If you want to get married, your family wants 70,000 yuan, but the man s family disagrees, and alway

Whether you can bargain or not depends on your own, I personally think that if his family doesn't agree, forget it and don't marry. How can there be such a thing, if you marry someone and don't give any money, what is it to be someone's daughter? Don't they have daughters in their family, but they do this to other people's daughters, so if they marry their own daughters, I don't think he wants money.

Yes, if the man's family can't afford to pay and lend you money at that time, won't you have to pay it back together after you get married?

If you want to marry him, you will definitely be able to bargain, if you don't want to marry him, give 100,000 and don't marry, the key is what you think in your heart, happiness is more important than anything else.

You can tell your family to let your family want less, if you really like your object, but also think about it, after all, it's not easy, if he really can't take it out, I guess he will borrow money, and when the time comes, it's still the two of you to repay the debt, it's not cost-effective, rather than this, it's better for you to take the initiative to discuss with your family now.

No, you can discuss it if you wish.

Is it a bride price or a marriage? Money is important or husband is important, measure it yourself.

If you really want to get married because of love, look at the man's family and do what he can, if the man's family is not so good, but he asks others to be rich, it is difficult for a strong man, to be a reasonable wife and mother, how can real marriage and love be measured by money!

Don't hurt your peace and understand what is most important.

We don't think the bride price should be compared to your love marriage. You yourself think that this is the person I want to be with me for the rest of my life, and those bride prices are nothing of a problem!

Consensual thinking, the amount of bride price is not a problem at all, and marriage is not a sale.

So far, I have never heard the price of the bride price be discussed.

Don't think I'm gossiping, judging from your narrative, their family seems to have very little understanding, it's not that your family is selling their daughter, but that their family sees you as something they can't sell, and it depends on what you do. Now that's it, what about after marriage?

I didn't ask for a bride price when I got married, but my in-laws' family is a very warm family, and my parents are very considerate of his family's financial conditions. Both sides are in harmony. Consideration is on both sides, as long as people feel valued by the other party.

If your in-laws are very good to you in addition to this, you don't need to worry about it, you can't break a marriage for 50,000, if they are originally a strong family and won't think about others, you have to think about whether it's worth it.

After all, a woman's youth is short, and marital happiness is a major event in life, so she must choose well, as long as she does not hurt others, it is understandable to be better to herself. The main thing is what kind of family you are going to and whether you will be able to integrate into this family in the future.

May we get out of the entanglement as soon as possible.

Hehe, from the perspective of people who have come before, it's time for you to weigh your boyfriend's attitude towards you, as well as his family. Judging by your addition, he values his family's feelings more. without taking into account your psyche.

Now you're married. But these problems are negotiable in the eyes of others, maybe you don't have to worry about it, but you are about to collapse, think about it in the future, if there is a conflict because of other things in the family, he will definitely not think from your point of view. So think about it.

Is he worth it. There are many people who think that two people are in love and should not be measured by money, but now I don't think it's about money, it's about the attitude of your boyfriend and his family. Why should the feelings of the daughter's family be ignored?

Think about it.

You have to think about it, you have to pay the bride price money for marriage, there is this custom in many places, if your boyfriend loves you, he will definitely stand in your first place and think about it, and he will not embarrass you so much for this bride price money. It won't hurt the feelings of the two families so much because of this, if it is said that his family's economy is not good, he can discuss less, so as not to say that he does not agree at all! What's more, you'll bring the money with you!

Think about it, huh?

There is nothing wrong with the male family being very smart, your parents are crazy about money, you must know that this money is for your parents. But on the other hand, other boys also have parents, so you have to give gifts. It doesn't matter whether your parents are good or not, your parents have secretly changed their concepts.

The relationship between the in-laws is generally not very good, so don't get your hopes up too much. Because your marriage has harmed the interests of each other's parents. If your husband pays the bride price in full, it's nothing.

The problem is that not everyone in China has this ability.

After this toss, it will obviously affect the relationship between your two families in the future. Even if the other party pays the bride price, it is even more unlikely to be good to you. This has a deep impact.

Is your boyfriend nice to you?

Me too, my family has more than 10,000 meeting gifts, but my husband's family is only 30,000 or 40,000 yuan, I want to say that we are ** married more than 100,000 yuan, isn't that embarrassing for them, don't care so much.

Anyway, after taking it, I will take it back, so I won't toss.

In fact, these are very real problems, the problem of bride price, if his family has no money to give, your object can discuss with you can have room for negotiation, the New Year's problem should also be considerate of each other, and see where you both work, if you work in the location of Party B's parents, it is reasonable to spend the New Year at the other parent's house. Overall, I feel that your object is a little unreasonable, and I don't know if it has something to do with your anger.

I really love him, and he cares about these tens of thousands of dollars. I don't know what you think about yourself.

We often make a joke among our friends, and the joke goes like this: A says to B, give you 5 cents, let your wife sleep with me, B says, die, A says to B, give you 5 yuan? B replied:

Nerve... 50 years old?。。 Until 500W, B ignored A, when A said 5000W??

