Why are you so angry when you are scolded?

Generally, there will be three situations, the first situation is purely in the mind, when others scold you, at the very beginning, you have not reacted, of course, you also show a certain amount of anger, and powerless counterattack, at that time, did not give others a strong counterattack, just after the fact continued to insult each other in the heart, even for several days did not forget, in the heart of the scolding of him is not happy, although it will slowly pass, but this matter will also leave a certain shadow in the heart.

The second situation is a powerful counterattack, others scold you a sentence, you scold others twice, just like that, without letting the other party take advantage of the slightest advantage, in fact, completely crush the other party, quarrel with the other party, no matter what the language, pay back to the other party, which will make you very excited, even in the next few days did not completely forget.

There is also a situation that ignores it, no matter what others say, the response on this side is to ignore the other party, and there are no ups and downs in their hearts, because they don't care about this matter at all, so what we are talking about today is the third situation, not responding to the other party's insults.

This kind of response is to overcome yourself, in life, although this sentence is somewhat absolute, because no one will not care about this matter, after all, people have feelings, if you really don't care about this matter, then you will become a saint, no one will become a saint, so we can only keep moving forward in this process.

In some things, ignore the other party, this matter is not to make you a coward, nor to let you have the upper hand, but to let you overcome yourself, because when you have a conflict with others, you will inevitably get angry, and the consequences after being angry are only borne by yourself, this is to punish yourself for the mistakes of others, why do you do this? So don't respond to other people's insults.

It's not that you're weak, it's about letting yourself get some advantage and not letting yourself get angry, this is defeating yourself, and on the other hand, you're defeating the other party, why do you say that you don't respond to the other party but you win the other party? Because if you ignore the other party, it is the best response to him, then only the other party will be there to be angry, one person is angry, and it is he who suffers. Ignore him, and he will feel very bored himself, directing and acting like a clown.

Of course, there is also a situation where other people's insults may be pointing out your shortcomings, if you think about it from this perspective, do you find your own shortcomings from other people's mouths? So the attitude towards things determines your lifestyle, and not responding to the other person's insults at certain times is actually to make yourself better, and sometimes being silent is not weakness, but a smart way of life.

Because others scold themselves, it is a kind of shame to themselves, so they will be angry.

First of all, according to the **Chinese dictionary: scolding, one refers to insulting people with rude or malicious words, for example, scolding, scolding, swearing, swearing, and insulting; The second refers to reprimands, for example, his father scolds him for being unproductive.

As for the first meaning of "insulting people with rude or malicious words", according to my understanding of psychological explanation, the psychological motivation of this scolding is generally because his narcissism has been hit, his self-esteem has been frustrated, and the scolding is to show that he is better than you and he is better than you, so as to make up for the narcissism that has been hit and satisfy his self-esteem.

As for the second meaning of "reprimand", in the same way, according to the psychology I understand it, it is generally because the development of things is beyond his control and expectations, making him feel afraid and afraid, so he should release his fear and fear by scolding, put pressure on others by scolding, and develop things towards his expectation and controllable track. At the same time, when things are out of his control and expectations, this in itself is a blow to his narcissism and a frustration to his self-esteem.

It shows that you have a great temperament and a particularly good attitude, and people like you are more positive and optimistic. Generally speaking, when you are scolded, your first reaction is to go back, but you don't, but you don't get angry, and your way of dealing with it is very unique.

It is very important to adjust our mindset because we can't control other people's mouths, we can only adjust our own mindset. A lot of people should learn from you, and so am I.

I never get angry when I want to scold others, because you know that they scold you, it's because they are angry, so you don't get angry, don't punish yourself with other people's mistakes, just live your own life.

Because you don't know what to do. Just kidding, don't care, of course don't get angry.

This shows that you are smart.

Get angry and punish yourself for someone else's mistakes.

I'm not angry when others are angry.

This also shows that you are generous.

Don't care about these sesame little things.

I want to scold back to prove that I am still angry, and the sudden lack of anger is that the dark room in my heart has collected my emotions, and I would not have scolded and quarreled, I was unwilling, so I had to deceive myself: Look, I am not angry.

First, you are a very tolerant person.

Second, you are a big-hearted person.

Third, the person who scolds you is nothing short of you.

In short, if he likes to scold, let him scold.

After all, the mouth grows on someone's body.

You're being scolded.

Instead, he didn't get angry.

That's good.

Otherwise, you will achieve the goal of people scolding you. Not bad.

1. Mutual intimidation. This is the last way I recommend it, and most of the results of using this method are that you either scold the winner but are not happy. Either you scold and lose, then I won't say much about your feelings, and in the end, it will be a lose-lose situation.

But according to my experience, those who are scolded are mainly scolded and lost (fast typing or Zuan.

Except for people) so that your heart is extremely unhappy, and some people are more disgusting, and they will be blacklisted directly after scolding.

You can't scold if you want to, and you're still holding your breath. So this method is not recommended.

Second, disgusting him.

As the saying goes, "treat a hooligan more than he does" (pure fiction), so you can also swipe him and then block him to make him angry. Of course, you also have to make sure that your conscience does not hurt, unless others scold you too harshly, otherwise this method is not recommended.

3. Ignore him.

If you really have a big heart, this method is very feasible, ignore him, and you won't be scolded after a while. Of course, it is impossible to think of my temper tantrums, this method only works for a few people.

Fourth, speak to him in a mocking, contemptuous tone.

This is my own experience, and I think it is the most applicable method. I am often sprayed by people (on the one hand, because I owe it), so I can't help but scold each other, and in the end I can't scold (most of them are too lazy to scold) to say "continue", "you are amazing", and so on, such "encouragement" words, the other party usually gets angry when they see it, and naturally they will scold it. You continue to add fuel to the fire and continue to encourage him until he is tired of scolding, and naturally he will stop scolding.

Quarrels on the Internet, whoever gets angry, loses) and he said in a tone that treats the mentally retarded, usually with good consequences.

The best way to encounter this kind of thing is to ignore him, as long as you pretend not to hear it is the biggest blow to him, remember, don't scold him, if you scold him, you will get angry, angry is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes, it is very unworthy.

Think about why you are in a bad mood, whether his scolding is reasonable, if it makes sense, you have to correct it, and if it doesn't make sense, you don't have to think about it. Life is inherently bittersweet and joyful.

Hello, I personally think that you just don't take it to heart, after all, if you are scolded by others, then the response will also hurt yourself, don't put your own pressure on others.

How stupid this is, I'm amazing, as long as others don't scold me to my face, I can treat it as if I don't know.

If someone misunderstands in real life and the other party scolds, it must be the first time to explain it clearly. When the round shirt is very angry. If you are scolded for no reason, then the best way is to go back, after all, swallowing your anger will only make you more annoyed, in addition to the above situations, there are many situations of being scolded, all in all, in short, I would rather quarrel with the gentleman than worry about the villain.

It depends on what you scold me, if it's out of kindness to remind me to scold, I won't, if I find fault, I will definitely be angry.

Depending on the situation, sometimes you get angry, sometimes it doesn't matter, it's not necessary.

The reason why others scold me is that he is angry with me, so why should I be angry with him? Stay sane at all times.

Because when angry, the cultivator is a star, and it is difficult to control his way of thinking and acting. Anger is extreme, some people verbally abuse them, and by increasing the volume they can express a part of their emotions. And some people will even vent their emotions by throwing things and violently beating others.

When the bad emotions are evacuated, you will be happier and more comfortable.

Because he can't bear it anymore, and if he wants to vent, he has to cultivate it slowly. It takes time to change the problem of swearing