What should I do if I forcibly change myself, but now I feel that I can t recognize myself anymore?

To change yourself is not to make yourself bad, but to make yourself better. Only if you are excellent, will there be girls who like it.

It is very important to work hard to improve yourself, not to compare yourself with others and find a girlfriend, but to have more choices in the future. Choose a job that has time and meaning, rather than being forced to earn a living. When your work has meaning in your heart, you have a sense of accomplishment.

When your work gives you time and doesn't deprive you of life, you have dignity. A sense of accomplishment and dignity gives you joy.

If you want to improve yourself in a year's time, you might want to start with these three things.

1. Practical and feasible itinerary.

27% of students, without any goals;

60% of students, there are goals, but they are not very clear;

10% of students have very clear short-term goals;

3% of students have very clear and long-term goals.

After 20 years, Harvard once again tracked the original batch of students, and found that:

The 3% of people, during this period, have been firm in their goals and have been working hard for 20 years, and have become very successful leaders in all walks of life;

The 10% of people, who have since set countless short-term goals, and have achieved them step by step, have also become professionals from all walks of life, and their living standards are in the middle and upper classes of society.

The 60% of the people, they live in peace, have no outstanding performance, no outstanding skills and experience, and most of them live in the middle and lower classes of society.

The remaining 27% of the people, who do not have any ideas and goals for the future, not only live an unsatisfactory life, but also always complain about the faults of others, and complain about the injustice of God.

Therefore, if a person does not have a clear goal, chooses to be content with the status quo, or even holds the mentality of getting by, after a long time, he will be bored with everything in life, feel bored, and even produce anxiety, depression and other phenomena.

And if you want to get out of this state of numbness, you have to make a feasible schedule or schedule for yourself. And the longer the plan, the better, and making a plan is also a way of self-improvement, only in this way, you can see yourself clearly, and as the plan continues to be completed, you will get closer and closer to the goal.

2. Make the most of fragmented time.

What are you doing on the bus, subway, an hour or two before bed, etc., on the way to work? In fact, fragmented time is very precious, but it is also easy for us to ignore and abandon, if you use these fragmented time to do something more meaningful, such as reading a book, over time, it is two, four, or even hundreds of books.

Isn't this a way to improve yourself? Don't spend these fragments of time on useless entertainment, in this society where the transfer of knowledge is becoming more and more convenient and fast, we can only use these fragments of time, insist on learning knowledge every day, even if it is only a little, we can also increase the breadth of personal knowledge, enhance personal ability, and finally achieve our goals.

3. Thin water flows.

The feedback cycle of learning is actually very long, if a person wants to insist on continuous learning, it is actually a very boring and difficult thing to adhere to, but if it can be done in a way that is gradual in the way of a long stream, the pressure and boredom will not be so strong.

It shows that you are a person who has no ideas, your own temperament, can you change it? If you still forcibly change yourself, what kind of coercive law can be used to discuss a result if you have different opinions, or you can have a correct world view and understand that the problem lies not in changing yourself in things, but in essence, if you follow the law and follow public order and good customs. That is a more formal choice, otherwise it is the opposite, just empty talk or even violates the law, violates thinking, and offends the whole human ethics, which is counterproductive, so as to strengthen one's own change and force one's own change, that is only counterproductive.

The essence of human beings is difficult to change, if you can change yourself, then you are a cow.

I don't think this can be regarded as a change, this can only be regarded as suppression. What do you think?

Many people will have such an experience, especially when a person is in a low mood, life is not going well, and there are setbacks everywhere. This is normal, this is just a transition period, as long as you adjust your mentality, you will slowly get better.

Hehe, I feel that you are a person who likes to think and has a strong sense of self, and this kind of psychology is normal! We insist on what we think is right, do what we think is right, listen to the opinions of relatives and friends from time to time, and believe that you will slowly find your own feelings!

I'm the opposite of you, I'm always worried that in the end the world doesn't exist, I'm still ...

It looks like a lot of things have been experienced. Things change a person's psyche. The mindset towards things has also changed.

So I feel like I don't know myself anymore.

Be confident and don't give up on yourself.

It's normal that humans are social animals, and we are always in contact with each other.

Others, to communicate, and then through communication, others have an impact on themselves, these influences may not be obvious at the time, but the more contact, will form their own concept, just like the old saying, close to Zhu is red, close to ink is black.

Then, in the environment, we change our own psychology, maybe for a certain period of time, we are dissatisfied with our current situation, and then we start to reflect, make changes, and then reach a state of relative satisfaction, and then meet an excellent person or contact with some excellent things, and then we will be dissatisfied, and then we will reflect and make changes, and this process is repeated, so you will feel that you are often dissatisfied with yourself, to put it bluntly, you are often dissatisfied with your current state.

It is easy for people to change their personality and attitude with the change of the environment, and they must always introspect and adjust in time so as not to lose themselves.

I feel like you've got a lot going on.

It's not what I want to do, I have a lot of ideas, and I don't want it, and some things may be really helpless, but I think people should stick to their original intentions, at least don't do bad things, and be worthy of the conscience of heaven and earth.

It must have been through some things that made my heart change, become unnecessary, don't know what love is, and lose my original intention, so it's like this.

Everyone needs to grow and adapt to society. Society is a large and complex group, and there are all kinds of people that you need to communicate with. You have to adapt to this environment, and then your interpersonal skills are constantly improving.

