Constantly scaring a child can have a lot of negative effects, what should parents do when they see

First of all, be calm, don't criticize immediately When the child makes a mistake, don't criticize him immediately, scare him or be violent, you should calm down in time, patiently ask the child what makes him make a mistake, and understand the child's true thoughts. Secondly, with a positive attitude to influence them, parents should show their children more positive side, the courage to take responsibility, only parents do such an exemplary action, children in the eyes, children will also learn from parents, actively have the courage to bear their own mistakes.

First of all, the child doesn't really understand what the reason for doing this is. Therefore, counting to three may be able to temporarily make the child obedient, but it will not prevent the child from committing it again.

That must be to tell him directly, if you have mistakes, you will correct them, don't run away, so that you are a good child in the eyes of your parents.

I think that the main way of education for parents at that time was to fight education, because for parents, children who are disobedient can only be made obedient by beating, but the harm to children is also relatively great.

Clause. 1. There will be rebellion.

When a child makes a mistake, parents do not use persuasion and education to talk to him patiently, but use violence to solve it, which will cause a psychological shadow to the child, and he will have a rebellious psychology in his heart after a long time.

will reject the education of parents and be unwilling to communicate with parents, anyway, in exchange for a beating. Therefore, they will hide their hearts, and over time, they may hurt themselves when facing problems.

Some children will beat their heads hard when they can't solve a problem, but this is actually related to the way their parents usually teach them cheating and disorderly parenting. What's more, children will inflict this violent tendency on others.

When problems arise again, they will not be solved peacefully, but by force, and even hurt others.

Clause. 2. Willing to please others.

Children who grow up under the scare of their parents are prone to be willing to look at other people's faces to please others, and they will follow what others say they are not sure of their inner thoughts, speak carefully, and they will lower their posture.

Because of the fear that others will not like her, the fear of not playing with him, and the desire to please others everywhere, such children do not have their own independent character when they grow up, and they are easy to follow the crowd, and instinctively retreat backwards when they encounter difficulties, so it is difficult for them to succeed.

Thirdly, the child will become very timid.

Children who have lived in the scare of their parents for a long time will become very cowardly and cowardly, because when facing the best parents, they dare not show their hearts, and will only hide behind their backs and secretly observe their parents' faces to please their parents.

When such a child grows up, he will also become unbrave to take on problems and responsibilities, evade and shirk responsibility, thinking that everything has nothing to do with him, because he has the impression that as long as he bears such a mistake, then he will accept a violent beating.

Clause. Fourth, children will lose trust in their parents.

If parents often carry out threats and intimidation education in the family, when the children are still young, they do not know that what the parents say is false and are all to scare them.

But when the children are older, they begin to have the awareness and judgment to rent their own money, they will know that their parents are cheating on themselves, then they will become more and more distrustful of their parents, and when they are really in trouble and danger, they will not want to say oh to their parents.