I lack a pliable side of my character, what should I do

Knowing your own shortcomings, and you are willing to change it, it's not difficult, let yourself relax and don't be too careful with others, don't be tired of living like this, don't be afraid of offending people, what is right is right and what is wrong is wrong, as long as you stick to the principles and stick to your position, it's fine, and don't be afraid of your boss or whom, if you have a different opinion on your boss or the person you are afraid of offending, if you have a different opinion, you should be tactful when pointing it out, if you know that this person has to be too selfish, if you can't listen to other people's opinions, then don't say it, As long as you know which is right and which is wrong, it's good, there's no need, you have to say it to offend him, for the people we usually interact with, there is no need to care too much, it doesn't matter if others don't accept it, you can't have to let others act according to your will, so if you disagree, don't take it to heart, talk and do things as usual, don't let people think that you are a person who is easy to offend, be generous, be open-minded and kind, don't fight with people for a trivial matter. In this way, you will definitely be popular and comfortable in life and work, and I wish you good luck.

If you don't do bad things, you're afraid that the ghost won't knock on the door? Be an upright person and do things in a down-to-earth manner, even if others misunderstand, you have a clear conscience!

1.Fall in love.

2.Find a close friend.

In a person's life, it is inevitable to offend people, and it is only a matter of how much.

So you don't have to be so strict with your words and deeds, just go with the flow.

If it's your friend, then you don't have to be so careful, a good friend will be completely considerate of you and tolerate you!

If you're really afraid of offending other people, then you should always put yourself in their shoes. Always think: How would you react to a certain action or a certain sentence that was spoken by that person?

It may be tiring at first, but you will be rewarded with a few more attempts. This way, you can avoid some of the usual communication problems. (But while imagining, you also have to consider the personality of the other person.) ）

Are you male or female? You have to work hard no matter what, and I suggest you take a look at Chow Yun-fat's version of Shanghai Beach to see how those people have gained experience.

It's better to be a teacher in school, ** it's very challenging, if you have a weak personality, you'll be bullied, hehe.

A person's fate has his own palm, really regretful, eager to change, just say it's useless, the key to the collapse is to do, to change but still afraid, how to do it, the opinions of parents can only be the most reference, this is your own life!!

People can't always be in a good mood, since there are setbacks and troubles in life, there will be negative emotions. A psychologically mature person is not a person who does not have negative emotions, but someone who is good at regulating and controlling his emotions. There are many ways to deal with emotions, but keeping an eye on them is the most important and crucial.

Most people are confused and miserable because they are unaware, they can't see themselves clearly, they can't understand others, so they are confused and uneasy. But looking at yourself is also the most difficult thing to do, because the ego is bigger than the sky, and it is difficult for you to let go and become humble. It is also because we don't know how to adopt the mind, looking for a way to calm down, the source of negative emotions can be negative experiences, and it can also be said to be negative inertia, and the events that evoke your negative experiences are just borrowed catalysts.

If the emotions are beyond the scope of one's control, the best way is not to release or suppress them, but to do nothing, learn to focus first, because when the negative energy is too large, you may not even be able to bear it if you release it indiscriminately, and it is easy to affect others. Repression is absolutely impossible, because the source of the problem is repression. If you are disturbed, you must first fix your mind, take care of your emotions, disagree, don't judge, let it appear, put your feelings in your heart, and keep your eyes and tears in your eyes, and your breathing is still chaotic.

The heart is the largest emotional control center, and in order to stabilize emotions, we must start from the heart and learn the method of centering. As for the method, everyone has to find it on their own. There are many, many Dharmas, and the key is not in the Dharma, but in your intentions and willingness.

I believe that I have the ability to open up the sea and the sky. We have to be the masters of our emotions and refuse to be controlled. Emotions are not the same as events.

It is the emotions that move and break, not the events themselves. We just don't understand, we agree that I am the whole emotional state, asking for hardships, pleasing emotions and impulses, but losing ourselves. We can calm our emotions and stay awake and autonomous through self-control, which is mature mind management.

Self-control is not the same as repression, because the former is an action after awakening, and the latter is a reaction of disorientation. The so-called self-control is to learn a set of emotional processing methods suitable for yourself, once you see that you are attacked by emotions, you have to protect yourself immediately, remind yourself that it is just to use weakness to defeat the pure thinking inertia of reason, and find appropriate ways to disperse the concentration of negative emotions, such as exercise, meditation, yoga, watching movies, volunteering, creating, talking to confidants, doing a spa, dressing up, etc., to bring out all the positive energy. Helping oneself requires determination and perseverance, and it must be a path that is walked and completed alone, as well as a responsibility for growth.

Self-treatment is always the most practical and practical method of self-protection, and no one can rely on it.

Only what makes you gentle and full of strength is good love; Only people who make your temper and character soft are worthy of your love.

Only what makes you gentle and full of strength is good love; Only people who make your temper and character soft are worthy of your love.

Find out why you're introverted first.

Generally speaking. No one is born particularly introverted.

Did something happen to you in the past?

It is recommended that you talk to a counselor.

Good luck.

Try to allow yourself to handle small things that don't matter as you like and independently, without thinking about what others will think or how others feel. Gradually develop the habit of being independent, so that you will not rely too much on others, and you will gradually build self-confidence.

When you have confidence in yourself, your character will naturally not be too weak.

Why should you consider changing your personality, it's very painful, in fact, you can do some career counseling, different personalities are suitable for different ways of doing things, I have a good friend, usually don't talk much, people are also very introverted, but thinking is very calm, I sighed to myself, the last time we met, everyone made more than 10,000 yuan, hehe, there is nothing wrong with the personality, find the direction of running as soon as possible.

Strengthen your abilities and enrich yourself, so that you can be confident. With self-confidence, you also have to be self-conscious......Communicate with people and don't lock yourself in the house......Not everyone in this world is suitable for rhetoric, just be yourself, don't be reluctant, it's easy to backfire.

Make yourself rich. will be confident.

Then you need to talk to others more and exercise yourself more.

Spend more time with cheerful people, and you will gradually become more cheerful.

Hello: From a psychological point of view, there is no such thing as a good or bad personality. I don't know what kind of character flaws you are talking about?

If you want to make a difference, you must first see the positive elements in your personality, accept and like yourself. You can also read some books on psychology or listen to some courses. Because you didn't say specifically, everyone in general is bothered by their low self-esteem and introversion, if that's the case, you can read some books on positive psychology; If you are nervous and anxious, you can learn to do relaxation training; If you lack self-confidence and feel like a failure, you can write about what you did well in your day every day, focusing on the positive aspects and not reinforcing the negative aspects.

Hope it helps.

In what ways does it manifest itself??

A serious personality is also something that requires oneself to be strict in order to accomplish

Hello, you are actually not very confident in this kind of performance, you can try in the future, what you want to say directly, don't say in the way of inquiry, for example, what I think is okay? That's not going to work, just say what I want, and be resolute in tone.