What does it feel like to be addicted to one thing?

Obsession refers to being obsessed with people or things that cannot extricate themselves, detach themselves from reality, and live in their own lives. Always thinking about it, thinking about it, reaching a state of infatuation. Nice and silly feeling.

Obsession is a hobby, just like some people are addicted to games and are so obsessed that they don't know day or night. And like being infatuated with a person, I like him so much that I feel that he has no shortcomings and is flawless when I see him. It is possible to give up everything to be with him.

I like to watch TV series, I like to chase dramas, if I like a TV series, it is easy to become addicted, watching the time and waiting for the broadcast to start every day, and I am completely attracted by the love in TV. Because I like to watch TV, I often have a feeling of being there, like a character on TV, I will think, if I am him, how will I deal with these things, often watch TV and watch people in a hurry, always want to watch it, see the ending, always think about letting the bad guys in the TV get punished, let the good guys get due rewards, lovers will eventually become married, only when you see such an ending seems to be able to get balance in your heart.

True love is love that has no purpose, no reservations, and comes from the bottom of your heart. Sometimes it is possible to complete him tirelessly regardless of the cost, without a trace of complaint. In the process of doing it, the mood is extremely happy, enjoying the beautiful process, and the result is no longer very important.

If you achieve your goal, you will be surprised, but you will be very comfortable if you don't.

Speaking of addiction, I have to say that games, such as the game "Glory of Kings", have kept me addicted, and I can hardly sleep without playing two handfuls a day, and I am still sleeping at night, when I am open**, to see how others play this hero, learn their operation, very obsessed!

Because I was addicted to playing games, I stayed at home for many days, and I rarely got along with others except playing games every day, and I felt that they had alienated me. I originally wanted to do a set of questions, but because of the bad weather and rain, I gave myself an excuse to play the game for four or five hours, and it was gone in one afternoon. How terrible.

Our precious things are only valuable if they are attached to time. However, time was wasted.

I think I like to play basketball, he's going to keep me hooked, I'm going to keep following some basketball events, like the NBA, and I'm obsessed with some stars, my favorite star is Stephen Curry of the Warriors, and I've been playing basketball for many years, from junior high school to now.

I am a girl who naturally loves smelly beauty, and in recent years, I have a little money on hand, and I feel that my whole person is floating, and I have always been obsessed with cosmetics, clothes and jewelry, and I pay special attention to them, and I feel addicted. Of course, I kept buying, buying, buying, and so on, so that now it has become moonshine.

I'm obsessed with Hua Chenyu's songs, since he first debuted, I like his **style, I've watched his concerts several times, and often pay attention to his dynamics, as long as he comes out with a new song, I will listen to it, and I often loop them in a single song in my phone**.

For always want to buy porcelain did a coach. This is an addictive behavior, always can't control yourself to buy porcelain, on the one hand, I want to, on the other hand, I judge myself for buying too much, I have bought enough for several lifetimes, I really can't use the style, but I still want to buy. I just want a lot.

I now make my own money and can buy it for myself.

I remember when I was a child, I saw my classmate and her parents in the supermarket, and there were a lot of snacks in the shopping cart, and I felt very uncomfortable. Because my mother doesn't buy me snacks, every time I say that snacks are rice flowers that are not interesting, and sweet water is not interesting, in fact, I really want it. There is also buying clothes, I have always picked up other people's clothes, I have not bought any clothes for me, I am a little older, I want to buy a favorite one, and finally I have a quarrel with my family, I bought it, and I only remember this dress is what I want.

I especially want to make money for myself, to be able to buy myself things, to buy what I want.

I don't feel like I was before the fourth grade of elementary school, only fragments of memories, during that time it seemed that I didn't exist, no thoughts, couldn't touch, I always wanted to feel the feeling of only imitating the fragment of rent, the feeling of being excluded from the fragment. I have memories after fourth grade, and it feels like I've been between pandering and confrontation, catering to the ideas of adults, and fighting against their discipline.

Buying some of these things, I've been fighting against the feeling that I wanted and couldn't get when I was a child, my mind said that I could meet my own needs, in fact, I have been filling the feeling of having nothing when I was a child, I feel that they won't pay for me, they won't buy me what I want, no one will care about what I want, and they won't give it to me when they see it, I can only rely on my own efforts. So I kept buying, stationery, clothes, porcelain, a lot of things that were larger than I used.

I feel that I can take responsibility for myself, this sentence is understood by me to mean that I have the ability to meet my own needs, I can buy myself what I want, I am filling my unmet needs.

In addition to the extremely harmful drugs and gambling, we call many other things in life "addiction": addiction to smoking, alcohol, gaming, shopping - activities like this, we generally think that it is okay to do it once in a while, and it may be good for the body and mind, but it is not good to be addictive.

I don't know if you want to have a similar experience in your life, constantly swiping your mobile phone, constantly looking at your circle of friends, looking at your Weibo, obviously there are a lot of clothes, shoes and cosmetics still can't help but chase the anchor to buy in the live broadcast room, the homework you should do, the books you should read, the work that should be prepared has not been completed, but you are still obsessed with constantly brushing**, constantly chasing the Internet** and so on.

And I also know that this will not only not help my own growth, my own life and my sincerity, but will make me stupid, and even have social difficulties.

Just like we talked about two concepts in psychology, desire and need, objectively speaking, as a living organism, human needs are limited, but desires are unlimited.

In 1993, two psychologists at the University of Michigan, Terry Robinson, Kent C. BerridgeBerridge), proposed an "Incentive-Sensitization Theory (IST)" that argues that -

The so-called addiction means that the degree of wanting has increased a lot, but the degree of liking has not increased much, so that wanting has obviously increased more than liking.

In other words, what was my motivation for doing this? Do you do it because you like it, or do it because I really want to?

Wanting and liking are both essential mechanisms of the brain, and they are a reasonable arrangement for evolution. You have to want to eat and enjoy eating in order to be motivated enough to be willing to work hard for the food and be happy to eat it. However, wanting and liking are, after all, two different circuits, and they can be out of tune in some cases.