When the elderly use what words to scare the child, the mother needs to be decisive to stop it?

When a mother hears that someone is stirring up the relationship between herself and her child, she naturally wants to be angry, but there are many such things in real life. For example, some older generations, when they see that their children have nothing to say, they will tease their children with their parents. made the child cry, and the adults laughed around him, but the consequences still had to be cleaned up by the parents.

Therefore, when the old man uses these words to scare the child, the mother must decisively stop it, which hurts the relationship between mother and child too much.

Your mother lied to you, she actually doesn't want you anymore."

is similar to the experience of the netizen above, and my girlfriend also encountered such a thing at that time. Once I took my child to the supermarket with my mother-in-law to buy something, and after shopping, I suddenly found that the key seemed to have been left on the counter, so my best friend asked my mother-in-law and the child to wait for her in the same place. As a result, when the girlfriend found the key and came back, she found that the child was crying, and the mother-in-law wiped the child's tears while laughing.

The best friend hurriedly asked what was wrong, and the mother-in-law smiled and said that she was scaring the child and saying that his mother lied to him, not to take the key, but not to him, and to throw him here, and the child cried. On the spot, the girlfriend was very angry, and told her mother-in-law with a straight face not to make this kind of joke again, and then began to coax the child, and she didn't coax until she got home. For these words, children are very easy to take seriously, and being abandoned by their mothers is a joke that children can't bear.

Your mother is pregnant with a little brother again, and she won't love you anymore."

In fact, when my mother was pregnant, relatives and the elderly in the family often said that when my mother was pregnant with a little brother, she didn't love Dabao. But the parents didn't take it seriously and didn't explain, the misunderstanding became deeper and deeper, and the child's heart became more and more uneasy, and it became what it is now.

If you provoke the feelings of mother and son, your mother must stop it in time.

It's not that children can't tell what a joke is, but when it comes to their mother's things and words, they will always take it very seriously. Because the mother is special in her heart, she believes and relies on her unconditionally, if others say that the mother doesn't love herself anymore and wants to abandon herself, the child's heart will be very hurt. Especially when the mother has not responded to this, the child will feel that there is a rift in the relationship between him and his mother, so when he encounters something that provokes feelings, the mother must decisively stop it.

For example, "If you are disobedient, your mother will not want you", or "Your mother has a second child, she will not love you," which will make the child lack confidence and security. It is necessary to stop it in time.

The elderly are more fond of scaring children, for example, if you are disobedient, the big tiger will eat you, or the mother does not want you, only likes the younger brother, etc., which will affect the psychology of the child, as a mother must pay attention.

The first sentence says that there are bad people outside who will arrest you, such a bad habit must be stopped, and don't let the old man say it anymore will affect the psychology of the child. The second point is that the old man scares the child and says that your mother doesn't want you, so the mother should also stop it immediately, don't let the child believe, the third sentence, that is, there are big rats outside, I will eat you, the old man's words are very scary, and they should be stopped immediately.

When the elderly scare the child with words such as "If you don't obey, your mother won't love you" or "Your mother won't love you anymore if you give you a younger sibling", the mother needs to stop it decisively. Because these words will make the child develop a wrong cognition, the child will feel that what the old man said is true, and the child will slowly lose his sense of dependence on his mother and will not like his mother so much.

The old man coaxes the baby and often says, "Hit it, bully our baby", "If you are skinny, the police uncle will come to arrest you", "If you cry again, your mother will not want you", "What does the child know when he is so young, don't worry about the child", "Mom and Dad will buy it for you, and the money we earn is for you to spend" ......Parents must stop it in time when they hear it, because it will add a little stumbling block to their children's growth.

Young parents are busy with work, and the elderly at home help take care of the baby. However, the education concept of the elderly is different from that of young people, and sometimes what the baby says is not conducive to the growth of the child and will have a bad impact on the child.

For example, it is often heard that "hit it, bully our baby". After the child tripped, the old people would often say that the table and stool were strange, which hurt our baby. But in this way, it is actually to blame others for the fault, and the child himself has not made mistakes.

Isn't this the child himself accidentally tripping? No one else's fault.

If you are skinned, the police uncle will come to arrest you", I believe that many people's childhood was threatened by this sentence. Uncle Police is a bad guy! But he has become a terrifying big bad wolf-like character.

If a child is in danger, will they dare to go to the police uncle? So this is a misunderstanding for children to enter the potato grip.

If you cry again, your mother won't want you anymore", this sentence is even more terrifying than "Uncle police is coming to arrest you". This sentence frightens the child, because the closest mother doesn't want herself, which is equivalent to the child's sky falling. For the sake of the child's sense of security, it is better not to say this.

What does a child know when he is so young, don't worry about the child", this is the most lethal sentence for the child's growth. When children make mistakes, the elders will say this to their parents when they are protecting their children. In fact, the child is not small, and the child also knows how to distinguish between right and wrong.

This kind of protection will only make them fail to recognize their mistakes and develop bad habits, which is not conducive to growth.

Mom and Dad will buy it for you, and all the money we earn is for you to spend", this sentence will let the child squander the money of his parents at will. Children will give whatever they want, and such children will not be motivated to study or work in the future, and will develop the habit of laziness. The above sentences are all said by the elderly when they often coax their children, so pay attention!