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Introduction: Some parents always do things that hurt their children in the name of loving their children, and these loves are even more harmful to their children. As a parent, you must learn to respect your child, don't be too strong, you are too strong will only make the child become very cowardly, very inferior, to guide the child through your words and actions, rather than manipulating him, you can help the child for a while, but can not help the child for a lifetime, you must learn to let go, don't overdo it.

I really don't like parents being too strong, my mother is very strong, and every time he expresses some ideas, he will have a bunch of words waiting there, and he will always say me, isn't it all for your good? I don't know if you're good for me, but your behavior makes you particularly disliked, and has always limited the development of your imagination, and will also limit your own behavior development, such behavior, in your opinion, is really hurting the child, but also destroying the child, don't be too strong, learn to let go appropriately, let the child do something they like to do, don't always think that their ideas are good, their behavior is right.

In addition, as a parent, we must learn to respect our children, treat our children as children, and do not always have some high expectations for children when they are young, these expectations are not conducive to the healthy development of children, and we must deeply understand the inner thoughts of children and respect the nature of children, so that we can make children's development more excellent. In addition, don't always complain in front of your child, especially to complain and blame your child, in fact, you are also putting some negative labels on your child, he will slowly become the kind of person in the mouth of his parents, and he really wants to make his child excellent, so use positive words to guide, instead of labeling negative words.

Comparing yourself with other people's children, often yelling at your children, doing everything for your children, making decisions for your children, and not giving your children the right to speak, these behaviors will ruin your children and make them very cowardly and incompetent.

Frequently criticizing children, or beating and scolding children, often losing temper, or treating children partially, lying to children, and making children make a fool of themselves in front of the public, these behaviors will make children lose self-confidence.

These behaviors are often accustomed to children, do not correct children's wrong behaviors, often spoil children, children do not criticize children when they make mistakes, do not point out children's wrong behaviors, and tolerate their own children.

Parents always put a lot of pressure on their children, often let their children go to some cram schools or training classes, and at the same time, it will also make the children bear a great price, which is not good for the growth of the children at all, and there will be many problems.

Let the child sleep on his stomach; Some children like to sleep on their stomachs when they go to bed at night, which is beneficial to digestion and absorption, and will also make him feel more belonging. Sleeping on your stomach is not conducive to your child's inhalation, and if the mattress or pillow plugs your mouth and nose are plugged, you may even put him at risk of shock.

Parents help their children do some housework within their ability, never blame their children, or never suppress their children, or just manage them too freely.

It is said that a child is a mirror, some of the parents' usual performance, as well as some of the parents' behaviors in life will affect the child, and some of our unintentional behaviors in life will cause great damage to the child's psychology. Below I have compiled 6 behaviors that parents can only ruin their children, hurry up and see if you have done the same thing? FYI.

It is not uncommon for many parents to be too "stingy" with themselves and too "generous" to their children. Half of these students have families whose per capita income is not the average for the locals. And some families with good economic conditions are even more "wealthy" and "responsive" to their children.

In fact, children who do whatever they want in terms of material enjoyment are likely to be poor and rebellious, who have little sense of responsibility, love to talk about pomp, and are more arrogant, and when they grow up, they don't know what frugality is, let alone manage money.

Some parents are too pampered when educating their children, which is not conducive to the future development of their children. It is understandable that parents love their children, and there will be a sense of happiness and superiority when children grow up in a loving family environment. But if parents spoil their children excessively, it will have an impact on the formation of children's three views, and parents will give what children want, once parents can not meet their children's requirements, then their psychology will not be able to bear.

So parents should not spoil their children too much, this kind of education will ruin the child's life.

I believe that many children will hear their parents say how difficult it is for them to expect you to get ahead in the future, which will make children have a kind of idea that my parents are incompetent. Parents should be a safe haven for their children, but in the face of such parents, children can easily have feelings of inferiority.

A child psychology research institute once conducted a psychological survey of more than 3,000 school-age children, and one of them was "what are you most afraid of your parents?" and the most common is: "I am most afraid of my parents getting angry and afraid that they will quarrel".

In the process of educating their children, many parents will beat and scold their disobedient children, which will ruin the child's life, and the child who is often scolded will have psychological trauma, leaving a shadow and easy to have misanthropic thoughts.

