Is it okay to use intimidation to let children go to kindergarten honestly?

Don't mislead the child, to protect the child's mental health, the child is very small, there is no ability to discern, listen to the words of adults very true, he will be insecure, will be afraid that it is not a good thing, should be correctly guided, went to the kindergarten, there are many children to play with her, sing together, make games together, there are many fun toys in the kindergarten, there are delicious food, children like to go, help him do psychological construction, in the kindergarten can learn a lot of things, make good friends, on the way to kindergarten to sing nursery rhymes to him I go to school, I don't be late every day, I love to learn, I love to work, I want to make meritorious contributions to the people when I grow up, I want to tell him picture book stories when I sleep at night, parents must be patient, there must be methods, and children rely on their parents to guide!

It is recommended that you guide your child according to their subjective thoughts.

First of all, this is not advocated, it will leave a bad shadow in the child's heart, we must educate and enlighten the child well, so that the child knows the pros and cons of going to kindergarten, instead of intimidating and scolding, which is not good

It is not recommended that you use intimidation to let your child go to kindergarten, it is right for you to make your child fall in love with kindergarten.

Preschoolers often feel timid and out of place, especially in unfamiliar environments. Here are some ways to help young children overcome timidity and misfits:

1.Give your child love and support: Tell your child that you will always be there for him to support him and make him feel safe and cared for. This will not only help your child overcome timidity, but also improve your child's self-confidence, courage and optimism.

2.Explain the kindergarten situation with the child: Before the child goes to the kindergarten, show the kindergarten with the child, so that they can gradually become familiar with and understand the environment of the kindergarten, understand the arrangement, rules and regulations of the kindergarten and daily activities, so as to reduce the child's anxiety and tension.

3.Develop your child's social skills: Teach your child how to interact and communicate with others, such as how to get along with other children in a friendly way and how to express their thoughts and emotions. Through the training of social skills, children can better integrate into the kindergarten and social environment.

4.Actively involve children in activities: Encourage children to participate in various activities in kindergarten, such as outdoor activities, games and art experience classes, so that children can better understand and interact with other children, so as to cultivate children's sense of teamwork and cooperation.

5.Help your child form a small circle: Help your child form a small circle in the kindergarten, such as playing with classmates or participating in an older group interest group with other children. This is conducive to the child's Suikai feeling more warm and cared for.

The most important thing is that parents should be patient and wait for their children to slowly adapt to the environment and life of the kindergarten, and pay proper attention to their children's adaptation in the later stage, looking for other problems and difficulties that their children may face in the process of growing up. In this process, communicate closely with the child, understand the child's feelings and needs, and give reasonable and reasonable advice

1, "Tom Goes to Kindergarten".

Little Tom is going to kindergarten, and his parents say that the teachers at school are as kind as his mother. Mom bought him a brand new school bag and brought her mother's usual beautiful handkerchief, but Tom's eyes were full of tears. But after a day in kindergarten, Tom fell in love with kindergarten.

Recommended reason]: Parents can take their children to read together, and truly feel the psychological process before and after entering the kindergarten, and the book describes the real feelings of the children in the kindergarten in more detail, and they will be afraid to be nervous ......Parents should understand the psychological state of their children before entering the kindergarten in advance, so as to better help their children make the transition.

2, "I Love Kindergarten".

Little Leon is going to kindergarten, and on the first day of school, he can't get out of bed, feels that kindergarten is "terrifying", and thinks that he is going to be sold. But later, Leon fell in love with the kindergarten because there were friendly teachers and many new friends, and everyone had fun playing games, playing sports, and sharing with each other. Finally, little Leon proudly declares "I love kindergarten"...

Reason for recommendation]: This book is known as "the first book of early childhood enrollment", with a self-described approach, with simple and clear lines, outlining the protagonist Xiao Lehe Ang's delicate and real and undisguised emotions for kindergarten, and describing the psychological growth trajectory of a child who has just entered kindergarten in a delicate and nuanced way. Reading with your child will help you understand the kindergarten, let go of your psychological defense, and better accept the kindergarten.

How to make a kindergarten child fall in love with reading:

1. Reading Chunyan is first and foremost for fun. We want to create a space where reading can be a pleasure, so that children's imagination can develop, and children can swim and grow in the ocean of knowledge.

