How can two people with different conceptual backgrounds come together?

An international student, a national defense student (is there a common topic in between?) Do international students understand national defense? Will defense students know about international students?

One has been very happy since childhood, and the other is a single parent (one is more mature, the other is not very mature, if you can be together, which day is not happier, two mature people are very boring together).

One thinks that money is very important, so he works hard to earn money in order to support his family, and one thinks that honor is the most important thing as long as the money is enough to spend, so he doesn't earn money (life is life, not love, love is based on bread, a person can't live in a fairy tale world, one day the person who doesn't want to earn money is short of money, he will understand what to do, which will make money is not which person makes up for it?) ）

One wants her boyfriend to be by her side all the time, and the other says that she is willing to stay outside every day and not go home for the sake of the country (it is a good thing for the country, but when you get married, who will not be home every day, unless there is no warmth at home).

The last two people's future is the same product, this world can not be born two people are compatible, some things have to rely on the day after tomorrow to tolerate and tolerate, learn to understand each other, two people will not be tired, will live better! The latter is a bit unrealistic, but that doesn't mean he's not a good partner!

It's better to be confused.

Just live well now.

It's good for two people to be happy together.

Things to come.

Who could have foreseen?

Thinking too much. I'm just adding to my own troubles.

<>——— doesn't fit, I'm sure.

<> will not settle for the rest of his life.

The more you experience, the more you will understand that all the relationships that make you struggle are wrong; If the three views do not agree, they will never be all the way. Two people with different views are together, each with their own feelings, and they can't understand each other. In the long run, it will only make everyone more and more tired.

If the three views do not coincide, there is no need to make do. is like Su Qin said: "Whoever you are comfortable with is with whomever you want, including your friends, and stay away when you are tired." ”

Many times, the two insisted on their own words, explained to each other until the evening, and did not convince the other party to accept their point of view, and finally broke up unhappily. Actually, the two of them are right, but they don't agree with each other and can't understand each other. In many cases, we stand at different heights, look at problems from different angles, and naturally have different ideas and perspectives.

Everyone has their own ideas and different understandings of problems, and we can't change other people's minds, and we don't have to force others to agree.

After all, arguing with people who don't agree with the three views is like a show meeting a soldier, and it doesn't make sense. Since the three views are different, there is no need to waste time and energy to explain if there is no speculation in more than half a sentence.

——— between two people, if the three views do not agree and it is difficult to reconcile, they will never be able to live happily together. Two people who don't agree with each other will not be happy together, or even easy. ”

It's like two people climbing a mountain, one has reached the top of the mountain, and the other is still on the mountainside. The man who reached the top of the mountain pointed to the distance and shouted, "Look, it's the sea."

The people who were still on the mountainside looked confused: it was clear that there was still a mountain in front of them. People who do not agree with each other are like two intersecting lines, and there are still mountains in front of them.

People with different views are like two intersecting lines, even if they have a brief encounter, they will eventually part ways and drift apart.

In fact, any relationship can only go further if the three views are the same and understand each other. The rest of your life is long, and you have to be with people who have the same three views and don't get tired of getting along, so that you can gain more sincerity and happiness.

——— time determines who we meet, but the three views determine who we stay. ”

Not necessarily.

There is a high probability that people with different ideas will not be together, but love, understanding and tolerance can bring people with different ideas together. No two leaves in the world are exactly the same. We are all unique in this world, it is impossible to find people with exactly the same concept, we are looking for a partner, not another self in the world.

In real life, disagreement is a particularly common way to break up or divorce. A disagreement can make years of feelings fall apart, and can make a marriage stop in the bud. Love at first sight is more likely to happen to people with complementary or similar personalitiesSo is it really possible that we are not together if we have different concepts?

I know such a pair of grandparents: grandpa likes to eat durian very much, but grandma hates it very much, but she doesn't stop grandpa from eating itShe didn't impose her will on her grandfather. Every time Grandpa eats durian, he picks when Grandma is not at home, or when he comes home after eating outside, and he doesn't let his behavior affect Grandma.

It's clear,The grandparents' concept of durian is completely different and completely opposite, but this pair of grandparents is already a golden wedding, and they have spent 50 years of ups and downs together.

It's normal to have different ideas, everyone has the right to express their own ideas, but if we can be as understanding, tolerant, loving and respectful as the grandparents above, then different ideas can also be together. Why is there a run-in period when falling in love? It is because we want to put the "inappropriate" between us in a "suitable" position.

Is it necessary for people with the same ideas to be together?

In the movie "Bouquet of Love", two strange men and women who originally passed by in the same city met in Pingshui, and they were ignorant of each other, but they magically had a common favorite writer, game, and private hobbies, and their personalities were completely consistent, and even the inexplicable rules of this world, and the reverie and pursuit of romanticism in life were completely consistent. It can be said that in the eyes of the audience, they are the kind of pair made in heaven. But in the end, they separated and failed to enter the palace of marriage.

