Different members of society need to speak the same reason , how do Chinese reason?

We often see scenes of people arguing on the streets of some villages, in which most of the "protagonists" deliberately raise their voices and constantly explain their position to the other party. In fact, this is also a state in which most of us are reasonable. We'll feel like we're more vocal about it.

1.When reasoning, I will unconsciously raise my voice

There seems to be an unwritten rule around us, that is, a person speaks loudly, which proves that he is very confident in what he says, and this matter has always been applied to our daily quarrels. It is precisely because of this that many people feel that when we reason with others, it is more like a quarrel or a traditional impression of scolding, but in fact it is not. And at the same time, for onlookers, they tend to pay more attention to those who are louder when they reason.

In the end, I still feel in my heart that the kind of person who dares to speak loudly in the crowd will be more confident, and what he says will be more truthful. The inherent impression of these two aspects makes people have a very strong "love" for raising their voices when reasoning. <

2.Most people tend to be more emotionally inclined when reasoning

We are very protective when it comes to reasoning. Hidden behind it is that we are more inclined to our own emotional positions. It's also a concept that we've been passing down since the beginning:

I always feel that people who are closer to me will be more trustworthy, and my words will be more convincing. <>

Therefore, this kind of preconceived thinking can easily pull our trust to people with whom we have a deep relationship. Of course, this tendency does not mean that we ignore the existence of reason, but only value human feelings.

Chinese reason should be divided into genders, and men should be reasonable: brothers are good, big things are small, small things are small. Women don't reason with her, women are all right, there is nothing wrong.

The way of Chinese reasoning is to meet and say hello to each other, so as to represent respect for a person, and generally students will say hello first when they see the teacher to show their politeness.

The Chinese first know the feelings and then move the reason, if the feelings are useless, then according to the actual reason to persuade and persuade the other party.