Why are most marriages ruined after having children? Why?

Chatting with married friends around me and finding out about the child, the relationship between the couple has changed in a variety of ways, and they are all changing in an awkward direction. No matter how many co-actors they play before marriage, loving couples, once they have children, they will contradict and quarrel, revealing the most hideous faces in front of both parties. Many experienced people have feelings that children ruin their married life.

Why are most relationships ruined after having children? The following reasons are cruel when it comes to the roots.

When they don't have children, the two of them can earn a thousand and spend a thousand, and they can also come out for leisure and entertainment every three or five times, and most of the salaries can afford the daily expenses. Although both of them knew that the expenses would increase after having children, they also planned to spend part of the expenses on the children after having children.

But after the child was born, I realized that the child's level of gold swallowing was far beyond expectations. The cost of raising a child is unexpected. Originally, it was very suitable to take out two-thirds of the monthly salary to raise a child, but after giving birth, it is very likely that the child's expenses will not be enough to use all the salary.

Unexpected expenses related to the process of raising children can be hollowed out anytime and anywhere, but the actual expenses are also unlimited.

The high standards of financial standards and the uncertainty of high losses brought about by this kind of parenting can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. In such a situation, women are always more anxious, and it is very easy to transfer their worries about the future to boys, complaining that men can't make money, and they don't look down on boys for being unproductive.

After the man has a child, he will be more upset because of the work pressure due to the huge expenses of the child, and he will also face the complaints and disdain of women all day long. will also complain that women don't make money, and there are many things. Then the differences continued to improve, and the things of Chen Sesame and Rotten Grain were all turned out, and the more noisy they were, the more they made the more trouble, and the more they got bigger, and in the long run, the married life fell apart.

Money can deal with most of the troubles, and many families have no money. After having children, the relationship between husband and wife breaks down, in addition to the problem of money, there is also a large gap between the responsibilities of men and women. After having a child, the woman directly enters the role of mother, and women are now starting to be mothers.

And the man is still a young man, and he has never been able to join the role of a father.

After having a child, the mother puts all her time and energy into the child, shoulders the responsibility of raising the child, focuses on the child, the family, and gives up her work to like social **. But men are still like children who don't grow up, how their lives used to be and what they are now, they can divide the time to one-tenth of the child, even if they are good fathers, they eat, drink, and party activities with good friends are not delayed at all.

This makes the child the responsibility of the husband and wife, but many families have become a matter of the mother alone, not only to bear the hardships on the road to raising children, but also to solve the helpless mother-in-law and daughter-in-law There are also increasingly embarrassing husband and wife feelings. And Dad completely ignored it and became his own way.

Most men are not only unable to bear the hardships of raising children, but also unable to solve the relationship between family members and provide spiritual comfort and encouragement. As a result, some ladies are becoming more and more disappointed, becoming more and more cold, and finally choosing to get rid of a man's disappointment in marriage.

Because after getting married, they find that life is all chicken feathers, and if they can't handle family chores well, it will be easy to fall apart.

It's because after giving birth to a child, you will find out that the other party's shortcomings will be very difficult, but you can't change the other party, and it will make the whole family miserable; The reason is because after giving birth to a child, the gap between the two people will be exposed, and the shortcomings of the other party will also be exposed.

Because after giving birth to a child, the financial pressure on the family has increased, and it is difficult to solve the problem of child-rearing, and a bunch of trivial things.

Hello, because the child is a child and the burden is also heavy, due to the many contradictions of the child, various disputes broke out, and the child has become a stumbling block in their married life, and even there are many trivial things in the life of the husband and wife, and the relationship is broken, and the marriage can not be maintained. Women generally have more children, more chores, less concern and patience for their husbands, but men are indeed different, men usually have two needs in the relationship: emotional needs and physical needs, these two aspects are satisfied, they are willing to continue with the other half.

Husbands and wives should understand each other, empathize, stop in time, and don't complain to each other. What do you say?

To a certain extent, children are not necessary for marriage, children are the crystallization of love between both parties, and it is also the best time to have children when both parties are ready to take on this responsibility.

In fact, when I think back to my own growth, the impulse of love for the opposite sex in adolescence, and the talk of marriage in adulthood, perhaps more parents do not have a clear concept when they first enter marriage, "I need a child" and "What does this child mean to me". It's just that since this is a program, Zen Han will complete the general execution of the mission of life.

It is more due to traditional concepts, as well as the pressure and gaze from parents or society, I feel that if two couples do not implement or plan to have a child, it will be very "different", just like the current lack of understanding and support for "Dink". Even if we face the "struggle" of "chickens and dogs" with children every day, we will still promote the concept of having children to the young people around us.

There is no need to numb oneself for reasons such as raising children to prevent old age. To this day, parents in the family are still running around for their children to help their children raise the next generation. Even if parents who are not involved in parenting tasks are taking care of themselves, if there is a real need to "prevent aging", maybe there are few things that children can do for their parents.

