How can you make your husband willing to do housework?

Is marriage really the grave of love? Teach you how to get your husband to do the housework for you?

When you want a man to do something for the family, do you make him feel a sense of being needed? Uproar will only use orders and commands, in the form of accusations and complaints, which will definitely backfire.

So a lot of times, some of the bad situations are also of our own making.

Even if the relationship between husband and wife cannot change each other, forcing each other to change into the person they want with a tough attitude or way, which is a big taboo in marriage.

Even if you are right, the person who is "violated" will not think that you are right, then they will definitely refute you and have a strong desire to attack you. Because in the most direct way, it is a kind of "invasion" of dignity, thoughts and emotions for each other, and finally because of biological instinct to resist.

Of course, people can be changed, but we need to use the way of "guidance" and "influence" to infect each other subtly.

Maybe this is the problem of many married women, the husband does not do housework, so what should we do when we encounter such a situation?

There are probably three ways to deal with it.

1, you are lazy, I am lazier than you, seeing who can survive in the end, I don't believe that you don't have a time when you can't stand it, so when you really can't stand it, you will naturally do it.

2. If you admit it, you will take care of all the housework, but at the same time, there will be endless complaints and complaints, which makes the family atmosphere not so harmonious and warm.

3. Forcing your husband to do housework in a noisy way, it may be a long time, and the two people will always attack each other because of housework, resulting in weaker and weaker feelings.

Maybe the effect is always right, but the cost is too great, in this case, it is better to change the way to guide the husband to do housework.

The rest of the people don't like to do the first housework, unless you say it, he listens to the middle of the story.

In today's society, it is indeed necessary to advocate that the two of us do housework, because it is said that men and women are equal, and you women also have to go to work to make money, and then go home to take care of the children, so men also have to do housework, and they can take on a piece of excitement for this family. Swift lead Chang.

But there will be a lot of men who just don't want to do housework, maybe they are used to it, and they don't have the idea of doing housework in the family since they were children, because in the previous era, they were all men outside, and women inside, so he would feel that everything in the house was done by women, and men were done outside, but now men and women are the same, if women make money, and then the housework in the house is also done, then the man only earns some money, and does nothing at home, of course, women feel unfair, and some men can't make much money, Going home and doing nothing will lead to a particularly high divorce rate in the family, and women can earn money and take care of their children, so what's the use of asking for a man? So there is something really unfair about this.

I don't mind that the other half doesn't do housework, at least I can help cook a little or watch the children, so that the woman's heart will have some psychological comfort, I will feel that I am so tired when I go home at 1:30, I have to cook, I have to watch the children, and I have to clean up the house, and it is already late to sleep at night, if I can get the comfort of my husband, it is good. It's just that some men don't know how to be grateful, as if things at home should be done by women, no matter what they do, it is a matter of course, and when they meet such a man, women will be particularly chilled.

To be able to get warmth in a family, two people need to take on the responsibilities of the family, there will not be too many differences, and the children can feel warm.

The man is a member of the family, of course, he has to share the housework, and he should be allowed to do the housework together.

Should. Men take the initiative to share housework can greatly reduce family conflicts, ease the relationship between husband and wife, but also promote the warming of feelings, improve the quality of life of husband and wife, for boys who do not like to do housework, women should also take the initiative to ask them to participate, in Chinese families, more than 90% of housework is done by women, and men, are at ease when they are in charge.

After many men get off work, they come home in a state of "lying corpse", doing nothing, knowing that they are lying on the sofa and playing with their mobile phones. But when I go to work, I usually sit all day, and for a long time, my body can't get effective exercise.

Therefore, after returning home from work, Xinchen may wish to sweep the floor, cook, and clean up the dishes and chopsticks, which can not only move his limbs, but also speed up the speed of body metabolism and make his body and mind feel comfortable.

You don't have to spend money to go to the gym, you don't have to spend time going for night runs, you can open up your body and move your muscles and bones at home.

Such a good thing, why not?

Men should not take their children to do housework, it is the duty of women to accompany and educate their children, and it is ...... of her duty for women to do houseworkTo this day, many fathers use gender bias as an excuse to put their spouses under the double pressure of "widowed parenting" and the harsh workplace.

Women have to learn to slowly change men's concepts, and the tradition of men's concepts is influenced by the environment, so you need to let him learn to do housework, so that he realizes that housework is not exclusive to women.

For example, you can not do the housework yourself, so that he realizes that it is not okay to have no one to do the housework.

In fact, a macho man is very face-saving, when a friend is present, you can give him enough face, and when you get along in private, you can say, "How is it?" I did well today, didn't I?

As a bonus, you're going to clean up and make it easy for me for a few days. In exchange, let him understand that it is not easy for you.

In a family, the share of housework should be equitable. Everyone should take their own responsibility, not let one of them take all the responsibility. This can reduce the burden on someone in the family and also make it more harmonious between family members.

Respect the differences in talents, preferences, and abilities of family members, and let everyone do what they are good at or enjoy.

