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It is very troublesome to run a banquet in your own home, and you need a lot of people to help, but now that the economic conditions are better, everyone goes to the hotel.

Because the rural development is relatively good now, there are many restaurants, so many people will go to the restaurant to organize banquets for convenience.

Because it is more troublesome, most people now hold a table in the hotel, which is relatively simple and avoids many problems.

If you are not in the countryside all the year round, do you still need to give gifts to the red and white ceremonies in your hometown? Why?

1. In this case, you should still be courteous, so that there will be human relations, and when your family has something, others will help.

Many young people have not been to the big city, and they rarely go back to their hometowns, and when there are happy events in their hometowns, they will be particularly hesitant to follow the ceremony. The old people at home will definitely persuade the children not to forget their roots, and not to forget their parents and fellow villagers because they are not in the countryside. Even if he is outside all the year round, but his roots are still in his hometown, if he usually has personal contacts, he has not been left behind, when the old people at home have something, even if he can't come back in time, the people in his hometown will help; But if you never participate in the affairs of the village, others will not be willing to help the elderly in the family, which will make the elderly feel particularly helpless.

Second, the relationship is relatively close, it is best for you to go back to your hometown, if you can't go back, you have to ask your relatives to help with the gift, this is the exchange of courtesy.

If you have a happy event with someone who is particularly close to your family, you had better take time to go home, which will deepen the relationship between the two families, and friends who have not seen each other for a long time will not be too angry; If you really can't go back for various reasons, you have to ask your parents in your hometown to help with the ceremony.

3. If your parents are no longer there and you are not familiar with the people in the village, there is no need to give gifts.

Of course, if you have been working hard in the city for decades, and your parents are no longer there, you have little contact with the people in your hometown, and your next generation has no contact with the people in the village, then you don't have to give a gift. Because in my own city, I already have my own circle of contacts, and when I have something, I will need these people to help, and I will not feel lonely.

If you are not in the countryside all the year round, you still need to give gifts if you do red and white ceremonies in your hometown; This is because people are sophisticated, and they must have certain etiquette and customs to abide by when they don't deal with each other, and leaving a good impression on others also retains a sincerity.

Those who need to be accompanied by gifts; Because even if you are not in the countryside, there are some etiquettes that you still have to follow, and you must be polite and reciprocal, so even if you are not there, you must follow the etiquette.

It is definitely necessary to follow the courtesy, so that it will leave a particularly good impression on the other party, because the same thing will definitely happen in your own life, so this is called courtesy.

In the past, there were wedding banquets and wedding banquets in the village, which were the most lively events in the village. There were a lot of people in the village, and there were a lot of onlookers. Sometimes when you marry a daughter-in-law, the whole street is surrounded by water.

It was a spectacular scene. The new daughter-in-law gets off the sedan chair, the new daughter-in-law worships the church, and the new daughter-in-law enters the cave room. It is people's favorite hot spot, coaxing together, and the streets and alleys are noisy.

The reason why wedding banquets and wedding banquets in rural areas are not as lively as before is because people's ideological concepts have changed. In the past, when a family had a happy event or a marriage, basically the whole village came to help, because there was no running water and no restaurants, all of them were buying vegetables, killing pigs and fish, and finding tables, chairs and benches. In the past three days, there has been a lot of traffic and people coming and going.

First, at that time, rural people did not go out to work, they were all farming at home, and after the harvest, they were idle and had nothing to do. Anyone who has ever held a wedding banquet will be amazed and will come to visit and join in the fun. .

Now that the people's living standards have improved, the economic demand is great, everyone is busy with the economy, and there are not many idlers in the rural areas. In addition, the flowing water seat completely replaces the previous cumbersome roads. The state advocates anti-corruption and clean government, and strictly prohibits marriage and big mistakes.

Rural people have also changed their minds. It's too much trouble to do big things. They tried to narrow it down as much as possible, everything was simplified.

Therefore, although the wedding activities are no longer lively, people's thinking is progressing and moving forward with the changes of the times.

There are a lot of people in the countryside who are already working abroad. There are indeed some drawbacks to the preparation of rural feasts. It's easy to entertain guests, but it's hard to entertain guests.

There are often a small number of guests who are delayed or unable to attend the banquet on time due to important matters. Call ** to inform and explain the reason, even if you really don't have time to go after the banquet, you will send red envelopes or bring gifts to others, and you will naturally understand each other.

With the renewal of social culture and the enrichment of spiritual food, people are no longer keen on the excitement of the scene. In order to avoid the extravagance and waste of peasant friends, the local ** departments have issued a call to prevent major events from happening, which also overshadows the red and white affairs in the countryside. As migrant workers go out to work, there are fewer and fewer young people in rural areas.

Often, if it's a red vs. white thing, they have to reluctantly part ways in order to earn a little more wages.

There are fewer people who go, and now many people are not courteous, so it is not as lively as before, and everyone is busy.

I think it's really the reason, people are busy with work and overtime every day, so they don't have the energy to socialize on red and white ceremonies.

Because people are busy now, they don't have time to attend, and they refuse to be extravagant now, so it's not as lively as before.

Most people are voluntary, and there is also a psychology of comparison, so it is natural that they can't control it.

It may be because some people can't let go of their children, follow the crowd, and give more and more. In fact, you can give it according to your own strength.

