What causes the lack of assertiveness?

Parents and elders do not give their children the opportunity to exercise, they must learn to let go and not let anything be done.

Analysis: Assertiveness is your independent opinion and perception of things. When others disagree with you, it doesn't mean that other people's ideas are bad.

Mature and assertive people will have their own judgment on what they want to do, and at the same time, they can rationally look at the suggestions of others and learn from others' strengths. In the end, choosing the most reasonable one is not necessarily your own assertion in the first place.

Method: Expand your knowledge and think positively.

On the premise of referring to the opinions of others, insist on making your own decisions on your own affairs.

Regularly voice your opinions online, at home, and in the classroom.

Dare to refuse. Financially independent.

Nurturing children's opinions:

1. Actively solicit children's opinions and ideas, and let children make some decisions on their own. For example, if you take your child to the supermarket to do some shopping, you can ask him what he wants to buy; When you take your child out, you can ask him what means of transport he would like to take; When traveling with your child, ask him what he thinks he needs to prepare.

2. Break the child's superstition about authority, instead of blind obedience and blind imitation.

3 Do home mind games with your child. Parents can identify a topic or problem and ask their children to come up with multiple ways to solve it.

4. Cultivate children's ability to think and judge independently.

5. Frequently ask questions with your child, leaving space for him to think and answer without interfering.

6 Listen to your child's "nagging", listen to your child's "justification", and teach your child to say "no".

Lack of assertiveness is generally caused by the following 5 reasons: 1. Parents' doting, doing everything for their children 2. Distrusting children, as the saying goes, "picking thorns" 3. Parents speak "imperatively" 4. Afraid of others being unhappy 5. Afraid of making wrong decisions.

nbsp;In life, we often encounter this kind of people, who have no opinions, and everyone is the same, and what others say is what they say. So what is the reason for the lack of opinion? Let's give you a detailed explanation of the reasons.

Details:

Parents' doting, do everything for their children: many parents are in a "good heart", everything for their children is arranged properly, I am afraid that they have wronged their children, what clothes to wear, what to eat, how much water to drink, when to sleep, etc., parents generally feel that their children are small, children do not understand anything, parents make decisions for their children for the good of their children, in fact, it is not necessarily for the good of the children, it is likely to save trouble for themselves, but it is certain that the child's autonomy is destroyed, and there is no room for the child to choose freely. As a result, when children grow up, they have no opinions and listen to their parents for everything.

Distrusting children, as the saying goes, "picking": parents have too high expectations for their children, and children cannot meet the requirements of parents, and are criticized by parents, which is a common thing. Children handle things on their own, and they always feel that they have not handled it perfectly.

Under this kind of environmental influence, children are not confident, do things only in a promise, and have no own opinions.

Parents speak "imperatively": talking to their children has always been a commanding tone, non-negotiable, not communicating with children, children have a slight disagreement, they will be criticized, causing children to dare not speak, and then do not want to say, and finally there is no opinion, I will do what you say. In this environment, children do not have their own opinions and dare not express their own opinions, and they will gradually develop this kind of character in their later work and life.

Fear of others being unhappy: In life, everyone values different points. Some place more emphasis on their own personal abilities because their core belief is that "I am capable."

But there are also some people who value their relationships with others more because their core beliefs are "I am lovely" and "I am popular". Therefore, some people are very concerned about other people's opinions and are afraid that others will be unhappy, so they dare not put forward their own opinions.

Fear of making the wrong decision: Although you can take your destiny into your own hands by making your own decisions, making decisions is not an easy task. For example, one of the most typical cases is that many times we don't know what the right decision is.

Aftermath and ex-ante decisions are two completely different situations. When everything is already clear, it's easy to summarize it; But when we make a decision, everything is unknown, and we find that there are possibilities. So some people are just afraid to take responsibility, so they don't dare to make decisions, and they are afraid of making mistakes.