How to deal with a mother in law who scolds all day long?

That is, don't live together, uncle, don't live together, don't live together, don't live together, and then live separately.

Hello! To deal with the scolding mother-in-law, we must first salute and then soldier, and the second is the contradiction transfer method. 1.

Salute first, then the art of war. I don't care about currying favor with my mother-in-law, no matter how my mother-in-law's attitude is, the new daughter-in-law will talk about things, you say yours, I will do mine. Anyway, if you stay under your nose every day, it's like you're no one.

Seeing that you have such an attitude, you can't even find a noisy character, so naturally it's also very boring. When the mother-in-law did too badly, she choked her a few words softly and hard. Brake her majesty.

The focus of this method is to be benevolent and righteous, and to bow first and then to fight. 2.Contradiction transfer method.

Often, if the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law becomes the main conflict in the family, there must be no peace in the family. Often, daughters-in-law should not make this pair of contradictions the main contradiction from the beginning. It looks like she's really a daughter-in-law.

So what should I do when I encounter my mother-in-law's tricks? Then after encountering something, the husband will go to the front sedan with his mother to talk about reason.

1. To deal with a good mother-in-law, you must be single-minded, compare your heart to your heart, and be your own mother-in-law Such a good mother-in-law will be better than your own For example, a good friend of mine, my mother-in-law is an ordinary retired worker, and when she gets married, she prepares a house, decorates and buys electrical appliances and furniture, and the new house is very close to her mother-in-law's house (in a building), they now eat at her mother-in-law's house every day, and then the bowl does not need to be washed to go back to their own home, and the mother-in-law organizes the wedding, and even accompanies the wedding dress in person, and it is very expensive, originally the venue is arranged with balloons, It turned out that my friend was pleasantly surprised when she got married, and the venue was full of flowers! That was a few years ago, buying a wedding dress was a luxury option for a few wealthy people, and flower arrangements were very rare in the north. When I jokingly said that it was too extravagant, her mother-in-law said that marriage is a lifelong event, and you can't wronged your daughter.

At that time, my friend was just a graduate student with no job or income, and his family was still out of town, and he looked very average. Until now, she has no money for expensive clothes, and she will talk to her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law will give her as much as she wants. She occasionally buys her mother-in-law something cheap, and her mother-in-law is very happy.

Even when she has to entertain friends, her mother-in-law's house takes care of the food. All in all, it's so rare! Mother-in-law like this, how can you bear to be awkward with her?

2. To deal with ordinary mothers-in-law, such as my mother-in-law, you must be prepared, be a little careful, be more careful, and in the end, you must be compassionate and purify all sentient beings. My mother-in-law is an ordinary mother-in-law, and it is not a great thing for me to praise or resent. He didn't care much about me, sometimes he blamed and interfered in my life, occasionally he poured cold water on me, treated my father-in-law like a slave, vanity and caution coexisted.

It should be the kind that is spoiled, spoiled by his parents since he was a child, and spoiled by his generous husband when he grew up. After getting married, because the place of my internship was far away from the unit, my parents told me not to be reluctant to take a rental to work, although my internship is not profitable, but my mother's marriage is enough to play for 30 years, but she feels uncomfortable

1.Draw the line.

Even relatives have to draw a clear line, let alone mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The wife should understand her role and role, and the mother-in-law should also understand what her role should be in the family. Both sides do their own thing, don't interfere too much.

2.Don't expect too high a bar.

First of all, we must recognize that a mother-in-law is a mother-in-law, after all, she is not a mother-in-law, and a daughter-in-law is not a daughter. Mother-in-law will not be able to understand your various living habits and tolerate your various small shortcomings like mother. Nowadays, many young people hope that their mother-in-law can help take care of their children and take care of the family, but they also don't want their mother-in-law to dictate their lives.

Mother-in-law is not selfless for you, so if sometimes mother-in-law doesn't want to help you, there is no need to complain and blame too much.

3.Respectful but not subservient.

Respect is essential, mother-in-law is an elder, and at the same time, it is also a manifestation of respect for husband. When we make some decisions, we can also try to take the initiative to ask my mother-in-law's opinion. Of course, respect does not mean that everything should be subservient.

When the mother-in-law makes some "vexatious" requests, it is necessary to weigh whether this is within the scope of her own principles. If you exceed the bottom line, you can turn around through your husband. There is no need to do something against your will in order to show respect for the elderly and filial piety, these grievances are likely to break out in the end, which may be even more detrimental to the relationship between husband and wife.

4.Understand the taboo of the mother-in-law.

What are the taboos of mother-in-law? How much do you know as a daughter-in-law? Everyone has their own principles, usually pay attention to words and deeds, the eldest lady's temper naturally has to be collected in front of her mother-in-law, and she must not challenge her mother-in-law's bottom line.

Mother-in-law can only accept your good, but cannot bear your bad. So, ah. You can be as filial to your mother-in-law as you are to your mother, but you can't be as willful as your mother, in short, you have to remember one sentence. You have to outwit your mother-in-law, you can lie to him, you just can't be too honest.

It's not good for you to be like this, your husband will be sad to be caught in the middle, after all, the other party is. When you get married, you're a family, so it's better to get along in harmony anyway. It doesn't matter who is right or wrong, what matters is that you and your husband will be happy and happy in the future.

Turn a blind eye to right and wrong, and don't take unimportant things too seriously. Learn to be inclusive.

Like my mother-in-law, my husband and I are misers, and I often secretly give money to my sister-in-law, and my sister-in-law's salary is higher than ours, and she also told us not to use the money indiscriminately to keep them to prevent old age.

You can directly tell her that you can't scold you, she can point out what she did wrong, but she can't scold, if she scolds you this time and you don't say anything, there will be a next time.

Explain the situation to your husband, now it is not the kind of daughter-in-law who married out or was in the husband's family in ancient times, and sometimes life needs to be compromised, but you don't need to be too wronged by yourself.

You should talk to your husband about the situation, let him coordinate it, and if he can't solve it, don't live with your mother-in-law.

First of all, you should tell your husband about it. If he loves you, he will reconcile you with your mother-in-law. If he can't do it, or if he can't change anything, you can consider separating.

If it's you who did something wrong, then take the initiative to admit it, and if it's unreasonable, communicate with your husband, and believe that he will persuade your mother-in-law.

For this kind of old man. Ignore him. The more you ignore him, the more arrogant he becomes. He also scolded people, he was more powerful, and the more rampant he became. It's okay for him to say anything outside, just ignore him?

At this time, you don't need to scold her, just stay away from her. You came to this house so that you can live with your husband. And not to come and quarrel with her.

You can find your husband to complain, or you can directly live with your mother-in-law, out of sight and out of mind, and you won't scold if you don't see it.

You can choose, pretend not to hear, or have a good talk with her, why can't you speak in a good voice and must use a scolding way?