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Unhappy. In my opinion, the process of communication is that two people understand each other and see if the two sides have the same views and are suitable for each other. If you feel that two people are compatible with each other, you will get married. It's really hard to go on if the three views don't agree.
Different values will cause many problems in the future. One of the two parties may be more concerned about the quality of life, so they are not very careful about money and will not be too careful about the economy, in this case, the other party is naturally the opposite. I feel that a lot of expenses are "unnecessary".
There will also be a lot of disagreement on some things. This disagreement is mostly raised on the spiritual level. Perhaps out of love for each other, once or twice this kind of disagreement, everyone can tolerate and understand each other.
But life is long, and man's patience is limited. Can the two sides really tolerate each other forever? The dissatisfaction in my heart accumulates too much, life turns into quarrels, what joy is there in such a day?
And after getting married, all kinds of problems have come out, and the two people have to face far more than now, if they will feel that they are struggling to get along with each other now, they will get worse after marriage, so don't let go as soon as possible, the long pain is better than the short pain.
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Since two people have different values, I don't think they should get married, after all, values can influence a lot of things and decisions to do.
Once two people get married, there will be a lot of problems involved, but when facing a problem, if the values of the two people are not the same, the decisions made will be different, so that the two people will have contradictions, and once the contradictions occur, it will also affect the feelings of the two people, so in the end they will not be too happy.
After I graduated from college, my family urged me to get married, so my aunt introduced me to a boy who looked like a clean-looking boy when I first met, but after chatting with us, we found out that we were people with different values.
In his opinion, as long as there is money, everything can be solved, as long as there is money, there is everything, but I don't think so, I think money is not everything, people get along with each other, the most important thing is trust and affection, if there is no trust and respect between two people, then, even if there is more money, it is useless.
Whether you are with friends or family, you can't base yourself on money. If the relationship between two people is based on money, then if there is no money, the relationship between two people will be dispersed, only the relationship between two people is based on trust and respect, then after two people get married, as long as they respect each other and trust each other, life can be happy.
Although my current boyfriend is not my other half, the trust and tolerance he gives me makes me feel safe. Only when two people feel relaxed together and have the same values will they be happy together.
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I don't feel suitable, people with different values, because of different views, there will be estrangement in the future, there will be more and more contradictions, and the relationship will become very bad.
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Because two people have different values, even if they love each other again, they may quarrel over some trivial things, and in the end there will be cracks in this marriage, which is likely to cause divorceIt can be seen that the values of two people are really important for this marriage.
When choosing a marriage partner, many people pay more attention to each other's appearance, economic conditions and each other's family, in fact, these conditions are important, but the values of two people are also quite important. I once encountered such an example, the couple is a match made in heaven in the eyes of others, the man is handsome and has a stable job, the woman is a strong woman outside, and can take care of her husband and children at home, she is definitely the best candidate for a wife. However, in places that others can't see, the couple often quarrel over trivial things.
One of the most talked about topics is that women always think that men are not motivated, and although men's jobs are stable, the wages are not high, and they have been hovering in this position for decades, and it seems that the future is fixed here. But the man doesn't care at all, he thinks that his job is very good, at least he doesn't have to worry about food and clothing, and the work is very easy, there is no need to be motivated at all, while the woman works hard and wants to give the child a better life, and the values of the two people in this matter are completely opposite.
Sometimes men just want to buy something, but women take advantage of the problem, disgusted that men's wages are too low, and they are not qualified to buy these things at all. Finally, in the 7th year of their marriage, the two completely collapsed because of a trivial matter, and the marriage finally went to divorce. Everyone doesn't understand why the two of them divorced suddenly?
Obviously, it seems that the relationship is so good, and there is no need to worry about work and economic problems, but it is because of their different values. Therefore, the value ** seems to be a small thing, but it plays a key role in our marriage, and we should still consider liberation.
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Two people with different values, I think sometimes there will be some differences of opinion, if the relationship is good, I think it is still possible to consider marriage. Compared with the three views, values should have little impact.
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First of all, the two of them will often have contradictions, often quarrel, and live their lives in a mess, because their ideas are completely different, their values are very different, and their views on things are also very different, so they will not be happy if they are barely together.
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After getting married, the two people will not be particularly happy, they will often quarrel after marriage, and every time they have different views and disagreements, every quarrel may be unhappy, and both parties can not understand each other's thoughts, and finally one day the marriage will definitely exist in name only.
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Two people may have a lot of conflicts, and they don't have a unified idea when doing things, it is difficult to communicate together, they will not understand each other, and there will be some quarrels.
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If one thinks that a happy life is the most important thing and the other thinks that money is the most important, or if one thinks that having children is a complete family and the other does not like children, these are the questions of values. It is safe to say that there will be problems when two people with different values get married. It's just to make ordinary friends, and it's hard to make deep friends with different values.
This is like the choice of the general direction of life, you choose the east and he chooses the west, how can you two go hand in hand and work in one direction? The result can only be to interfere with each other, and finally break up. Unless one of them changes direction.
In the case of the same general direction, if it happens to be a good match and has similar interests, it is naturally better.
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Two people with different values may often quarrel together, feeling that the two people are not on the same line, and it will be tiring to get along.
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Two people with different values, even if they are married, may be full of contradictions, because the values of two people are different, so they can't discuss anything together, and they may often quarrel, which will affect the life of the couple.
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It is okay for two people with different values to be together, but it is not recommended to be together. Two people with different values are prone to big quarrels over consumption, and both people have their own reasons, and if no one gives in, it is difficult to maintain such a relationship.
If one of the two sides can make concessions, it can go on for a long time. But values are not formed in a day or two, they are long-term habits, and it is very difficult to change them.
