How to adapt to loneliness? Lonesome? How to adapt to loneliness?

Being is lonely, don't be afraid of being alone, this is the pure enlightenment that life gives us, it doesn't carry any meaning. If you mend the relationship with yourself, learn tolerance, and know how to respect each other's freedom, there is not much difference between two people and one person, and one person can live better than two people. If you believe, it will be a little better and understand the happiness of self-sufficiency.

The biggest knot in people's hearts is that they only see the fault of others, and identify themselves as victims, but the unfortunate poor people can't see through them, and the victims are often self-harmful, using the existence of others to harm themselves, and thinking about living a bad relationship, I don't know what to do. Can you take love seriously? Let go of yourself a little bit and love yourself a little more?

A person who loves himself does not allow himself to live in the shadow of self-pity and hurt is a sign of cowardice. It is necessary to distinguish the difference between love and harm. This is true for loved ones, for lovers, and even more so for self.

When you are still you and I am still me, you know how to respect and love each other, and we walk together for a period of care, which is the gift of fate, and it is too late to thank you. When there is no fear of loneliness, there is no need to divide one person and two people, women and men, tenderness and violence, loyalty and betrayal, love and hate. The human energy is such that when you internalize the feelings and emotions that have gone bad and let yourself bear and bear it alone, sooner or later you will break down.

Theoretically, people are bound to be lonely, and no one can live for you, but emotionally, if you can't find a point to rely on, you will easily collapse if you are helpless. When the energy is exhausted, the strongest man in the world will fall. When we are tired, our energy falls to the bottom, our emotions are traumatic, we encourage negative imagination, and everything suddenly becomes gray and meaningless.

You must remind yourself that this feeling is just an inertial loop of cranial nerves that tend to negative reactions, not a reflection of life, so don't identify with it. When the energy declines, don't hold on to it, people are lonely animals, but don't be attached to loneliness.

Find an emotional point to rely on, such as a lover, such as a pet, such as yourself, like God, put it in your heart, love him, and then smile at yourself and say thank you. Don't care if this reliance point is real, people are people, and you have to rely on emotional pillars stronger than yourself to live'! Don't mind relying on it, don't care about saving face or anything, people are originally group animals, and there is no reason and need to be lonely and clinging.

Grasp a point of reliance that allows you to be centered, calm yourself, and then surpass yourself, if you can improve, you can realize the meaning of life!

Zhang Xiaoxian's famous saying, after people fall in love with someone, they will be lonely, think back to your childhood, will you feel lonely?

Liu Yu talks about how to adapt to loneliness :

When I was younger, I thought it was cool to be alone. Growing up, I felt that loneliness was a very bleak thing. Now, I don't think being alone is a thing. At the very least, try not to make it a thing.

Sometimes, what is needed is true despair.

True despair has nothing to do with pain and sorrow. It is reassuring and makes you realize that you can't rely on someone else, anyone, to be happy. It humbles you because all that others can bring to you becomes a surprise.

It allows you to return only to your heart. Everyone has a different self inside of them, and they can talk to each other. You can also learn to observe the changes in small things, the weather, the seasons, the vegetables in the supermarket, the pretty kids on the street, you know, everything has a secret that is worth it, as long as you really – I mean really – look at it.

Of course, there are books, newspapers, movies and television, the Internet, ***, CDs, which contain other people's lives, truths about the world, the beauty of **, the magic of knowledge, the possibility of love, and angry politicians. It is impossible for us to exhaust these truths, beauty, love, and magic in our ninety-ninety-eighty-one lives, how can we still complain that life has given us too little.

Despair is not discouragement, it is just a fact-seeking attitude of "fate to fate, oneself to oneself".

That is, it is freedom.

If you are still sighing deeply for your loneliness and loneliness, let me tell you, you can't buy that lottery ticket, don't spend your time savings two or two dollars, go back to your heart, find yourself, and set off on a trip with him and them in the depths of your heart. If you're curious enough, you can travel the world without leaving your home, penniless, and with a lot of money in your pocket.

If you have a confidant in life, it is wonderful, but it can be met but not sought, really, maybe it is neither met nor sought, only you can ask for yourself, you have to lean down and reach out to yourself in the dark depths.

Discover the meaning of being alone. People tend to think of being sociable as a competency, but being able to enjoy solitude is also an ability, and it will bring many benefits to the individual.

1) Helps to clear the mind. When we are alone, we can allow ourselves to relax, slowly analyze the complex information received from the outside world, digest, distinguish and organize it, which can make our thinking clearer and be able to achieve cognitive upgrades.

2) Contributes to self-identity. Many people are accustomed to gaining a sense of identity from the outside, but they have an extreme lack of self-identity inside, which is not conducive to building confidence and self-esteem effectively. And when we are alone, we can temporarily leave the outside world and others, we can try to know ourselves objectively, and it is possible to find more power in self-identity.

3) Helps to perceive emotions. Many times our emotions change because we have been influenced by others and have been "inspired" by positive or negative emotional experiences. Therefore, we need to spend time alone so that we can feel the changes in our emotions and establish "emotional boundaries" so that we don't always be affected by other people's emotions.

Psychologists consider an important sign of a person's emotional maturity, that is, that mature people are free to choose to participate in social interaction or enjoy solitude, and they are able to maintain themselves well regardless of the situation. When they are alone, they enjoy their time alone, using this time to reflect and improve themselves, so that they can become more perfect. In social situations, they are also able to grasp the boundaries between themselves and others, and perform comfortably in various relationships.

This ability to switch freely between solitude and sociality is exactly what each of us needs. We should consciously improve this ability, which will lead to a more active and comfortable life.