I m always used to empathy, and in the end, I spoil everyone around me, what should I do?

Empathy is a good habit, asserting one's own interests, as long as it is legitimate and reasonable, must also be respected.

If empathy results in smoother communication and win-win results, then there may be three possibilities:

First, this kind of empathy is not a real sense of empathy, but just "if I were him, what would I do", this assumption is actually based on one's own knowledge structure, cognitive model and experience framework. The real transposition is to put aside oneself and fully understand what the other person would do if he was in this situation, rather than "I think" how it is good for him and how it is good for him.

Second, this kind of empathy is not really "thinking about the other party", but expressing a kind of "I think about it from your point of view, so you have to think about it for me", the second half of the sentence is the point, and it is the real purpose of this kind of transposition. Therefore, when the other party follows your position and arrives at the opinion, you do not feel relieved, but feel that they have to make in.

3. If a person "always" empathizes, he may feel a little "not principled" to others, and you want to consider the other person, but you do not put forward your own considerations and propositions reasonably and appropriately.

People will not know what you really think, or they will "say" what you really think. Proper empathy must be based on principle. Only by sticking to oneself can we better understand others.

Hehe, it is said that good people are difficult to do, and what you encounter is a typical problem that good people are difficult to do. Empathy itself is a concrete manifestation of the concept of equality, and it is not a problem, but how to apply it appropriately is a problem. Empathy can be used as a skill in interpersonal communication, but it is not the most fundamental and core foundation of interpersonal communication.

Only when everyone is responsible for their own interests and their own claims can we help maintain the long-term health of our relationships. Interpersonal, communicative, don't force it. You need to think about others, but you have to insist on asserting yourself.

Otherwise, it is to encourage the greed of others. Healthy interpersonal relationships are a balance of each other's strengths and methods.

Empathy is a technique that you can't blame for the results you're leading to. It is your heart that is too weak to reject others. It is necessary to be a good person, but if you can't learn to be a good person with ability, that is, you are good and being bullied.

The boundaries of interpersonal relationships are not clear, interpersonal relationships are mutual, and the final result is a "win-win", and your interpersonal communication model is a single win, even if the losing party can achieve psychological balance temporarily, it is also forbearance, and the inner force suppresses its own needs, how long can it last?

There is a needle in the cotton, and the outside is round and the inside is square. Being a human being, you can't just teach, grasp your bottom line, and slowly experience and summarize.

The boundaries are not clear, and the premise of transposition is to put yourself in your own position.

Just pay attention to one degree.

Now that you are aware of the problem, then this problem can be solved. As long as people know how to reflect, their character will become better. I think when facing this problem, you should first seriously think about why your parents can be so good to you, so tolerant, because you are their blood and bones, they have given you so much, shouldn't it cost you politeness and respect?

In addition, your friends around you, they are not your relatives, they will not have such good patience. No one wants to take your bad temper, do they? And the worry is that everyone has it, your parents have experienced more than you, and they have to worry more than you, but I think they are in a good mood.

Remember, a truly cultivated person knows how to bring happiness to everyone. A person who knows how to enjoy life knows how to quickly disappear bad moods!

You all know that the mistake is **, so why don't you try to admit it and change it.

If you know it's wrong, change it!

The wisdom of the Buddha is like the sea, why not ask for advice?

Take a look at the Buddhist scriptures!

Your life will never be there.

Proper consideration of oneself, people do not destroy for their own sake.

Upstairs: Do you really understand the meaning of people not destroying the heavens and the earth for themselves?

What you do will consider the feelings of others, it is a mature and stable performance of a person, and you do a good job of empathy without changing!

First of all, you need to be aware of the physical and mental effects of smoking and drinking, as well as on your luck. Then when you want to do it in the future, you will remember these bad things, and then after 1 year, 2 years, 3 years, you will change it. If you want to quit all at once, that's unlikely.

Remember not to break bad habits, but to quit smoking and alcohol. Take the precepts as a teacher. I'm sure you'll make it!

Since it has been said that it is a bad habit and not.

Respect people's habits, that is, you have realized that this is a bad thing, but the depth is not enough, teenagers are habits, adults are products, habits can be changed, products can be mentioned. Convinced, willing, then the rest is a matter of method. Respect for the elderly and others is not only a virtue of the Chinese people, but also a criterion and need for social survival.

If you don't respect others, others won't respect you, interpersonal relationships won't be harmonious, tense relationships won't be able to cooperate, and nothing can be successful. If you want to change the product, you should have self-cultivation. Remove selfishness in everything, think about others first, leave room for others in case of trouble, empathize, and think about a few more ifs.

On top of that, it is advisable to learn PR etiquette, and this is how to do it. Believe in yourself and believe in others. When you taste the sweetness of respecting others, you will care, love, and respect others more.

It's a virtuous circle. As long as you work hard and believe in yourself, you will be able to succeed!

Because when you think like this, you think it's a bad habit and you want to change it. However, when you are physically exhausted, even if you know it's a bad habit, you can't stop drinking, and you can't think of anything else that can make you happier than drinking.

So there are two kinds of methods, one of which is material, finding things or things that can make you happier when you are physically exerting a lot.

The second is spiritual, finding the spiritual pillar that can convince you not to drink when you are physically exerting a lot. For example, watching some more extreme disaster movies about alcohol and cigarette-induced diseases, under the dome of Chai Jing is good.

Breaking bad habits requires a strong determination and an iron will, knowing that these bad habits are absolutely harmful to your physical and mental health.

People with more extreme personalities tend to have unstable personalities, and they are prone to go to the extreme of their emotions, either doing this or not doing this very extreme. Well, try to take care of some of his emotions when dealing with him, including self-esteem, so that you can get along harmoniously.

It seems that you tolerate everything, spoiled her, many girls are not extreme, but will not empathize, everything is to blame others, will not think about how they are, if you reason with her and she doesn't listen, it proves that she has become accustomed to the self-oriented model, if you still want to be with her, then you have to endure.

Endure it if you can, don't be in a hurry! Tell her patiently!

Ignore him, keep a certain distance, and don't get too intimate.

Separation, it may be a matter of time, and some things cannot be forced.

It's not good for you to do that, and you're going to be slow to make progress.

I think you should be when someone else asks you to do something.

Think more about why you want to do this and not that.

What's in it for that.

After a long time, you will summarize other people's thoughts.

I will also become thoughtful.

But in the company, you still have to learn to obey.

It's just that behind the obedience you have your own thinking.

Please don't give up.

If you want to be a leader, exercise more, and try to lead the people around you first.

If you want to be a leader, you must first learn to suffer losses and empathy.

Work hard, just be the boss.

Good luck.

Teach them as little children ... It's a habit, and you can't ask them to do it right away. And you're still young, men at this age are more in a hurry, don't ask too high for women, they are still in the arms of their gentle parents...

In fact, many men are like this now, and they are spoiled... Relax. Also, you say all women ...

What a woman you are, a master.

While picking on others, you must also learn to empathize, so that your mind will be much calmer, and the most important thing is to have a normal heart.

After all, men hold up half the sky, and as a man, they should protect and be considerate of women. So don't dislike them or anything, and if you have patience, teach them how to do things.

That's up to you.