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Because many people still have feelings for their ex-husbands or ex-wives after being widowed, in fact, they will find their other half in the future, and they still can't let go of the previous person in their hearts, and they can't be so good to the new other half wholeheartedly, so everyone minds very much. <>
1. Superstitious statements. Marriage is not only a problem for two people, but also a problem for two families, so when talking about marriage, parents will consider each other's personal and family factors. For some widowed partners, everyone will be prejudiced against them, and many elderly people will think that it is because their life is too hard, so the other party ends his life.
Therefore, many elderly people do not want their children to find such a significant other, they are afraid that their children will also be harmed, so they will be more mindful of widows and will not allow them to enter their families. But this is just a superstitious statement, because people's birth, old age, sickness and death are determined by the environment and what they eat, and have nothing to do with the other half. Therefore, this statement is not valid, it is just the prejudice left over from the traditional thinking of some old people.
Second, I still have other people in mind. If the husband and wife divorce because of conflicts, the two people may no longer have the idea of remarrying and will not forgive each other. But if it is because of their ex-husband or the death of an illness in the early stage, they will leave themselves forever, then they will always have a pain in their hearts, and they will always think about the person they once were.
So they may not be able to integrate into a new family wholeheartedly, even if two people get married again, there will still be the same person in his heart, and he will regard his new object as a shadow of the person he once was. <>
Each of us wants to be the only one of our other half who wants to possess each other's entire life, but for these widowed people, we can't completely heal the pain in their hearts, so many people are reluctant to find such a other half, but also because they are afraid that they will be hurt, and the two will quarrel because of their deceased ex-husband or ex-wife.
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Widowed people are most likely to compare the current with the deceased because they miss the deceased, but after all, there is no perfect person, and there are always some ways that the current is not as good as the deceased. It is easy to have psychological imbalance, so it is easy to complain about the current situation from time to time, causing conflicts between the two sides. To handle this kind of relationship well, the main thing is to trust each other and tolerate each other.
Treat each other tolerantly, and at the same time both parties understand more, after all, both of them have experienced pain, although the experience is different, as long as both parties treat each other sincerely, through a certain run-in, they can live well. Now people's opinions are different, in fact, people like their spouse who passed away saved a lot of trouble, and they didn't have to worry about her contact with her ex-husband or ex-wife when they got married. It can be said that such a marital state will be more secure.
Because two people will not have any selfish thoughts, let alone doubt each other, so this kind of marriage is also very good. It is good to choose widowhood, and most of the divorced people will not live a good life, because the first marriage cannot be managed well. There is no way for widows to live a good life, so that most of the remaining half can still live a good life.
My lover also left me first, I don't want to find one anymore, I want to find a widow who is also looking for me, every family needs to be managed with heart. Some people say that they are looking for a divorce, not a widowed person who remarries, because divorce is heartbreaking, and widowhood is missing. In fact, whether remarriage is happy or not is not necessarily a matter of rules and regulations, widows and divorces.
Marriage varies from person to person, depending on personality and quality, and for external reasons, even if personal experience accounts for a part, it may also excuse one's inferior behavior. For divorced and widowed people, the average marriage seeker, men are very mindful of widows, they say that widowed women are hard-working and hard-working, and they are more willing to marry divorced women. Ladies don't seem to care much about this, and under the same conditions, they are more inclined to widowed men, who they think avoids the messy relationship between their children and their ex-wives.
Of course, this is only the case in our small place, and it may not be representative.
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It feels like these people are all very negative in their mindset. And it feels like living with these people can also become unhappy.
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It may be because divorced people are very taboo about this, for fear of bringing bad luck to themselves.
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It's because they're not sure if they'll be able to live happily ever after they're married.
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Because they don't like widowed remarriages very much, probably looking for something young, beautiful and optimistic.
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You don't need to limit yourself so many rules and regulations at the beginning, whether you are divorced or widowed, as long as you like it yourself, the other party is not bad, this is fine, and you should cherish it when you meet someone who is really good to you.
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I think it's better to find a widow, because divorced people may still have a certain connection with their ex, which is very troublesome.
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It should be looking for a widow. Generally, such boys are more responsible, and they will be very loyal to their families.
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1. If divorced and widowed, I first choose the widowed, the widowed children accept it willingly, and also avoid breaking the thread with the ex-wife in the name of the child, many divorced, the child is the eyes of the ex-wife, the ex-wife behind the scenes instructed the child to make it difficult for the stepmother, no matter how much the stepmother pays, do not appreciate it, it will make the remarriage go to the other thing, no matter how beautiful the love is, most men will finally choose family affection, so that the later misery. Hunger.
2. If I remarry, I want to look at the other party's children, the children are of good quality, support the parents to remarry, bless the parents, and I will consider it. A marriage that is not blessed by children is destined to be unhappy.
Most of today's children are selfish, and when they hear that their parents are remarried, it is as if a robber is coming to the house, lest they hurt their own interests.
3. If the other party's child is very young, I don't think about it, I shouldn't be a stepmother. It's not that I don't have love, it's hard to be a stepmother, you can reprimand a few words when your child makes you angry, and you can beat a few times when you are angry, because you are biological, this is disciplining him, but if the role of the stepmother, you are in charge of the church and the other party is positioned as abuse, because there is no blood relationship, you can't say which sentence is wrong will be held by the other party, and finally settle accounts after the autumn, how much energy does a woman have in the relationship.
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Third, it will be compared because the attitude of the widowed to the ex and the attitude of the divorced person to the ex is different, the widowed person may still recognize the ex in his heart, if he remarries, he will inevitably compare the current with the ex, which will make the current very difficult to do, once there is something bad to do, it will make them very disappointed, so that they lose confidence in the relationship, because many divorced people like to start a new life, do not want to live in the shadow of others, will not choose the widowed.
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Because they are fed up with the troubles that come with getting married, besides, it is not easy to get married again.
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Because the average widow may still be in love with their partner, it is difficult to let go of the relationship.
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Because it is difficult for the other party's children to accept their relatives and then form a new family, many divorced people are unwilling to get along with the children of such families.
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