Parents will always promise their children some things for their children's better learning, but the children have reached it, but the parents do not fulfill it in time. This makes the child to the annoying parents, and this education model also has a bad influence on the child, and the parents will also invisibly affect the child's own development.

1. Feed the baby the chewed ingredients.

After the baby is one year old, he begins to eat complementary foods, but because his teeth have not yet grown, he has to eat some pureed ingredients, and the types of food that can be eaten are almost rare. Some parents are afraid that the baby's nutrition is unbalanced, so they will give him some chewed ingredients to enrich its complementary food types. But parents should remember that there are many kinds of germs in the parents' mouths, some of which will be infectious, and the baby's resistance is relatively poor, and it is very likely that he will get sick once it is affected, so it is best not to give him chewed ingredients.

You can use complementary food scissors to cut off large pieces of complementary food and then give it to the baby, so that it will be healthy and safe.

2. Kiss the baby's mouth.

Kissing the baby is the same as feeding the baby after chewing Lu Liang supplement food, which will infect the baby with germs in the mouth, so it is best for parents not to kiss its mouth. If you can't hold back your love for the baby, you can kiss his face, forehead, and jaw, because of such a place, it is not suitable to be infected by bacteria. The triangular area of the face, that is, near the nose as far as possible, there are more capillaries in this part, and most of them are connected to the human brain, once infected by bacteria, it will seriously affect the development of the baby's brain.

3. Sleep. When the baby is born, many parents can't get tired of watching it, they always want to hold him all the time, and they don't learn to put it down when he sleeps. However, it is recommended that parents do not have to fall asleep with their baby, because it is very easy to cultivate a good habit of "holding and sleeping" for him, and once such a habit is cultivated, it is difficult to correct.

And when the baby is a child, the human bones are very loose, in the arms of the parents, and it is detrimental to the development of his human bones, so it is best to let him sleep in the bed.

Fourth, pampered. Nowadays, parents pay special attention to their children, and their children are also very beautiful, which is actually no problem. But the key is that some parents cherish their children too much, no matter what kind of requirements this has to be met, which ones are reluctant to let him do, and slowly the early chaos will cultivate arrogant and willful temperament for children, but children with that temperament are generally not liked.

Usually spoiled behavior, not strict family discipline, this has a great impact on the high grinding child, we still have to let him pay attention to the principle of the question when renting a fight. Corrections.

The mayor of the town is always encouraging the child all the time, always protecting the child by his side, not wanting to let the child suffer a little setback, when the child makes a mistake, the parents will not criticize the child, but will continue to encourage.

There are some parents who don't let their children do anything, and they usually spoil their children in all kinds of ways, these behaviors seem to love their children, and they don't know that these behaviors have a great impact on their children's growth and children's life independence. Gross remorse.

Parents are the people who love their children in the world, but if they use the wrong education method, they will become the ones who hurt their children the most. There are many parents who educate their children to pick up dust and scold their children, which will not only cause harm to the child's body, but also cause psychological damage to the child. Physical injuries can be healed, but mental injuries will follow the child for a lifetime.

My colleague Wang Ming was beaten from childhood to adulthood, and Wang Ming never recognized his parents' education of him, and he never got married until now, and rarely went home to visit his parents. Many times Wang Ming's parents called him**, Wang Ming didn't want to answer, and some colleagues asked him if you were so disgusted with your parents?

Wang Ming said that since he was a child, he has lived in dire straits. If there is only one sentence that is wrong, he will be criticized and abused, and no matter how careful he is, he will be mistreated differently. When his parents were in a bad mood, they would scold him very badly, and his wish since he was a child was to escape from that home.

But when he grew up, his parents told him that these educations were all for Wang Ming's good.

The parents never realized the mistakes in their education, which only caused deeper and more serious damage to Wang Ming. The parent-child relationship between Wang Ming and his parents has long disappeared with his parents' beating and scolding, and now Wang Ming has lost confidence in marriage. He felt that after getting married, he would quarrel as often as his parents, and it would not bring warmth to his children, so it was better not to get married.

It can be seen that the wrong way of parenting hurts children the most. Everything in a child's life is brought to them by their parents, and children cannot survive without their parents. But parents who don't know how to educate their children can bring greater disasters to their children, and I hope that parents can face up to their love for their children, and don't punish and abuse them in the name of being good to their children.