Why do people construct unhappy things on their own?

I think it's because I'm too idle.

I know I'm not objective enough to say that, but for me, if I'm really busy, I don't have time to be glassy, and I don't have time to think about things that make me unhappy.

For example, I am very glassy, and sometimes I think that someone gave me a roll of the eye, or suddenly ignored me, didn't talk to me, didn't say hello when I met, ......I wonder if he has any opinion about me? <>

Then I think about it, I feel very bad when I think about it, and I also think about the things she did, because she hated me as a person.

But lately, I've been busy with my studies, and I've been running to the library all day long, and I've been full of classes all day. I don't have time to think too much about it, this one doesn't like me, and then this girl doesn't like me either, we don't get along well!

In fact, many of these situations are your own blind thoughts, and people don't hate you at all, maybe it's just that he is upset or too tired to talk or something, and you just happened to be bumped into by you, and you added a little bit to think too much, and you were sad. <>

Another reason is that people always like to compare themselves to others, or to think about things that they don't have.

For example, sometimes I go to my circle of friends or somewhere else and see my former classmates, everyone used to be at the same level, and now they are better off than you, or the place where they are studying is very good, and then you will compare yourself and feel that you are very bad, and your mood will be very uncomfortable.

In fact, there is no need at all, because everyone has their own way of life, and you may not be happier than others one day in the future.

Or perhaps, the more leisurely and pleasant college life you are living now is also something that some people are silently envencing!

In the life we experience every day, sometimes we feel that life is unsatisfactory, and we are often unhappy because of some small things, and we have no mind to do other things, this mentality is very affecting our lives, so we need to control this bad mentality. It may take a long time, but in the process of change, you must overcome your impetuousness.

Why people construct some unhappy things on their own should be influenced by many factors. Take mentality, for example. We will feel that people with a good attitude are often more optimistic and confident in life, while people with a bad attitude often let themselves fall into a sad atmosphere.

If you can't calm your heart in a short period of time, don't know how to comfort yourself, and don't adjust your mentality well, of course, such a mood will be very bad. If you still fail to realize the essence of things, the more you think about it, the more painful it will become, and your quality of life will decrease a lot.

Thinking too much about yourself also affects your mood a lot. There are really too many things that we need to face every day, and there are some things that we don't need to worry about ourselves, but we can't control ourselves from thinking too much, and we don't have anything to do, and once we think about it, we will be extremely unhappy. For many things, no matter what, we need to face them seriously, and maybe in the process of facing them, we will think too much.

Thinking too much will really be very tiring, it is better to put it down, in order to better travel lightly. <>

My vision is too low. When you encounter a lot of things, you can't always face them bravely, but choose to avoid them, and you are full of fear of the things themselves, how can you make your mood better. Whether we are a person or a worker, we need our pattern to become bigger, and people with a small pattern can't achieve a big career, but will only make themselves mediocre all the time.

So, there's really no need to assume something, it's always coming, just face it with a normal mind.

Sometimes I will be inexplicably depressed all day because of a small thing, I don't want to do anything, I just want to wait quietly alone, and this emotion is because I suddenly burst out inadvertently, and then I don't have any vitality to face anything. In the face of this situation, we should be positive, we should think about the good in everything, adjust this sluggish mentality, and the most important thing is to be vigorous and bright.

And the reasons for making yourself in a bad mood and feeling low are varied, sometimes because of some people's words, or maybe a person's expression, attitude, and language. It may also be because of some inexplicable thoughts of yourself, suddenly in a bad mood, suddenly you don't want to do anything, everything is your own heart, in this case, why not use some positive things to adjust yourself? <>

Adjust your mentality, organize your mood, and then face the sunrise and sunset every day positively. Therefore, we can find something that can adjust our mood, gradually guide ourselves out of the low mood, and let ourselves have a good mood every day. Don't care about gains and losses, don't be afraid of difficulties, bravely face all the trivialities in life, and have the courage to face reality.

Sometimes it's because I think too much, and when I can't sleep at night, I think about what happened in the past, think about all the regrets in the past, and I can't help but feel sad and distressed. Sometimes there will be gains and losses because of someone or something, things that have not happened yet, and there are no results, but they have to suffer in advance for these unknown reasons, looking forward and looking ahead.

And we shouldn't think too much about this, live happily for a day, don't worry too much, as long as you live calmly and live with peace of mind, that's fine.

Because some people are pessimistic by nature, they like to find trouble for themselves, and they have to make themselves unhappy, in fact, they just can't think about it, and they are not so positive and optimistic.

Because they always feel hurt by life, they always like to find themselves unhappy when everything is happy and happy. In the final analysis, they do this to make the people they care about care about more about themselves, that is, they are twisting with themselves.

Because I'm too idle, I'm always cranky, so try to keep myself busy.

I found that many unhappy things were actually self-inflicted. Recently, I have experienced it deeply.

The main problem is to give the initiative to others. I was at the vegetable market, and I sent a message asking what I wanted to eat, and I received a lot of requests. Over time, I suddenly got tired of cooking a meal and had to do so many things, why was it always me?

So I got angry, but in fact, it was all self-inflicted. It is you who gives the initiative of what food to buy to others. If you buy whatever you want and do what you want, you won't have this kind of trouble.

If you are aware of your inner preferences and ideas, don't leave the choice to others, and entrust others to do things that are in line with your own ideas. Like organizing an event, I want to climb the mountain, but I don't know what to say, and I tell the big guy that everyone comes to make suggestions, but others either propose a route that doesn't suit their ideas, or they are silent. In this case, you can come up with two or three options for them to choose the best, and psychologically researched that it is much easier to choose between two or three options than to think of the plan yourself.

