How should older single dogs deal with relatives and friends during the Chinese New Year?

Nowadays, don't talk about the older leftover men, even the newly graduated boys will be urged to marry by the seven aunts and eight aunts as long as they return home for the New Year, and they always ask about death, they will always say, oh, why don't you have a girlfriend yet? When are you going to get married? I can't stand this kind of torture, so I go home every year and become a kind of trouble for my male friends, because my parents will also have this idea under the persuasion of relativesThey will also knock on the side to let you find your beloved girlfriend and come back to get married earlier, and the sooner you get married, they can let them hold their big fat grandson.

In the face of this kind of torture, we can also move with emotion and reason, don't attack each other with irritable replies, we just need to keep smiling calmly, maintain a peaceful attitude to talk to them, first of all, when talking to your parents, you can tell them the reason, because now the beginning of graduation must be career-oriented, many people pay for their ideals. I don't want to be bothered by other trivial thingsSo we can tell our parents about our ideals and let them understand us a little.

In the days to come, I will slowly talk about my girlfriend, and secondly, you can give them negative teaching materials, such as who got married very early, and then the marriage was not happy or happy, and it didn't take long to break up, such examples are told to them, tell them that marriage is not in a hurry, and they must find their own suitability, so that they will naturally understand the truthBecause since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been the most difficult to solve.

So if you find someone who is impatient, and your mother is also impatient, two people who collide together will naturally cause a lot of trouble, so they will naturally understand you and agree with you. I learned a few of the above tipsThen we don't have to worry about their soul torture when we go home for the New Year, and we can deal with it very easily.

I think it's very wrong to think this way, because marriage is your own business, as long as you feel that your current state is good, as long as you don't care too much about other people's opinions, then no matter what kind of attitudes and practices your relatives and friends have, you won't feel very concerned.

When the older "single dog" celebrates the New Year, in the face of the "death question" of relatives and friends, the best way is to change the topic and lead the topic to themselves, such as the second aunt heard that your son has bought a house, how has the second aunt been working recently, has your daughter's salary increased Yunyun.

The first move: preemptively.

A tooth for a tooth and leave the other party speechless.

Auntie, I don't think you're very good, did my uncle take you on a trip to love? "Uncle, when are you going to buy a new car? My classmate's father drove a Mercedes-Benz to pick up and drop off his children, and that face was really going to burst.

Uncle, have you been promoted? How many projects do you have to review after the New Year!? "Auntie, how is your shop's business doing?

The store will definitely expand next year, and call your son to come back to help look after the store, and you will send him more work? Then asked in a tone of concern for the fat intestines, "Auntie, the two-child policy has been liberalized, why don't you have another one?" material grinding".

The second move: take the initiative to attack.

Sister, do you have a boyfriend? When are you going to get married? Then ask in a default tone:

My brother should be getting married soon, right? Where to buy a wedding house? Or, help my brother prepare a wedding room, right?

Is the lot **? I heard that he came back a long time ago, did his wife come back with him? What's your relationship?

Will you live with them in the future? What about the uncle, he can't get used to living in a big city! Who will take the child after giving birth?

Do you want to pay for food? How are mahjong battles going lately? Square dancing should be more participatory, good for your body

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This depends on what you think, if you feel that Qi Meng is so excited that you don't know how to find a girlfriend, then it is useless for you to deal with relatives and friends by cheating.

I used to think I didn't want to find a girlfriend, but it was actually because I didn't have any money and didn't make a name for myself outside.

In fact, how much I want to have love like others in my heart, even my lover and children.

It wasn't until my father died unexpectedly at the age of 36 that I realized that there were many things that I didn't work hard for, and my girlfriend was the same.

If you have someone you like, you will chase it desperately, and you will definitely be able to catch it, and if you don't have money, you will earn it with all your might. If you haven't already, it's just that you're not putting in enough effort.

A year after my father died, I got married, and now my child is 5 years old, with a house of more than 100 square meters, a Polo, a C200L, and a façade.

Sometimes you don't push yourself, you don't even know how high you can achieve.

No matter how old you are, you can only face it calmly, as the saying goes, "when you are strong, you are strong, and when you are weak, you are weak", if you are calm or take the initiative to say that you are still an older young man, I think it should be difficult for the seven aunts and eight aunts to say something. You think that if you are secretive, it will only arouse their curiosity, and they will come and ask you questions.

I think if you take the initiative to tell your family why you are still single, let them know if you don't want to look for it, or if you can't find it after looking for a long time. If you tell them frankly that they understand what you really think, they will naturally not ask blindly.

And after making it clear, if you plan to marry later because you want to have a good career, they will naturally not keep forcing you to find a girlfriend; If there is no suitable girl around, or interpersonal communication is limited, and a good girl can also say it, maybe the family can just help you introduce, don't look down on blind dates this year, the success rate is very high, because there will be no risk factors for divorce if you know the roots.

I have two older brothers who don't have a partner yet, they should be considered older single youths, and one of them should be considered super elderly single youth. It's not that they haven't looked for a partner, and each of them has been looking for a while before they are separated for some reason. Whenever relatives think that this time is very reliable and will definitely go to the palace of marriage, this relationship will end again.

When I went back to my hometown two days ago, I joked with my brother about why don't you find a partner, and my brother smiled and didn't say anything. I think older young men can use this method when they should ask their relatives during the Spring Festival, don't talk to each other, just smile. In this case, relatives will be embarrassed to ask you again.

And if your conditions are very good, you say that you want to find someone with the same conditions as you, and you don't want to compromise, and wait. If you feel that you can work a little harder to make your conditions better before finding a girlfriend, say to the other person: "Get rid of poverty first and then get rid of singles".

There are still many ways to deal with relatives, because relatives don't really want you to do anything, but they notice that your biggest problem right now is that you don't have a partner.

It's the time of the spring when thousands of homes are brightly lit again, some people are happy and some are worried. The children like the Chinese New Year the most, with red envelope collars, new clothes to wear, and carefree. And those older single young people have fallen into the sea of misery.

Not only do you have to divide your hard-earned money among the many flowers of the motherland, but you also have to deal with the earnest condolences from the seven aunts and eight aunts.

If you want to have a good year in peace, it is impossible to do without some tricks. The first stop is to avoid it. If you can, you won't go out if you don't go out, and you can cope with the ways you tried to skip school back then.

said that he had a cold and didn't want to infect others, so he didn't go out under an excuse. If, if it really doesn't work, relatives come to your house, you can be polite and rush back to the bedroom, or find an excuse to go out without giving the other party any chance.

Of course, it is always avoided, and it is not necessarily impossible to see. If you really have to reply positively, you can only face it calmly, saying that your career is still in a stable period, and focus on your career first, and then fall in love. Or just lie and say that there is a partner, but it is not stable yet.

When I ask again, I'll just find a reason to say it. Or, preemptively, ask the other person about the child's situation first, or some inconsequential questions. When asked, I quickly changed the subject.

It can be said that talking about the Spring Festival is like escaping from death, and practicing a body that is not bad.