So you feel less and less aware of yourself, and you feel like a stranger. As long as your original intention remains the same, keep yourself a kind heart.

Whether it has changed a lot, or you think too much in your heart, or if you are unhappy or unhappy, just find a friend to go out for a walk.

This just means that you have officially started to introspect, and if you are determined, you can make a difference in yourself, and you will get better and better!

I think that everyone needs to grow, as time goes by, everyone will encounter different things in work and study, and there may be different solutions, and then people will change, experience more things, and slowly grow, this is a change that everyone will have, as long as the nature is good, it's okay. Personal opinion.

There are important people who have influenced you, and thus the goal, and you are always confused when you think quietly. Either you force yourself to do something or something, and then you don't feel the same as before. This is easy to do, shoot more**, write your name on the back, note the word "I", annotate this is "me" in a certain period of time, put it in the album, one day I don't know it, open the album, find someone to go....(Just kidding......Actually, people become, not only physically, but also psychologically.

Everything you do is something you don't like.

It may be that you have recently been involved in some conflicts and troubles, and you have to show some attitudes and behaviors against your will, so you start to find yourself showing different attitudes and practices in different situations and with different people, and you feel that you don't need to be too differentiated, so you feel that you don't know yourself. This is actually good, some people are too fickle, and their thoughts, behaviors, and values are very confused. You feel that you don't know yourself, and this is an opportunity for you to further adjust yourself and evolve into a new version of yourself.

The specific approach is to first find out the contrast between yourself, and try to find out some reasons, the general reason is that there are two aspects, one is that there are unrealistic places in personal wishes, such as the requirements to achieve the wish are too high, the cost is too much, the way is wrong, etc., and the other is that there are many incompatible places in the external environment, which includes the people around and the things around them, such as a person who does not do a good job of promising others or the routine practice of a certain thing is actually unreasonable. Understanding these causes is the best way to get the right solution.

Then, you need to adjust your approach and attitude, either try your best or compromise appropriately, and find a balance that is in line with your original intention. It is best to ask more about the practices and opinions of others, and it is better to refer to the practices and attitudes of people in the same situation, so as to form a comprehensive approach and view.

I'm sorry I barely said a bunch of empty words, but the question was too vague and didn't describe the specifics of the problem in the question supplement. If you want a good answer, do this. Finally, I wish you a return to a sunny mood.

Sometimes love needs a break. Give each other space.

Life will always experience all kinds of things, and some people have been self-denial, unable to recognize themselves, unable to find the direction, feel that their future and future are confused, at this time should relax themselves in time, adjust their body and mind, and actively think about their own way out, instead of giving up on themselves, letting it go, or facing their life with negative emotions.

If you feel that you have a big problem, you can't recognize yourself, and you can't find the directionYou can put your work off for a while, or take a few days off, and then let yourself relax, talk to a friend, or seek help from a psychologistYou can also listen to songs and dances to fully relax yourself and relieve your stress and doubts.

Actually,There is an option to travel,Traveling on the road, you can see different customs and customs, more psychological and spiritual pleasant feelings, to appreciate what you see and hear, you can also record it, and then find a pleasant place to sit down, think about your future and life.

If you are confused, you can go to a nursing home to visit the elderly, or go to a poor rural area to visit left-behind children, or you can also go to be a caring volunteerLet yourself feel the meaning of life and the value of life in society, and when you return, you will understand what you want and how you should do it.

Everyone will go through the stage of helplessness, whether it is physical and mental exhaustion, or spiritual confusion, can be improved and emancipated by appropriate methods, only by actively facing their own life, work, feelings, more thinking and adjusting the mentality, in order to finally find the development of the path of life, because only themselves, can save themselves.

I don't know what stage you are in now, some people graduate, after working in the society for a few years, it is easy to enter a period of confusion, because it is completely different from what I thought in school, I always can't wait to enter the society, so that I can learn to be useful, but after a few years, I have put a lot of effort and time, but it seems that there is no return in exchange for hope, it is easy to be confused, at this time it is recommended to calm down and think about it before moving forward, let's talk briefly about this topic.

What kind of life do you want to live

Relatively speaking, this is a life plan, but also a motivation, goal, if a person is just working for work, it is easy to appear very confused, think about what kind of life you want to live, for example, I want to settle in the city, I want to buy a house, I want to travel the world, I want to let my children live a good life. This is all goals, with a goal, I feel that life is no longer confused, and watching the goal be achieved little by little, I will feel a sense of accomplishment.

Think about what you've done

In addition to having goals, you should also think about what you are doing now, whether you can achieve your desired goals, and even if it is a career plan, for example, although I am now in the initial stage, the industry is developing very well, and I have learned a certain ability from it, and what kind of height I can reach in the future, and slowly approach the goal. If you can see that there are no waves in retirement from the moment you join the company, then I believe that while you are sitting, people will start to become lazy and have no fighting spirit.

Reach out and communicate more

Sometimes, if you are really confused about things, you might as well go out for a walk and talk to positive friends. The so-called authorities are obsessed with bystanders, and sometimes they really have the feeling of listening to your words and reading for ten years, so everyone should make some positive friends and stay with this kind of person, it is easy to be infected.

There are difficulties in all walks of life, don't give up on yourself because of some small things, you can let yourself go when you feel very irritable, take a proper vacation, go out for a walk, relax, and continue to struggle after you come back.