Why do people allow a stranger s career but can t tolerate the promotion of someone close to them?

Because to a certain extent, people are selfish and strong. The people around you have succeeded and upgraded, but you have not got the corresponding results, subconsciously, you don't want to lose to acquaintances, and you are afraid that outsiders will compare you. Because you think you know how he succeeded (in fact, you don't see the real thing at all), but people you don't know succeed, because you don't know, so you comfort yourself.

This is the inferiority of the Chinese. Sometimes when you see the people around you, the more ordinary you are, the better, so that everyone is the same, everyone is equal, but really one day your friend is promoted to manage you, how will you be? Will you be psychologically happy? Will you sincerely wish him? It's a sick mentality, but everybody thinks this way to a greater or lesser extent, and that's it, personal thoughts, just for reference, I hope you can put this in perspective.

What is love? The meaning of love is very broad and can be friendship, family affection, love, ......Perhaps the most interesting thing for people is love, right? Then I might as well talk about love.

Love is the most beautiful word, how many people are struggling to pursue it, sometimes people regard love as more important than life. But what is love? How many people truly have eternal love?

How many people have been searching for it all their lives? Love may be the feeling of love at first sight, love may be the feeling when you make a promise, and love may be the ......feeling of life and deathLove is a topic that can't be talked about endlessly. When you fall in love with someone, your heart is panicked and uneasy, you don't know how the other person feels, and you have to hide your feelings because you are a reserved person.

Maybe the root of your love is a shadow in your heart, you put on a dream clothes for him, you are intoxicated in the illusion of the dream and do not want to wake up, wandering and tossing for a long time, when you know the other party's feelings, everything has been light, because you have stepped out of his shadow, his coat is no longer gorgeous, the love you hold has lost its luster, and your life has been injected with gray since then. When I don't have the experience of loving others, I think, "It's a pleasure to love others."

When I was loved, I thought, "What a blessing to be loved!" But whether it is to love or be loved, it is so sad, because people's hearts are always so unpredictable, and desires are always so things, for her, they can only pass by.

Nothing can penetrate deep into her heart. Like a decadent and gloomy flower, with a gesture of despair but looking up at an innocent face, smiling at all cruelty and humiliation. The deep dark green color is without tears.

Such a flower that blooms forever in the dark does not believe in tears, and is destined to be lonely for a lifetime. Often, in a crowded crowd, I feel the extension, sound, smell of many strangers, chaotic and noisy. And when you are quiet and then look and listen, you can feel incombinable, with love and being loved, there will be a struggle in the whirlpool of feelings, and with love and being loved, there will be more entanglements in the emotional world.

The wrong car of loving and being loved, the incomprehension of loving and being loved, the restriction of loving and being loved, the helpless ...... of loving and being lovedIn the vast land, for a person who is disappointed in the world and has no love in his heart, isn't it the same to **? Forever walking on the road, all love, all of a sudden, you will find that there is nothing here. Empty and silent.

There are many people who have no soul. I live a mediocre life, I have no purpose, I don't know why I want to live, and I never think about what I live for. There may be more and more such people in this world.

He was always looking for someone who felt the same way he or she did. Even if it is far away, even if it is crowded, he may feel the loneliness of the blank, and then know that the same alien as himself is not far away and feels each other with him.

It means that people can understand that a person who has nothing to do with them is promoted to become rich, but they can't tolerate the people around them like this. Because strangers have nothing to do with themselves, they are just jokes after dinner, and friends are people who are closely related to themselves, and friends may have a sense of gap in promotion, envy or even jealousy, and wonder why he is not me.

This kind of mentality is normal, and most people are.

There is such a person who has psychological problems, is too jealous, is too jealous, he doesn't understand strangers, and he has no comparison with him, and he can't speak, so he is only jealous of the people around him.

Either because of the interests or because of the unexpected.

How to understand "people allow a stranger to make a fortune, but cannot tolerate the promotion of a person around him." This sentence.

Hello, glad for your question. It means that people can understand that a person who has nothing to do with them has been promoted to become wealthy, but they can't tolerate the people around them like this.

Because strangers have nothing to do with themselves, they are just jokes after dinner, and friends are people who are closely related to self-defeating, friends may have a sense of disparity in promotion, and they will be envious or even jealous, and they will wonder why he is not me. This kind of mentality is normal, and most people are.

Another possible sociological explanation: relative deprivation. During World War II, Stouffer was in charge of the U.S. Army's Department of Social Research to investigate the factors affecting morale, and concluded that units with slower promotions had lower morale, but the results showed that the slowest military police units were more satisfied with their promotion system than the fastest advancing Army Aviation units.

This is also a chestnut that can be explained by "relative deprivation", the military police unit is slow to promote, and many people are difficult to improve and at the same time do not see others being promoted, so they feel nothing; However, soldiers in the Army Aviation often see people who are inferior to themselves (or maybe they just think they are inferior to themselves) getting promoted, or rising faster, and their morale is relatively low. Relative deprivation refers to the feeling of deprivation that occurs when people find themselves at a disadvantage by comparing their situation to a certain standard or a certain reference, and this feeling produces negative emotions, which can manifest as anger, resentment, or resentment. In other words, our judgments about our own situation are often based on the people around us.

This may also explain the fact that "promotion of people close to you cannot be tolerated", since the relative deprivation that can be caused by the promotion of strangers is minimal. However, if it is recognized by everyone around me as having extremely strong strength and deserving of the name to be promoted, I think it may be better. At least for ourselves, we can try not to be burdened by this.