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There are no two identical leaves in the world, and if two people are together, all they have to do is to be tolerant and accept each other while retaining their values.
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This is not necessarily, there will inevitably be friction between different values, which requires two people to be considerate and tolerant of each other. The highest level of love is: coexistence.
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Two people with different values can also be together, as long as they agree with each other and are willing to make changes, they will naturally have the opportunity to create a happy life. Some things can be accommodated, some things can be discussed, and some things can be compromised to each other.
So, if you really make up your mind, you will suffer less, you will improve each other, and you will have a sense of happiness. Whoever you are with, there will be some irreconcilable contradictions, just learn to make yourself happy.
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Two people with different values can't be together. Because values are the fundamental issue, two people's pursuit of life is completely different, and their perception of values is also different. Maybe there is a person who will change for love, but no one can last a lifetime, so two people with different values will not be happy for a long time.
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Although from common sense, two people with different worldviews and values are together because of love, they may also be unable to enter marriage because of different values.
But the biggest uncertainty about human beings is also the word love.
So I think it depends.
But the general trend is that love can be together.
Marriage is a bit difficult.
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No, you can't. The incompatible state of fire and water is psychological, mental destruction, different values, the other party can't understand your thoughts, and then leads to quarrels.
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If it doesn't please the eye everywhere, why bother with yourself.
It is not a long-term solution for one side to tolerate concessions.
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It's going to be painful, and it's almost impossible to run in.
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It is really important to have the same values in marriage, first of all, I think marriage is a long-term internal friction with each other.
A process, of course, the internal good here does not mean that two people are in the process of getting along with unhappy and there are some internal frictions, there is love, and two people, in this process is very comfortable, then it is necessary to ensure that the values are consistent, and finally in the case of consistent values, the other party can do anything to be able to hit it off with you, and the contradictions between you will not, it is very clear that there are many limbs, if the values are inconsistent, you go east, he wants to go west, One wants to change the other for a long time, and the self-agitated world will have quarrels, quarrels, and quarrels, maybe the marriage will break up.
The values in marriage are nothing more than the cognitive view of things, the cost of money and the view of things, which seem to be very small, but in fact, you will find that these are extremely magnified in life, first of all, for the cognitive view of a thing, everyone is different, but people with the same values can not only retain their own opinions, but also agree with the ideas of others, which is difficult for many people to do. The second point is in the concept of consumption of money, if the husband and wife are inconsistent in the concept of consumption, then it will appear in life, one wants to buy high-end things, the other feels practical, over time, the mood of two people will become good, after a long time, the feelings of two people will fall apart.
The third is the way of looking at things, that is to say, two people's views on a thing in the process of daily chat and discussion are enough to affect the trajectory of two people's lives, if two people are always awkward when discussing a thing for so long, and over time two people will become silent, no talk, for a long time, two people may be separated, and marriage will no longer exist.
All in all, I personally believe that the values in marriage are very important, which determines whether these two people can go on for a long time, and even in the process of life, whether two people can look at each other's strengths and weaknesses, tolerate each other, tolerate each other, and be able to go hand in hand to the end. Therefore, before getting married, you must keep your eyes open, work hard to find a lover, and try to be consistent with your own values before you can enter the palace of marriage, otherwise there will be endless pain waiting for you after getting married, and it is too heavy to have a marriage as a price.
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Everyone has different values, and when they treat and deal with things, they may have different ways and results. Differences in values exist in many marriages, what should you do when you meet your partner whose values are very different from your own, and can you join hands with each other?
This is the dictation of a lady who is in the midst of this trouble:
My husband and I have very different values, he grew up in the countryside, while I am in the city. He was very burdened and stressed, because we owed money for our previous investment and business. But I think that even if we owe money, we can live a relatively comfortable life, and even if the money is for others, the debt can be repaid sooner or later, and we can't treat ourselves badly.
Although my husband is good to me, his temper is not very good, and he is a little anxious. I feel that the quality of marriage is too poor, and I don't feel happy at all. Try to mess with him as little as possible and talk to him less.
If I were to change myself to live a ragged life, it would be impossible. I can't change myself. Because I'm selfish, I've always thought about how to enjoy life, but I've changed a lot since I was married, but I'm still far from him, he lives almost an ascetic life, and he rarely asks me much.
But although he didn't say it, he got angry more and more often, and when he got angry, he would count me down, saying that I had messed up my life. It's really noisy, I have no more to communicate with him, probably because of my problem, I can't share the hardships with him, I only let him suffer alone, and I am secretly happy in heaven. But I won't change, his love and tolerance for me have been wiped out by me, and he can't continue to be happy with our future.
Me too. Let's go find a virtuous woman who can live as frugally as he does and get rich together! Tired.
It's been a year of marriage, and we know each other, but we haven't changed ourselves and each other. Now it just makes this contradiction clearer.
I'm so tired and want to get a divorce, even though I have two children. However, an unhappy marriage will not be happy for the children! I hope you can help me with ideas. To leave or not to leave? Is there any way to ease the relationship between husband and wife, it's too tiring.
In fact, this lady's situation is just one of the many couples with great differences in values, and the difference in values is a problem in many marriages, which will destroy the harmony and peace of the family, and cause conflicts and quarrels.
The so-called values refer to a person's outlook on life, world view, marriage outlook, moral outlook, etc., which are slowly formed from childhood to adulthood, and some events in our lives, even if some family trivial matters are mostly related to a person's values.
Many people tend to look for someone who matches their values and social status, but no matter how you look for it, differences are inevitable. Because of the close connection, the husband and wife have no distance from each other, they both carry spears and thorns, and the two are-for-tat, which will cause many contradictions in the marriage family Honghui Orange Court.
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