How should we deal with hatred in our hearts?

If you are at work or in life, you should treat the hatred in your heart reasonably, if someone does something sorry for you, you should try to tolerate each other with a tolerant attitude, should not be overly careful, take a step back, and try to eliminate the hatred in your heart.

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In fact, the subject can seriously think about how he views and understands "hatred".

Personally, the perception of "hatred" is this. No matter what the circumstances, if you have this kind of hatred towards a person, it must be that this person has caused a kind of harm or a bad thing to yourself, but at this time, we should look at this whole thing from the root, and when this emotion arises, please ask yourself rationally, what can hatred bring to yourself? It is not difficult for you to find that hatred does not bring us anything positive, on the contrary, hatred makes us unhappy and depressed, but it does not bring the slightest influence to the object of our hatred, but it brings endless harm to ourselves, in this case, why hate?

In addition, hatred can also make us lose our minds, and we may do bad things to the other party, but at the same time, it will also make our own situation difficult, and this kind of lose-lose thing will not outweigh the losses.

I think that whenever we encounter this kind of thing, we can ignore it, put our focus on other aspects, or try to make ourselves better, and the better you live, the biggest crit against your enemy.

And in fact, letting go of hatred is also letting go of yourself, if you have hatred in your heart, it will become an obsession of your own, and the deeper the time, the greater the damage to yourself, when you put him down, you will also feel that your life is a lot easier.

I think we should touch him with the love of our hearts, because this world is a world full of love, we must always discover the good things in our lives, do not make our lives bad because of hatred, we must let our love fill the whole world.

I think the hatred in my heart is mainly dissatisfied with the current state of my life, and I used to hate myself

Thinking that you are not working hard enough to allow yourself to live the life you want...

So in my work, I work harder to get myself to the position I want, I want to stop hating myself and want to give myself a better life.

Now that I've achieved the life I want, I don't hate myself.

You won't hate him for no reason, only if he hurts you to the extent that you can accept it, you will hate him extremely. We all have seven emotions and six desires, we will have all kinds of emotions, hatred is also a part of us, I should not reject it, but accept it, but you need to control it, not be dominated by it.

Under the influence of China's traditional culture, the idea of patriarchy has always existed in the land of China, so if you live in this kind of family, how to resolve the grievances and hatred in your heart? I think the following points may help you:

1. Always be grateful.

We can't choose our parents, but we can choose our own attitude towards life. The world is so big, without parents, there would be no us, and the grace of birth and nurturing is greater than the sky.

Compared to the life given by the parents, ideologically"Imperfections"It seems insignificant. Even if our parents don't do well, we must always be grateful, because often remembering the warmth given by our parents can help us resolve some of our dissatisfaction and resentment.

Second, you still need to rely on yourself on the road of life.

In the TV series "It's All Good", Su's mother can smash pots and sell iron for her son's schooling, and even sell the house, but Mingyu just wanted to spend money to enroll in a tutoring class, but was ordered to stop by Su's mother, and finally Mingyu ran away from home with grief and anger.

Many years later, Mingyu is already a gold collar in the workplace, and she has walked out of it on her own"Sunshine Boulevard", financial freedom has been achieved, and when the material is abundant and the spirit is independent, the past grievances and hatreds will also be alleviated.

Third, the bell must be tied to the bell.

As the saying goes, the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are full of meat, even if the parents have the idea of preferring sons over daughters, I believe that they also love their daughters.

Since you have a problem in your heart, it is better to sit down with your parents, talk openly and honestly, tell your parents your thoughts, and at the moment when you "release your suspicions" and hug your parents, all the complaints and hatred will be resolved.

4. Seek professional help.

When you have a bad mood that you have been holding up for a long time, when you can't solve it independently, it's better to seek professional help.

You can find a psychologist or psychological counselor, and under professional guidance and resolution, complaints and hatred will also be well resolved.

Mu Guiying is in command, and Hua Mulan is in the army for her father, this series of allusions all tell: Who said that women are not as good as men.

I believe that no matter whether it is a boy or a girl, since they are fathers and mothers, they should give the same love to their children, and in this way, it is what a qualified parent should do.