Scaring children with the number of three is a common thing for parents to do, what are the conseque

There is a mother who praises her child everywhere, saying that her child is very well-behaved and very obedient, as long as she counts to 3, the child will come over immediately. When she said that the child did not eat, she said, "If I count to three, I will not come to eat, so you will not eat."

Is this really good for children?

1. Affect the relationship between parents and children

This will reduce the communication between parents and children, children will less and less want to communicate with their parents, and children will not understand what they are at, they only feel that if they do not listen to their parents, their parents will punish themselves after "three". In fact, I am still afraid, not of the word "three", but of the punishment of my parents. It will also make the child slowly lose the ability to communicate, and he feels that he can only obey in front of his parents.

Second, let children have fear and lose their sense of security

Leave a shadow on the growth of children's lives, some children will have a serious conditioned reflex, and when they reach the "three", they will be afraid. This reminds me of the zoo where animals are trained, but if the animals don't do what they are asked to do, they will be whipped. The same goes for a child, who loses trust in his parents, loses his sense of security and lives in fear.

When the child grows up, he will be even more rebellious. Parents' words and deeds are very important to their children, and many parents take pride in teaching well-behaved children. In fact, many well-behaved children are just a superficial status quo, these well-behaved children suppress their hearts, but after suppressing them for a long time, these will break out sooner or later, so parents must listen to their children's inner thoughts and give their children the opportunity to choose.

3. Children will become more inferior, affecting their social skills

It will make the child more reluctant to express his thoughts, and we can see that the child is always with his head down, afraid to say what he really thinks in his heart. One is that he doesn't dare to say it, and the other is that he knows that it will be useless after saying it. The child will feel that his thoughts are not important, he is also an unimportant person, no one wants to know what he thinks, and no one really cares about him, and the child is easy to lose enthusiasm for life.

Such a child is more introverted, does not know how to communicate with his classmates, and may also learn the methods of parental threats, a vicious circle, resulting in fewer and fewer friends.

Parents must not educate their children in this way, and when educating their children, they must communicate well to promote the relationship between parents and children, so that children have more sense of security and grow up in a loving environment. In the end, the child's road will be walked by the child himself, and the child must not become a cowardly and incompetent person.

Because of intimidation, the child will obey the parents' requests, and the family will be harmonious for a while. As everyone knows, young children have very poor discernment, and sometimes they will take the scare of adults as reality, and their young minds may be hurt by this, making him insecure.

It will make children have a sense of fear, even if they grow up in the future, when facing some things, they are not able to solve them, and they always want to rely on their parents and others to solve this problem.

The child's courage will become very small, and it will become particularly inferior, and the relationship with the parents will be very far, scaring the child for a long time, the child will also become slightly promised, without any opinions, always very pessimistic when encountering things, and some changes will occur in the heart, and there will be depression.

It will cause the child to become particularly disgusted, and it will also lead to the child's resistance to control and resist, forming a rebellious psychology, so that the child is insecure, and it will also affect the relationship between the child and his parents, which will make the child feel threatened and lose the right to choose, so that he has no opinion on things, is very inferior, and becomes sensitive.

If you do this, it is very likely that the child will become inferior and sensitive, and secondly, it will also make the child become particularly afraid of his parents, which is also not conducive to a relationship between parents and children, and when the child grows up, he will not tell his parents anything, and he will become a particularly rebellious child.

There is a kind of parent in life who belongs to the "threat type", and educates children all by scare, and "counting to 3" is a typical threat to children. When parents say this, it is equivalent to telling their children, "If you don't obey again, I will beat you and don't want you." ”

Isn't it a bad influence? Rather, if you always use counting to three to prompt the child, the child may not be very sensitive to your number after a long time, and he will think that in fact, his mother will not beat me when he says three.

As a parent, don't scare your child by counting to three, which will affect your child and your child's psychology, so you should teach your child patiently.

In the process of family education, do not often scare and threaten children, it is likely that their young minds will be traumatized. It can lead to some psychological disorders.

The first point is not to scare the child, which will make the child very timid, the second point is not to intimidate the child, which will make the child psychologically shadowed, and the third point is not to give the child more requirements, which will make the child very fragile inside.

This will make the child have no confidence and low self-esteem, so it is seriously harmful to the child.