Therefore, the same concept does not necessarily mean to be together, what can really make people together, and what is suitable for being together is love, and the same concept is only a plus, not a determining factor.

Many people think that two people must have three views in harmony to be happy, and I personally believe that the three views are naturally good, but many people ignore a problemPeople's three views are changing throughout their lives, and with different experiences, various changes will occur, which is why many couples start with Qin Se and Ming, but in the end they are separated from each other, they do not move forward together on the road of growth, but go to different forks in the road without knowing it.

A person's ideology is formed for a long time, and it is generally not easy to change, when pursuing the other party, there are only the advantages of the other party in their eyes, and in order to get the other party's approval as soon as possible, some people may ignore these problemsAfter falling in love, I found that there were so many different views between each other. If two people do not agree with each other's point of view, they will not interfere with each otherIf you can seek common ground while reserving differences, then it is still suitable to be together; And if two people have completely opposite views, they are in a situation where water and fire are incompatibleIf you can't even barely accept it, then it's definitely not suitable to be together.

Compared with the difference in concepts, it is more important whether both parties can respect and accept each other's ideas and help each other move forward in the future. The Tao is different, and they do not conspire with each other. When two people with different ideas get together, they are nothing more than actively together, or passively together.

1. If you take the initiative to be together, you will definitely be able to find something in common, you must learn to self-restraint, from the common place to the small broad, seek common ground while reserving small differences, and increase the inclusive mentalityFocus on the long-term development of the relationship, and deepen friendship and affection.

2. If they are passively together, they can only try to adapt, avoid focus and contradictions, and practice the golden mean. As long as there is no obstacle to each other, they can deal with each other calmly, and strive to coexist peacefully in this way, so that they can be at peace with each other. Don't blindly follow, but don't try to change the other party!

It's not that you can't fall in love with different concepts, but you must be prepared for a long-distance love run, and it's important to understand them. Really, it's good to have someone who understands. Maybe you can do it by heart, and maybe you can do it by telling you to go east and never go westYou can give them everything you have, but you don't necessarily understand what they need and what role they want you to play in their lives.

<>What is the state of getting along with different views?

What are the consequences of the gap in values?

Is there really a person who has the same three views?

Personal Summary!

- I don't think it's suitable! Whether it's a friend or a situation, it's really difficult to get along with the disagreement between the three views

It can be very tiring for two people to be together, I don't know what to do together, but I am reluctant to break up.

The two sides are not even on the same channel for quarrels and awkwardnessYou don't even know why the other person has a temper, and what one party thinks is right often hurts the other party, himI always like to impose my own views on the other person.

The concept of consumption is differentIt is the main problem of the contradiction, and it is often difficult for many couples to understand each other's consumption habits due to differences in family background or their own incomeThere has never been a tacit understanding between you, and it all depends on your appearance。At first, you have never understood each other deeply, and you just think that the other person is good-looking and get together, which will only make your future relationship more troublesome.

It can be very tiring for two people to be together

The gap in values is really serious, and there are some people who feel that they seem to be very good to me from the beginning, but after a long time, you will understandIt turns out that the gap in values is what makes you really feel pain, that is, you think this person doesn't care enough about me, and there is something to make up for this.

But if there is a conflict between a person and your three views, that means that you live all the timeEither live in the sea of fire, or live in that kind of cold and that feeling。It's just that there's not a moment of comfortSo in the end, we have to break up.

In the end, they still have to break up.

Whether two people can be together for a long time, we often mention whether the three views are the sameBut the main thing is to tell you a heart-piercing fact, in this world, you are unlikely to meet someone who is completely consistent with your three views, If you suddenly feel that you have met him, it's just that you haven't spent enough time together, you can meet someone who understands each other, and then in the process of getting along later,You are willing to change for him, and he is willing to seek common ground while reserving differencesYou can all agree and accept itAccept that we are two different individualsBeing able to do this has already won 99% of relationships.

You have changed for him, and he has sought common ground while reserving differences for you.

What you need most for a truly long-lasting relationship is my attitude that I am willing to change for you.

Generally speaking, people with different ideas cannot be together at all. Because two people can't identify with each other and look down on each other.

Only two people with roughly the same world view, outlook on life, and values can be together and can get married and have children.

In this way, with the passage of time, people's three views are still changing, thinking of their own great changes, and the previous judgment is completely like two people, and now I completely disagree with the previous me.

In my personal opinion, it is not suitable, because it is difficult to get along with the three views, and it is difficult to be happy even if you are reluctant to be together.