When you break up, it s calm, but after a while, it s slowly painful. 20

Try to avoid two people facing each other, maybe you are reluctant to be sweet Now you don't have to force yourself to do what to do, how to face this, laugh when you are happy, and laugh after a while if you are unhappy.

Brother, our experience is exactly the same It's just that I'm older than you Actually, the past is over I'm still a little miserable now It's also from good to ten days In the face of all this, I can't say anything but make myself better Let it be proved that her choice to leave you is wrong.

You have to cheer up, after all, you are a student now and you should focus on your academics and nothing else.

At this age, this experience must have added confusion to myself in vain, and when it is over, it will be like a dream.

Leave early, be happy early.

Alas, why are boys so much to do, you have to put it down if you can afford it, you're only in high school.

Letting go is also a blessing.

After a while it will be fine.

Hey, if you want to open something, it's fine

There's nothing you can't get by

There could be many reasons why you are calm after a breakup, and here are some of them:

1.If you've been thinking about it for a long time before you broke up, maybe you've made a decision and are feeling relieved and relaxed now.

2.Emotions have been released: You may have released all the emotions before the breakup process, including anger, sadness, and disappointment, and now feel calm.

3.Having accepted the facts: You may have accepted the fact of the breakup, no longer had any expectations, and therefore felt at peace.

4.Not loving deeply: If you don't love your ex deeply, or if your relationship doesn't weigh you a lot of emotional burden, it's also possible to calm down after a breakup.

5.Being experiencing "dissociation": Some people may experience a psychological reaction called "dissociation" after a breakup, which can lead to feelings of calm. Dissociation is an emotional detachment that makes you feel as if you don't have emotions.

Whatever caused you to feel calm, breaking up is a difficult process, whether you have an emotional reaction or not. If you feel negative emotions such as sadness or anxiety, don't hesitate to seek help and support, such as talking to a family member, friend or professional psychologist.

There are three possibilities for this:

1. This kind of result was expected and mentally prepared, so it is not surprising.

2. Self-control can bend brother Qingli is very strong, even if his heart is turbulent, he can pretend to be very calm.

3. There is no emotion, and it doesn't matter if you break up.

4. Hurt each other to the extreme, I have long been looking forward to separating from each other, and Chencha hopes to get out of the current state, and I have long been in the same bed and dreaming.

You should know exactly what the situation is.

After the breakup, different people have different reactions, and some people will behave very calmly, generally for these three reasons: 1. The fact of the breakup has been expected for a long time, so it will not be shocked and uncomfortable. 2. This kind of person has strong self-control, even if he is sad in his heart, he must be very calm, of course, it may also be for the sake of face.

3. There is no relationship with his lover, so whether he breaks up or not will not touch his heart, that is, it doesn't matter if he breaks up or not.

It seems to be very calm, I go home after work to buy groceries, cook, nest on the sofa and watch TV, watch and fall asleep, and the next day I should go to work and live how I want. ”

They call me ruthless, they call me cold, they say I'm not human.

Actually, I'm just a backtrack, it should be half a month after the breakup, and my friends were playing on the roadside stalls, and it rained heavily without knowing what was going on, and I don't know why, I rushed into the rain like a neuropath, and walked aimlessly, my friends couldn't pull it back, and then the shoes were lost, and there was only one thought in my mind at that time, that is, there was no more her in my life in this life.

After explaining, they said, "Then you're still a human being."

I don't know if there are any friends like me, but I didn't have strong mood swings after the breakup, and I spent this moment like a very ordinary day, I think it's actually because, at that moment, I haven't accepted the fact that I broke up.

After all, we are people who have traveled a long way together, and how can we feel that the occurrence of this moment is not so real, so that our perception is limited.

There may also be a kind of reluctance to accept such facts, always hinting in your heart that this is not true, but if you really accept the facts, I think this kind of backlash will be even stronger.

I cried a few times, but fortunately I had my sister with me.

In fact, when you really adjust your mentality and focus on more important things, maybe this sadness will be reduced a lot, just afraid that the kind of person who has nothing to do will be full of things like breaking up, so the more you think about it, the more sad you are, the more sad you will think of him.

There are three possibilities for this:

1. This kind of result was expected, so it is not surprising.

2. Strong self-control, even if the heart is fluctuating, you can pretend to be very calm 3. There is no emotion, and it doesn't matter if you break up.

It may not be loved, or it may be hurt to the extreme.

A breakup is an emotional dissolution that is usually accompanied by negative emotions such as loss, pain, sadness, etc. However, sometimes when we do decide to let go of a relationship, we may also feel a sense of relief and peace. This may be because after a period of emotional turmoil and struggle, we have finally made a decision, recognized the situation between ourselves and the other person, and have accepted this fact.

At this time, our hearts may have experienced a profound baptism and growth, and we have a clearer understanding of our needs and goals for the future. Therefore, although a breakup can be painful, it can also be an opportunity for us to grow and move towards a better future, which can make us calmer and stronger.

In real life, everyone's psychology has a set of self-protection mechanisms, which makes our sensitive and fragile psychology stronger, able to defend against the crisis and setbacks of Wheel Hechang, and dilute them, so as to get self-liberation.

Psychological self-protection mechanisms are ubiquitous in people's mental activities, and their functions are similar to those of the physiological immune system. When people are about to fall into or have fallen into a state of tension and anxiety for some reason, they can use psychological self-protection mechanisms to alleviate or eliminate inner anxiety and pain to better adapt to life. Common self-protection mechanisms include latent inhibition, rationalization (ornamentation), imitation, projection, reverse action, somatization, displacement, fantasy, compensation, sublimation, etc.

When you are very uncomfortable when you fall out of love, your psychological self-protection mechanism begins to work, in order to make you no longer uncomfortable, you will automatically block out the things that make you unhappy, such as the shortcomings of your ex, the things you quarrel about, and in order to avoid this anxiety, you will only think of the sweetness of your early love with your ex.

In fact, these bad things that make your heart ache and your initial sweet experience are the whole of your relationship, your ex not only makes you laugh but also makes you cry, you are painful and happy.

So how do you lower your thoughts about your ex?

When you think about each other, the best way is to calm down first, in addition to thinking back to your sweetness at the beginning, you also need to think about the reasons why you broke up later, because not only you are very painful after you break up, but you are also very tormented during the breakup stage.

Some of the other party's behavior will definitely make you angry and make you do something out of the ordinary to vent, when you want to contact your ex, can you still bear such anger again, in fact, you know very well in your own heart that it is the two of you who are unhappy together, you will choose to break up, and for your current sense of need is enhanced, it is just a good scar and forget the pain.

I have been through this situation before, when I was so miserable that I even begged to get back together with my ex-girlfriend. But when I was rejected and hit again, I thought, why should I let myself live so tired? It's also a self-protection mechanism, at least I'm going to make myself happy.

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