2. At the same time, it is also mentioned in the book "Cultivating Children Who Love Reading" that if you want to cultivate a child who loves to read, you can't rely too much on the school. It is up to parents to create a conducive atmosphere in which their children's enthusiasm for reading can flourish freely.

3. Combination of listening and reading. Parents can describe the content of picture books through language to arouse children's interest. Then take out the picture book and tell him this:

This is the brave baby elephant in the story, with its long nose and red ......clothesThis not only satisfies the child's curiosity, but also successfully shifts his attention to picture books.

For children who have just entered the kindergarten, it is normal for them to have some anxiety about entering the kindergarten after leaving their families for a long time for the first time and coming to a relatively unfamiliar environment. In order to alleviate children's anxiety about entering kindergartens, parents and teachers need to work together.

a) for parents;

1) Parents can communicate with the kindergarten teachers in advance, so that parents can take their children to the kindergarten before entering the kindergarten, so that the children are familiar with the kindergarten environment in advance;

2) At home, parents can talk to their children and slowly tell them what is in the kindergarten, so that they have the interest and desire to go to kindergarten and reduce their fear of kindergarten;

3) Parents can also lead their children to buy school supplies, such as small school bags, stationery, etc., so that they can slowly know that they are going to kindergarten.

4) When children are about to enter kindergarten, parents should not use words such as "if you are disobedient, you will be sent to kindergarten" to intimidate children and deepen their fear of kindergarten.

b) For teachers.

1) Teachers should be more patient with children who have just entered the kindergarten and talk to children after they enter the kindergarten;

2) When they cry collectively because of the anxiety of entering the kindergarten, the teacher can **some happy** to listen to him, or show them a cartoon that most children like, and slowly soothe their emotions;

3) Teachers can also tell children that when they get out of school, their parents will come to pick them up in the kindergarten, and they can share with their parents what they have seen, heard, thought and felt in the kindergarten.

4) Teachers can also ask children to bring their favorite toys to school, such as small teddy bears, or family photos;

5) Finally, teachers can set up some theme activities such as "Falling in Love with Kindergarten" and "I Can Be Brave to Go to Kindergarten" to help children relieve their anxiety about entering kindergarten, and then let children slowly fall in love with kindergarten.

For children's anxiety about entering kindergarten, schools and families should do their part to let children live a life that should go to kindergarten.

Guide your child on a regular basis.

Open and cheerful, lively, like to communicate with people, family harmony and happiness, parents give children empty plums, the best good love, children's personality, independent and confident, will not be so resistant to kindergarten.

Reasons for fear of kindergarten: weak social skillsSome children have poor language skills, do not learn the skills to get along with others, except for playing with toys in the corner, there are no children to play with him, so they are not popular in the class, so they do not like to go to kindergarten;

Reasons for fear of kindergarten: poor self-relianceAfter entering the kindergarten, children need to learn how to go to the toilet, eat, and dress on their own. Children who do not possess these basic life skills will certainly feel uneasy in group life;

Reasons for fear of kindergarten: poor performanceSome children are often criticized by teachers because of their low intelligence and poor academic performance; Some children are competitive and pay special attention to the teacher's praise, and once the teacher criticizes or blames him, he will be frustrated and afraid to go to school; Some children do not handle the friendly relationship with other children, and often quarrel with children, so they have the psychology of rejection of kindergarten. Parents can prescribe different remedies for different reasons.

How to solve the fear of going to kindergarten: a clever trick to make senseIf your baby is more communicative and obedient, I think you can reason with him. At the beginning, I calmly told Yuanyuan that my parents were very busy with work, my grandmother was not in good health and could not take care of Yuanyuan, and the baby had to go to kindergarten when he was older.

Only after entering kindergarten can you go to elementary school, middle school, university, etc. The little guy is still more sensible, but he just put forward a small condition: "Mom will pick me up early!"

Of course I did!

How to solve the fear of going to kindergarten: Tip 2: Adapt earlySpeaking of which, maybe you don't believe it, Xiaoyu didn't cry at all on the first day of kindergarten, and even ran to comfort the babies who were crying a lot. Although Xiaoyu is a brave baby, this is inseparable from my preliminary preparations.