I'm happy to be aware of the causes of the recent troubles and how to solve them. The next step is to try my solution. Keep thinking, keep trying, keep adjusting and improving!

You can think of it this way, you have different ideas about things from different angles, if you look at it optimistically, the results are naturally more biased towards the good side, if you are pessimistic, the right amount will give you a certain amount of motivation, but if the crack is long-term or excessive, it will cause the opposite impact, and you feel that the most important thing is to be happy and comfortable.

Yes, how you feel depends on how you look at something. If you live in a small house on the top floor, there are two attitudes towards it.

1.This house is small and cramped, which is really annoying.

Then your mood is irritable, angry, and disgusting.

2.The house was clean, tidy, cheerful and quiet, and I was happy to be on my own.

Then at this time, Zen means that your mood is calm and peaceful.

How a person's mood depends on how you look at something, everything has two sides, and while looking at his shortcomings, don't forget to think more about his strengths.

Yes, sometimes I will be inexplicably sad because of one thing, and I will be sad and angry because of this matter, etc., all of which depend on what kind of chain I think about this thing. If you think about it on a positive note, you will naturally be in a wonderful mood all day, and if you have a slightly extreme view of this matter, it must not be conducive to the development of your own heart.

We can't control what others think; We can't force others to do anything. The only thing you can do is to do your best to do your own thing, walk the road under your feet, and live a good life. Even if someone treats you badly, time will not treat you badly, and life will not treat you badly!

It mainly depends on your own attitude towards the problem.

It depends on what you're going through.

As you said, it's because of "unhappy emotions" that affect your life, and the reason for this emotion is like your evaluation of yourself in your words, "I always feel that I am not good enough," "I can't say good things." ”

We connect these mental processes together to create a cycle of cognitive, emotional, and behavioral influences that we carry out every moment of the day.

This self-perception that we internalize by the external environment is only one part of ourselves. He cannot represent his full self. Then we observe and look for that lovely self, for example, to record the beautiful things and feelings in life, these are real experiences.

And then give yourself a proper evaluation. When these emotions return, we use our adult selves to take care of ourselves, for example, to leave the scene that has caused us to get out of control, to breathe in the fresh air, to listen to some soothing ** or to take a deep breath, to meditate.

Finally, when we begin to understand and reflect on ourselves, our work of unraveling the vortex has already begun, or the speed at which the vortex is sinking has begun to slow down.

If this anger is directed at oneself, it becomes low, produces a lot of anxiety, and becomes depressed; If you point to people or things in the outside world, you will become paranoid and overly emotional. Over time, people will accumulate this anxiety, separate the body and mind, seriously affect our life, work, and will also produce many physical symptoms, such as headache, body trembling, palpitation and shortness of breath. People don't want to give first, often because they have not been rewarded for their past efforts, so that they have no hope that others will be equally kind to us; It may also be that we have not been treated with the kindness we should have for a long time, so the desire and urge to be recognized and treated well when we get along with others is unconsciously expressed, and the feeling of certainty that others are not able to do so is sometimes expressed more strongly.

Life is like this, we can't avoid unhappiness and pain, so how can we make ourselves happy after experiencing these sadness and pain? I think true happiness comes from the understanding of pain, because life without pain can not feel happiness, we can only face it correctly, rationally analyze it, affirm that it should be affirmed to negate what should be denied, only in this way can we learn to give up, to know how to cherish, to remember what should be remembered, to forget what should be forgotten, to analyze the pain in life, to make it a kind of wealth, an experience, a memory, a realization instead of pain in your life, so that we can calmly look at the past, Open life, happy life, no regrets life, life is truly happy, not to escape and cover up, not to force joy. Because I believe that life is for us to face, not to escape, we can be sad but we must not indulge and escape.

Do what you like to do, listen to **, go out for a walk, and look at the sky outside, in fact, it is also full of comfort. It's fun to hang out with friends and talk to each other. People just think a lot.

In fact, there are not many things, and a lot of things will be thought of, so you have to do more things and keep yourself busy, so that you don't think about it. It's impossible to be happy all the time, there are always ups and downs in life, so it's fun!

Dear landlord.

In fact, the most precious and important things in the world, that is, one's own family affection, one's own feelings and heart, one's own life and health, one's own happiness and joy, one's own life and career, one's own personality and dignity, it can also be said that the five types of people that should be cherished, namely parents, siblings, friends, lovers, and oneself, these are the most precious things in one's own life, and they are also the most cherished things, which cannot be lost.

Because only one's own family affection is eternal love, it is a love that cannot be let go, it is a love that blood is thicker than water, and only family affection is eternal love.

In the world, only one's own feelings are one's own things, nothing can be lowered, and only oneself is the most real.

In a person's life, life is precious, health is the capital, as long as you cherish yourself, cherish life, is the most precious.

As long as we face life with an optimistic attitude, happiness will be everywhere, happiness is a feeling, happiness is a wisp of floral fragrance, when the flower blooms in the depths of the soul, as long as the breeze blows gently, it can exude a leisurely, intoxicating fragrance.

Life and career is the ideal we pursue and the goal of struggle, one thing, if you figure it out, it is heaven, if you can't figure it out, it is hell, since you live, you must live well. If you know the way of life, if you can be in color, YTG