Communicate and coordinate the division of household chores to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts.

Reduce unnecessary household chores, such as eating out and maintaining good habits.

Ask a babysitter or someone else to help, if you can afford it, and both parties are busy.

Treat housework as a pleasure, don't worry about trivial things, but be grateful for each other's efforts.

You've done all the housework. Your husband doesn't have to do housework when he comes home.

1. Get along honestly Love is a kind of force that makes people work hard, and the husband and wife are first of all a kind of harmony between the thoughts and feelings of both parties, and a kind of mutual compensation in psychological activities, so that both parties can produce a warm and coordinated healthy psychology. Therefore, it is more pleasing for husbands and wives to be honest with each other, to respect and love each other, and to take care of each other than to give gifts.

2. Communicate frequently Husbands and wives should often sit down to exchange opinions, communicate ideas, and pour out the joys and hardships in their hearts. Especially in times of adversity, what you need most is the comfort of your loved ones. A word of sympathy and an encouraging look will reduce the psychological pressure of the other party, enhance the confidence and strength to overcome difficulties, and truly see the truth in the midst of adversity.

3. Respect each other's personality traits A couple, even if they are childhood sweethearts, still have their own personality traits. Some husbands are active and have been wandering outside for many years, and they can't stay at home. And the wife is quiet and has a narrow social surface, and hopes that her husband will be at home with her all day long.

Every time the husband returns, the wife is unhappy, and sometimes she is a little petty, and if the husband can't stand it, there may be a quarrel. An empathetic wife or husband should respect the personality of the other person, do not impose her will on the other person, and reserve a certain amount of freedom for the other person to allow the other person to have their own social circle. In this way, marriage is not a kind of confinement, but not only to give full play to their individual characteristics, but also to be a warm home for mutual attachment.

4. Learn to be patient Husbands and wives must learn to be patient, Chekov said: "The most important thing in married life is patience." "When the other person loses his temper or sends a provocative signal, it is best to adopt the method of patience and avoidance, or put yourself in the position of understanding the cause to help relief, rather than being influenced by the other person's emotions and putting yourself in a bad emotional state.

5. Take the initiative to undertake housework After getting married, there are major matters that need to be negotiated together, but more often are the daily chores of firewood, rice, oil and salt. The equal interaction between husband and wife is manifested in the joint sharing of housework, and taking the initiative to undertake a part of the housework is the first concrete manifestation of the husband's love for his wife and the wife's consideration for her husband. If you need the other person's help, it's best to replace the commanding "you do it" with a friendly "help".

6. Influence the other party Use your own warmth to make the other party get probation. For example, on a rainy day, the husband takes the initiative to take an umbrella to meet his wife at the station; The husband reads or writes at night under the lamp, and the wife quietly sends a cup of hot tea and hot milk to the feast. This kind of practice of enhancing feelings often makes the other party resentful.

The reason why many people's marriage can't go on is often not a principled event, but some small things in life are accumulated, and the accumulation day after day finally becomes the last straw that overwhelms the marriage.

And among all the little things, the distribution of housework is also a point where many families quarrel and even end the marriage directly.

It may sound a bit alarmist, but in fact, it is true, what a home looks like, you can foresee the relationship state of two people.

If two people can't even take care of their own small family, and they are in a miasma, then they must also lack the ability to manage their feelings.

The division of labor between two people to do housework reveals the state of each other's feelings. I have observed the living conditions of many families, and found that the more involved men are in housework, the better the relationship, and the proper division of the housework between two people, the higher the concentration of feelings.

On the other hand, those men who act as the shopkeepers in the family will definitely have a bad relationship, and the more the women in the family complain.

To be honest, there are not many big things in a family at all, they are all inconspicuous little things, and housework is the most important of the inconspicuous little things.

Both of them are busy on weekdays, and they spend more time in the unit than they do at home, and when they go home, they do housework together, do work, and talk, which is conducive to the integration of emotions.

If you just go home and sleep, what's the difference with a hotel?

The more often two people do housework together, the better the relationship.

Two people doing housework together is a baptism of feelings, and it is also a deep communication process.

The reason why many couples can't go on is because there is nothing to say between two people, you talk about yours, I talk about mine, and there is no transmission between you and me.

Without topics, there will be no communication, and there will be no emotional integration. Many people may say that it is because they are too tired from work, too busy, and come home too late, and there is no time to communicate, so let's do housework together.

If you don't have the time, you can do it once a week. In the process of doing housework, you can talk while doing it, or complain about the way each other's sweat drips.

You will find that when two people start doing housework together, they seem to feel that housework is not so boring, and they are not so unwanted, which adds a lot of fun.

The happiness index of a family where two people do housework together is much higher than if they did it alone. After all, the home belongs to two people, so two people need to run it together.

If one person is working there and the other person is sitting and playing games, or ignoring it, then even if the other person doesn't say it, there will definitely be an opinion in your heart that you don't care for her.

The more a man loves you, the more he will share the housework together.

A man's love is not just a matter of words, but of action.