About a week before the start of kindergarten, I took her to the kindergarten every afternoon, and looked outside before the door opened, and when the door was opened, I went inside to play and familiarize myself with the environment. After a few days, she became familiar with every corner of the kindergarten. In the process of playing with her, I would also tell her how good kindergarten is, and that she can play a lot of games that even her mother can't play, etc., and she is even looking forward to going to kindergarten, so it is not surprising that she does not cry on the first day of kindergarten.

How to solve the fear of going to kindergarten: Tip 3: Send late and pick up earlyMy method is to send it later and pick it up early! Half an hour later, he will find that the other children have no parents around them, they are all brave and want to learn from them!

Half an hour earlier, he will find that he will be very happy to see his mother earlier than other babies! After a few days, the baby will be able to adapt to kindergarten life!

How to solve the fear of going to kindergarten: the magic trick is to cooperate from four miles awayI often communicate with the teacher and tell her about some of the baby's habits and temperament. In this way, the teacher will be able to care for and comfort the baby in the right way.

The baby will also be very familiar with this kind of care, and feel that the teacher loves him like a mother, and slowly reduces the strangeness and fear of kindergarten.

When children have social phobia, parents should find ways to improve their children's social skills, and the specific methods are as follows:

1. Understand your child's fears.

Children may feel scared, nervous, and uncomfortable when facing strangers or social situations. This feeling may cause the child to avoid social situations or to exhibit inappropriate behavior in social situations. Therefore, we need to understand our children's feelings and give them support and understanding.

Second, it is necessary to help children establish a pure orange heart.

A child's self-confidence and self-esteem are key to overcoming social phobia. We can support children to try new things by encouraging them to participate in laughter and social activities, so that they can feel valued and capable.

For example, encourage your child to participate in interest classes, which can expose your child to more people and things, and at the same time increase your child's social opportunities. In these activities, children can work with other children on tasks and learn cooperation and communication skills that can provide them with the social skills to do so.

3. Help children learn social skills.

Social skills are key to a child's success in social situations. We can simulate social situations so that children can learn how to communicate with others, how to express their thoughts and feelings, how to build friendly relationships with others, etc. At the same time, we can also take our children to participate in some social activities, so that they can learn social skills through practice.

Fourth, parents should help their children establish a positive attitude.

Children need to learn to think positively so that they can better cope with social interactions. Parents should encourage their children to think about different solutions to problems, so that they can learn to look at problems from different perspectives.

5. Parents should give their children enough support and a sense of security.

Children need to feel supported and understood so that they can overcome social phobia. As parents, we can provide a sense of security and encourage our children to express their thoughts and feelings, while also listening to their children's opinions and suggestions.

Excessive fear manifestations: It is very normal for children to have fears, but fears that exceed the normal range need to be paid attention to, such as fear of getting dark, thinking of getting an injection when you see a doctor, or having a "school phobia". The main reasons:

A person's fear is almost directly proportional to the development of physical skills and the individual's upbringing. As you are exposed to more and more things and activities, your baby will experience more fear. In general, fear of sickness, death, solitude, darkness, and imaginary monsters peaks at age 4 and begins to decline after age 6.

Children's imagination is extremely rich, often confused with imagination and reality, adults should stand in the child's perspective to experience him, comfort him, do not ignore it, let alone scare the child. For children who can't express themselves, you can hug, pat and comfort them softly to reduce their fear; Parents should encourage children who can express themselves and explain the truth to them appropriately while comforting them, such as why it is dark.

Withdrawal behavior: Some children seem withdrawn and unsociable, especially after kindergarten, often sit alone, do not play with other children, do not even participate in group activities such as exercises, do not talk to others, and do not ask questions from teachers.

Main reason: Withdrawal behavior generally occurs when children are faced with an unfamiliar environment, and psychology shows that it is a self-protective behavior that they adopt because they believe that they cannot overcome the difficulties and obstacles they face, and they fear that they will make a fool of themselves in front of their peers, teachers or parents. Withdrawal behavior may be caused by poor innate adaptability, but it is also related to improper parenting and education, some parents do not let their children interact with other children from an early age, or take too much care and accommodation, which will cause children to have poor adaptability.

Intervention skills: Take children to participate in social activities Parents should create conditions for children to play with other children, play games together, and participate in social activities with children so that children can adapt to activities in public places. For children who have already withdrawn from the situation, parents and teachers should help them overcome loneliness, adapt to the environment, and establish harmonious interpersonal relationships between the young man's partner and his partner.