In order to participate in the growth of a life, a life starts from nothing, from small to large. Feel the wonder of a life, the surprise of two hearts beating in a body, the wonder of slight changes and fetal movements. Feel the tenacity of a life, and come to a world with complete trust.

In order to better understand yourself, to be a seed, a new life, and an understanding that comes to this world with trust. To better understand one's own state in the process of growth, to see and accompany the process of one's life growth, is to take care of and understand oneself in the process of growth.

In order to better understand life, it is with children that our lives are fully possible. It is with children that we can become parents and better understand our own demands, our own love and hatred.

The C-section completely ruined me! It's been more than three months now, and my health hasn't been better. Not only is the stomach hard above the incision, but also around the navel.

It still hurts when I press it. Sometimes it hurts if you don't press it inside. I felt very weak all day long, like a cold, my body temperature was abnormal, my hands were too hot, I couldn't even test my son's forehead temperature, and my hands felt wrong.

I don't know how long I can live, and I don't want to live anymore. I don't feel well. I'd rather die than live.

I have to suffer every day! I am sad to think that my parents sent a black-haired man and my youngest son lost his mother. But I was worthless, boring, I couldn't take care of my son and parents, and I couldn't make money.

Birth, old age, sickness and death are difficult!

Before I got pregnant, I was skinny, soft, and weak, but my physical fitness was not bad. I used to work international express packaging; Usually with a cold and fever, even if it reaches 40 degrees, you can sleep on your own and drink plenty of water for two or three days. Although I always thought that I would have a good birth, because this child is not easy to come, so I was cautious before giving birth.

Even the prenatal check-up is more than the regular check-up, but the fetal head is too large, the diameter of the double top, and the head circumference is also very large. In addition, after the due date, the fetal head is not in the basin and has been around the neck for two weeks. Also affected by some negative production on the web.

The child gets stuck in time and doesn't listen to the three of them, I'm afraid it's not good.

I used to think about what people live for. Everyone experiences old age, sickness, and death. Even if you are happy and successful, you can't escape the pain and face death!

Sometimes I think that if my mother hadn't given birth to me, I wouldn't have to face this! I also thought about not having children. Since he doesn't want to go through this, he doesn't want to have children, let him experience birth, old age, sickness and death, joys, sorrows, and sorrows.

This kind of thinking is just an idea, and I don't insist on doing dink.

But after all, you can't escape the inherent notion that you have to have children when you get married. Although I have the idea of not having children, I have to give birth to my husband. I experienced a fetal arrest, irregular menstruation, and took Chinese medicine for two months.

Although menstruation is not well restored, ovulation is monitored. Now it seems that the frustration before pregnancy was actually a deliberate effort by God not to let me have a baby. At that time, I was hesitant to have irregular periods, but I was anxious to have a baby piglet.

If I hadn't insisted at the time and pushed back to have a cow, I would have given up the idea of having a baby after experiencing this epidemic.

I regret having a child and paying the price of my life, I haven't thanked my parents for their kindness, but let them bear the pain of losing their daughter! I haven't made my son feel motherly love, but he has become a child without a mother. My son is not well raised, he does not eat a few mouthfuls of breast milk and is fed on milk powder.

This child is allergic to constitution. Watching his head covered with eczema and dermatitis makes the child miserable! I'm even more sorry for my husband.

He was originally a child's character, and now that he's been through it all, he's going to be depressed! Secretly cried several times!

Therefore, everyone must think carefully about having children.

Because the cost of getting married and having children is too high, now a child needs to take care of food, drink and clothing, and he has a lot of pressure at work. In addition, it is necessary to pay attention to children's learning opportunities and invest a lot of learning costs. In exchange, it may be the child's rebellious psychology, and the essence of having a child is not cost-effective, and I regret it.

This is because it is really not easy to raise children, and many things in life have to be taken into account about children.

Getting married and having children means responsibility and responsibility, they still don't want to be responsible, they don't want to spend time on their children, they don't get married and have children, they can live freely.

Because many people feel that their life after getting married and having children is not as good as before, they feel that getting married and having children brings them a lot of troubles and makes them very uncomfortable.

Because marriage has brought them an unhappy life, it makes them feel tired, and all these unfortunate ** are married and have children, which is not the life they want.

Because you can't give your child a good life.

Does not having children ruin a marriage? Impossible, if two people are willing to reach an agreement, they can still live happily without having children.

Getting married really means having children, because it's a kind of inheritance. Unless, before you get married, you have agreed with the other party not to have children. And the other party and his family also agreed to dress up as a muffled wheel.

It is possible that it will not affect the marriage, but it may only be short-lived, if one day he meets the tenant of the hall who attracts him and is willing to give birth to a child for him. It could ruin your marriage at any time. And combine with others.