-law forgot about it. For example, if you tell your mother-in-law directly that you have forgotten, it is strange that your mother-in-law is not angry: "Your things have never been forgotten, only the things I confessed will be forgotten."

The daughter-in-law was a little tactful: "When I went, the seller said that today's fish was not fresh enough, and asked me to go early tomorrow morning, and he gave me the freshest." When the daughter-in-law told her mother-in-law, everyone was overjoyed.

Mother-in-law can only accept your good, but cannot bear your bad. So, ah. You can be as filial to your mother-in-law as you are to your mother, but you can't be as willful as your mother, in short, you have to remember one sentence. You have to outwit your mother-in-law, you can lie to him, you just can't be too honest.

First of all, it is extremely damaging for you and your husband to get pregnant out of wedlock. Whether you believe it or not, you can take a look at more factual cases, after such a girl gets married, it is not that her husband does not cherish it, but her in-laws will look down on her. So I think some of the things your mother-in-law said to look down on you are not without reason.

Second: Your husband doesn't work and spends his father-in-law's money, so your family's economy is not very rich, with less income and more output. Mother-in-law values money, which is understandable, and she should not complain too much about her mother-in-law.

Shouldn't you little couples make money? It should be your own business, you shouldn't gnaw at the old, and you shouldn't complain about your mother-in-law. How to use the money of the in-laws, how to use the mother-in-law, the juniors have no right to accuse, they are not used to the care, and they have no right to speak.

The more you talk about it, the more you feel that your landlord is very childish, and also, you are very young, and many of them are your own intuitive ideas.

Third: Your husband is not self-motivated, this is the big problem, but you should not remind him in the tone of a lesson. If a person has bad habits, he will find all kinds of reasons for himself, and your dissatisfaction will not help.

Now that your children are small, you are taking care of your children, are you in the family, taking care of your children well, taking care of your home in an orderly manner, and making your in-laws filial and happy. The family is happy, will the husband reflect on himself, the wife is so good, does he owe something? He knows what a man who stands up to the sky and the earth should be.

Home and everything is prosperous, first of all, no matter whether the old man is right or not, he should learn filial piety, do his filial piety, coax the old man to be happy, and solve any problem. Don't keep your eyes on how your mother-in-law protects her shortcomings and how she values money. If you do a good job, their shortcomings will converge, and you have to change yourself first.

People's hearts are flesh and blood, and if you do a good job, they will be moved. On the contrary, if you look at them with a critical eye, your family's problems will never be solved. It's always a vicious circle, you look at their faults, they still look at your faults, who is it good for?

You have to earn your own money, just don't spend their money. It's short-handed. You are not her son and grandson, so why should you spend money? I think that's what your mother-in-law thinks.

Why do you like such a husband? Are you not doing well with your mother-in-law? Why ask her for money if you have money yourself?

After all, she's not your own mother. Of course she'll help your husband. The path you choose.

No way. You said that people used to introduce you to a lot of good. Why don't you?

Now it's your choice to marry like this. Don't blame anyone. If you rely on your own hands, no one will say anything about you.

You don't have to be angry with her.

Hehe, as the so-called raising a son and raising a son, he must have spent the old man's money first, and after he established, he raised two old people.

I have some suggestions for dealing with family relationships:

1. Be humble, don't be stupid to each other in everything, give each other more opportunities to talk, think more about each other, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and family affection is priceless.

2. A surprise creates a dramatic effect, and often many contradictions are lost in jokes.

3. Divide responsibilities, assume their own responsibilities and obligations, do a little bit for the family, and think less for themselves.

4. Dualized communication, many conflicts are due to the lack of communication between family members, which exacerbates the conflicts.

5. Be open-minded, life is short, we should create a harmonious society and a harmonious family, think about everything, don't worry about everything, don't intrigue, don't be greedy, be open-minded, and be grateful to live a relaxed and happy life.

This, the problem is first of all with you and your mother-in-law, you have to resolve the misunderstanding with your mother-in-law, and get along with you carefully! Let's try to find the reason!

In addition, on your husband's side, as a son, there is nothing wrong with filial piety first!