Can self improvement make the people you like like you?

It's hard to say, not necessarily she will like you, but if you are good, many people will like you, and then you won't necessarily like her, because your circle is different, and you may not look down on others.

It's possible, but if you become good yourself, you may not like her so much.

He's too proud. It still looks down on me.

Self-improvement will certainly increase your self-confidence and temperament in all aspects, but if the other party always dislikes you, no matter how hard you try, it will not help.

Look at each other, some people can't do anything, and some people you change and he (she) may like them.

Self-improvement is a kind of ability, although you can't make all people like you, but I think most of them still like it, because no one will not like a hard-working person, anyway, everything you do in life can not make all people satisfied, but you can work hard, just do yourself. ‍‍

Self-improvement can only increase the other party's good feelings, but it does not mean that I like you, in the process of love, if you only look at the problem from a rational level, it is to make a big mistake, only by prescribing the right medicine, can there be an effect. ‍‍

Of course, who doesn't like good people, as long as you become good enough, there will be more and more people stopping for you. ‍‍

Not necessarily, but it can make you like yourself, or like yourself more. If you aim to improve yourself with the goal of making the person you like like you, being too purposeful may lead to a consequence, that is, there is a 50% chance of failure, which will make you feel wasted and disappointed.

Self-improvement does not mean that this person necessarily likes you, but it increases the probability of liking you, and it is a good thing to become excellent yourself, and when you become excellent, you may not look down on the person you liked before. ‍

I don't think so, and if you like you, you have to like everything about you, including your not being good, I don't like you at first, and I won't like you what you become.

I don't think so, if he doesn't like you before, likes to be excellent you, advise you not to be with him, this kind of person is too superficial.

I think it's okay, when you become good, you will attract a lot of people, including those you like.

Self-improvementI don't know if I can make the people you like like you, but it will make you like yourself more and more. Through self-improvement, the pattern is naturally different. In fact, liking yourself is more important than making others like you.

Because, everyone's preferences are different, and even the taste of eating cannot be the same, let alone the preferences for people. ‍‍

Constantly striving to be excellent is something you should do, and it has little to do with whether you like someone or not.

But with someone you like, the momentum to become better will be more turbulent, the motivation will be stronger, and the potential will be more unlimited.

After all, it's an interacting relationship:

The more you love him, the more you want to present him with a better version of yourself;

And the better and more perfect you become, the more he will be attracted to you and the more inseparable he will be from you.

So theoretically speaking, if you have someone you like, you really have to work harder to make yourself excellent.

But from a practical point of view, if you want to manage this relationship well, is it enough to work your own self-worth?

The answer is also no.

Even if you are quite valuable, outstanding, prohibitively excellent, and a rare goddess and god-like existence in the eyes of outsiders - but you can't handle the relationship with the other party well, consume the feelings of both parties, and it will be sooner or later to separate.

In other words, your personal excellence can temporarily attract the attention of the other person, but it is not enough to sustain the relationship in the long term.

What can really make the other person fall in love with you is the genuine personal strength and the abstract feelings brought by the process of getting along, and the combination of the two forms "you must be".

So, in an intimate relationship, in addition to "self-improvement", how can you make the other person love you more and more or even can't do without you?

1. Understand the needs of the other party and improve the efficiency of paying.

Compared with brainless giving, filling the gap of the other party in a targeted manner will greatly increase the other party's favorability.

In many cases, you have to be a smart enough observer in the relationship to specifically understand the other person's aesthetic line and satisfaction points, like the purpose of archery is to hit the bull's-eye, and your purpose is to grasp the focus of the other person's needs.

Always providing what he really needs, sending charcoal from the snow falling from the sky is much more attractive than blindly giving away from self-moving.

2. Master the balance of relationships and never use begging to gain favor.

You need to make sure that the relationship is completely equal, self-respecting and respectful.

The premise of loving each other must be to love yourself, this is not a cliché slogan; Because in any relationship, the favor you exchange for self-sacrifice must be mixed with the other person's pity and guilt, not the love you want.

Playing the low-level person will not prolong the life of the relationship at all, but will only increase the degree of peace of mind, which is essentially a one-man show. But for the other person, what he needs is the charm of you when you stand up straight, smile, know how to say no and love yourself.

3. To be the leader of communication, you don't have to wait to be coaxed.

The better you can communicate, the easier it will be to take control of the relationship.

Maybe you think that you win by waiting for the other party to bow their heads and coax after every quarrel - in fact, this is a typical passive form; The other party's behavior determines your state, the other party's attitude determines the temperature of the relationship, and you only have the right to passively accept it. And in the process, you put all your sustenance on the other person, and unconsciously form a pathological sense of dependence:

One day, the other party did not bow his head, did not coax you, and did not take the initiative to communicate; You panic and start doubting yourself, doubting your feelings

1. Understand each other's interests and hobbies.

Understanding each other's interests and hobbies is a very crucial step to find the right direction to develop each other's feelings. To be precise, it is to do what they like, understand the friction points shared by others and yourself, and then repeatedly stimulate it, so that others feel like you at first sight.

2. Be good at impressing others from the details.

When you keep the other person's unintentional words in mind and realize them silently, the other party will feel that you are a careful person and be moved by your actions.

3. Confess at the right time.

When you feel that the time is right, you can confess, never too early or too late. If it's too early, the other party may think you're too casual and don't know each other well and reject you; If it's too late, the other person may think that they are too familiar with each other and more suitable to be friends and reject you.

How to make the person you love fall in love with you, first of all, you must take the initiative to understand her, so that you will have a common language, and then grasp it from a very small detail, and you will seize the time period to confess, then the person you love will love you.

Only if one person takes the initiative first, it is possible to create a good communication bridge for your next development.

In a relationship, this is especially important, because it determines whether the two of you will cross paths next.

When you walk on the road, those who pass by with you are all passers-by in your life; But if one person initiates a conversation, it is possible to establish a connection.

This requires you to give courage, and when you meet someone you like, you can only approach the other person if you have enough courage.

If the other person responds to your initiative, then you will progress faster in the future.

No matter what you do, it's hard to succeed without self-confidence. The feeling is the same. You can only succeed if you have confidence in yourself and how you feel.

This self-confidence is not blind self-confidence. A person can only believe in himself more if he makes himself better; Then be confident in the emotions themselves, be more determined and courageous in doing things, don't back down when you encounter difficulties, and persevere.

Boys and girls are nervous when facing the person they like, because they can't decide what the other person thinks, so they don't dare to act rashly. Therefore, if you want the person you like to see you, in addition to being a better version of yourself to attract him, you can also make him feel your kindness.

Love is selfish, and why do you want the people you like to like you to like you equally, it takes you a lot of effort.

Under the real relationship between two people who have a good impression of each other, they will really rub out a better happy story of love!

Only with love can there be sincerity, only with sincerity can there be a future, and there will be no lack of passages to go to the number of jujubes and be more fortunate to be the first blessing of the stool.