B looked at A and did not speak...

Can feelings be bought and sold? The relationship between you and him is worth this 5w block? Think about it! If you love him, don't worry so much! When you get married, you are a family, you sleep together, and you die in the same hole!!

You're pretty selfish and macho!

Think about it!

After reading what you added, you should think about it even more! You have a strong mother-in-law and a boyfriend who is very obedient to his mother! If you want to enter such a family, you must be cautious! It usually turns out to be a bitter daughter-in-law.

Confused! How can marriage be measured in terms of money? If you really love him, you won't marry him because he can't give 50,000.

Of course, it is not excluded that the two parties do not trust each other, it depends on what you mean, if he is really good to you, really loves you, and believes that the decision of the family will be ignored. See people clearly, marriage is the first major event in life.

Your partner's decision is correct, and you are in your current state and are not ready for a marriage.

1.At a shallow level, it's your family's rebellion.

I don't know if it's you or your father who saw that the number didn't meet his expectations, and jumped out and said, "The rules on our side are at least 80,000".

Even if he said at the time, "According to our minimum standards, just go through the motions", it would not have been like this, because a good face feels that it is impossible to make a request, because a good face feels that the bride price is too little and is not respected, others get married because of heart-to-heart, and you get married for face, so it is better to open the bidding.

2.At a deeper level, you are not fit to start a family at this time.

When two people are ready to enter into marriage, and the perspective of thinking about the problem is not based on "we", but from the perspective of "mother's family" and "mother-in-law's family", then you don't think that you have formed a new family at all, but act as the spokesperson of your original family.

3.As a result, Jan Li is fair.

Even if you don't look at it according to feelings, it's fair to look at it according to a business.

He paid 33,000, you think you are worth 88,000, and he didn't try to buy and sell you with 33,000, he walked out of the store directly and didn't buy it.

Since you have the mentality of talking about business, then buying and selling is not benevolent, and you are all guests when you enter the door, and you can send this person away and wait for the next door.

When I encounter bride price questions in Zhihuzi paid consultations, I usually refuse to answer them, because I am the respondent of the emotional category, and the counselor of this kind of question recommends the respondent of the financial category.

I haven't been in such a situation with my partner, and if that happens, the best thing to do is to communicate and learn to get along.

First, obtain the consent and support of both parents.

The marriage of a man and a woman is not only a matter of the two of you, but also of the two families. If you don't get the support and consent of your parents, you may embarrass the other party in the bride price.

Second, contact each other's parents more before marriage.

Visit each other's homes more often during holidays, so that they have some understanding and trust in you, and the probability of offering a sky-high bride price will be relatively reduced.

Third, the woman's communication with her family is very important.

Sometimes parents may raise the bride price because of face, as a daughter, on the one hand, to communicate with their parents gently, explain their relationship with the man, Xiaochen on the other hand, but also to negotiate with the man how to deal with it better, rather than giving the man an order to accept.

Fourth, as a man, don't misunderstand the woman's parents.

Because when you look at the people in the woman's family with a contemptuous attitude, you will bury the bad family relationship.

If you really can't afford it, you need to explain your difficulties, be more sincere and considerate in the relationship, and let the woman's parents feel at ease that they will hand over their daughter to you.

Fifth, the woman insisted that the bride price should not produce a frontal conflict.

Because this is the moment to test true love, the woman should wait. Men should actively coordinate, and when parents see that they truly love each other, but they can't bear to go against their elders, they will gradually relent.

If the bride price is purely for your parents, and the money is not brought back to your small family, in the man's opinion, it is a pure expenditure, without any income, and no one's money is blown by the wind, why? Therefore, when people pay money, they naturally want to have a part of the benefits, of course, they have to ask your family what to give you.

2. In addition, you said that you did not ask the other party's house to write your name, and the house that people bought in full before marriage belongs to personal property before marriage, so why write your name? Just because you're married, is this a reality? Think about it from your perspective, if it is a house that your family bought in full, just because the married man said to add your name, are you willing to turn the pre-marital property into the joint property of the husband and wife?

With a marriage certificate, take away half of the ownership of the house, and no one agrees.

3. Did you buy the car you bought yourself for Yintong's marriage? If not, then it's not your daily car, you will definitely not be able to offset the dowry with your daily car, after all, the bride price is real money, you use the previous daily consumer goods, and the vehicle that does not maintain its value as a dowry, it must be a loss-making transaction in the eyes of the man.

Don't say anything about getting married, why do you have to calculate so clearly, because money is the saddest thing for a couple, and it is also the most difficult part of daily life to talk about and the easiest to conflict. After all, the education we received since childhood is that marriage depends on good character, not just money, which leads to many people not dealing with money or economic problems before marriage, and they are all chicken feathers after marriage.

Your problem is very easy to solve, after all, there are local customs, you try to discuss it with the family, the bride price is normally given by the man's family, but you have to take this money back to the small family, and the same family does not need to pay a dowry. Anyway, the family said that they had received the bride price, as for how much they received, whether you took it away or not, who will check. As long as the number of rituals is complete, it will be done.