This is what happens when people are voluntary, and now that people's standard of living has improved and their incomes have increased.

<> this is mainly because of customs and human feelings.

Like this in our village, whether it is a red matter or a white matter, in addition to some other relatives and friends who are close to each other who need to contribute money and efforts, usually every family in the village will call one to help. But most of them here are actually just here to play cards and chat with guests, which is actually just a euphemism for asking people to come to eat for free.

Because other people's families do the same when they celebrate red and white ceremonies, so you have to do the same. This is a custom and a good neighborly and friendly relationship.

And most of the time, there is power in numbers. Basically, though, you don't need help. But when an accident happens, you can always call these people for help, and they are happy to help.

Furthermore, if it is a white matter, if there are many people from the village, it means that the deceased is highly respected or has a noble character, so many people come to the funeral. If it is a happy event, it needs to be more lively, indicating that the family is prosperous.

In addition, you have already done a lot of things anyway, and calling these people to eat is nothing more than a matter of adding a few pairs of chopsticks. But because of this kind of comings and goings, the villagers are usually easier to talk when there is something to do. Even if some people are actually reluctant to go to such an occasion, they will go over to eat and help because they need others to come forward when they have something at home in the future.

Usually, there is a set of fixed procedures for red and white ceremonies in the village. Although there is a large percentage of people who actually just go to eat and don't need actual help. But in fact, there are also a large number of people who really want to do things, such as inviting a chef and needing someone to help buy and wash vegetables; It is necessary to arrange tables, chairs, and dinner plates; Those who need to burn fire, water, or rice; Those who need to distribute candy, cigarettes, and serve food when they need to eat; There is also the need for bookkeeping; Need to accompany guests to play cards, drink and chat, pick up and drop off guests; Those who need to make snacks; It is necessary to clean the hall after the finish, return the tableware, and wash the utensils concerned.

Therefore, the help of many villagers seems to be playing, but maybe it is the owner of the wine who is still in the corresponding favor, and it cannot be said that it is just playing, but it may be a person who needs help.

There are many villagers who go to help because of the customs and habits of a rural village, everyone lives in the same village, and they help and play together, which helps neighbors to love each other.

It may be that the master's practice is not in place, when he is doing errands in other people's homes, he does not go to help others, or he does not help others carefully, then others will not do their best to help him.

It is because these villagers are not busy with their own family affairs, so there is such a phenomenon.

Because of irresponsibility, everyone didn't pay attention to such things, and felt that it was good to deal with things.

That's because one side is in trouble, and all sides support, and I also know that one person is busy with these things at all, and he is also the warm-hearted people in the village.

Nowadays, the village invites volunteers to organize banquets, which is called "one-stop service". At the end of last year, an old teacher in our local area passed away, I want to go to the "thank you banquet", the banquet is organized by a volunteer team, even the dining table, stools, tableware, goblets, and dishes are all produced by the volunteer team, the host only needs to pay for it, and negotiate the banquet specifications, and the others are handed over to the volunteer team to apply for processing, and its service standards are comparable to the hotel restaurant specifications, even the seafood is there, and the taste of the old rural red and white banquet big fish, big meat, and farmhouse dishes is jaw-dropping! I think that the "one-stop" service project of the volunteer team is likely to be related to the following reasons:

First, the farmers are rich, rich and standardized, and ask the chef of the hotel restaurant to organize a banquet.

From the perspective of the taste of the dishes, the one-stop service team has a variety of dishes compared with the chef level of the hotel restaurant, and the knife skills, doneness, and cooking level are very chef-level. Such a high-end, standardized, and high-quality banquet cannot be guaranteed without money, and the countryside is really rich, and the farmers are rich in the pursuit of perfect and high-quality service projects. Without money, who would dare to be extravagant and wasteful?

There are also 4 packs of hard Chinese cigarettes and 4 bottles of Gujing puree per table.

Second, there is no one to help in the countryside.

Nowadays, the young and middle-aged people in the countryside have gone out to work, and all the "three left-behind" workers are at home, and there is no one to find the person who is in charge of the stir-fry spoon, and no one can make a big pot of dishes. I can't find anyone to help, so I can only outsource the banquet business, which is convenient and to deal with the doubts of no one in charge of cooking. The outsourcing of the banquet business is recognized and accepted by the people in the village, and many people say that the elderly in the family will do the same when they go west.

The catering service project in the countryside has broad industry prospects, which is equivalent to moving a hotel restaurant to the home of a rural owner.

Third, it can meet the requirements of different classes in the countryside.

Banquet business outsourcing is also divided into high, medium and low levels, rich can choose standardized, high-end service items, no money can choose the middle level of service specifications, can meet the requirements of different classes in the countryside. Just negotiate the specifications, the number of tables, other hosts don't need to care, everything is handed over to the service outsourcing team, the banquet is over, the host pays the bill, and even the serving staff is all the volunteers of the team.

At the same time, it shows that the countryside is rich, and the rich invite people to organize the banquet, which is also the new service project industrial chain caused by the development trend of the rural situation, which solves the confusion that no one can cook the banquet in the countryside!

This is because when you are handling red and white ceremonies in the countryside, you will have a lot of relatives and friends, so you are very busy and need to contract out, which can reduce your pressure.

The main reason is that it is more convenient to contract out, and it can also reduce a lot of things, and it is more convenient for everyone.