Why are family ties in the countryside getting weaker and weaker?

The market economy has been developing, the space of social interpersonal space will be greatly expanded, the pace of life has become faster, the traditional rural family ethics have changed, people will be negligent about family relationships, chatting less and less, so it will become weaker and weaker.

It is because the economic income of rural people is relatively low, everyone regards money as more important, and there will always be conflicts due to economic problems, so the relationship will become more and more widowed.

Because the transportation in the countryside is not very developed, it is more difficult to communicate, and if you don't communicate for a long time, the relationship will become weaker and weaker.

There is a saying in the countryside that I don't know if you remember. Called: "A table to a thousand miles", this sentence means that relatives are still relatives in this generation, once to the word "table", relatives will be far away, if you don't move around, there is not much difference from ordinary people.

So why is this happening?

Nowadays, most of the rural people go out to work, and they don't go home until they go out in their twenties in the first lunar month, and they are busy with their own work, and they really don't even have time to go to relatives. In the past, in addition to New Year's greetings, relatives walked around, and there were two festivals: the Dragon Boat Festival and the Mid-Autumn Festival. Nowadays, few people move around these two festivals, except for the New Year's greetings and lying down.

Just as we rural people say ourselves, it is faster to pay New Year's greetings now than to go up the mountain to chop firewood. Walking around and saying a few words, putting down the gifts and leaving, even relatives didn't have time to make tea. Some of them also shook their hands vigorously, don't soak, don't soak, so-and-so relatives' family has just drunk it, and I want to drive so-and-so family to visit the New Year.

Let's talk about it, is this like going to relatives? I don't think it's better to be in a hurry.

In the eyes of young people, only the mother-in-law's family is a relative, and other relatives are not relatives. There is a saying: "a table to go thousands of miles", to the table of the word generation there are few people to move, only those who have not married a daughter-in-law nephew, there is no place to go to the New Year's greetings, will go to the mother-in-law's house, there is a wife will only go to the mother-in-law's house, and the mother's uncle's house may not be recognized by the door facing east and west.

Nowadays, the gap between the rich and the poor in the rural areas is too great, don't say that others look down on them, if they are poor, even relatives and sisters look down on them, and sometimes even parents look down on them. Formed you also Kuanchun Tuan you, I also repay my kinship, rich relatives are afraid that poor relatives will borrow money from him, they can't talk about it, and they are afraid that they can't pay it back if they borrow. What about poor relatives?

You have yours, I can't put it aside, I won't come to the knot, no matter how poor I am, I won't come to your door. In this way, the relatives are cold to each other, so no one wants to move around, some relatives still have old people in their families who have to go, and others don't go, and some don't even go to build a house, marry a daughter-in-law, marry a daughter, etc., and the blood relationship between relatives is broken.

There are a lot of big families in the countryside, there are a lot of brothers and sisters in these families, many people express envy, with such a big family that loves each other must be very happy, indeed when the parents and elders are at home, the family is like twisting into a rope, the heart is in one place, but when the parents at home die, some brothers and sisters are no longer close, the relationship has become slowly estranged, why is this?

First of all, when the parents are there, the brothers and sisters have a concept of home in their hearts, the home is not the house between the square circle, but the concern for the parents, even if the brothers and sisters have their own families, they will return to the house for the New Year every New Year's holiday, and when the parents are not there, the brothers and sisters do not want to get together again, so the relationship is slowly estranged.

The second is the problem of disparity, we all know that the life paths of brothers and sisters may be completely different, some people have become bosses, and some people are working part-time, although they are all brothers and sisters, but naturally take less money, they will feel very uncomfortable, if they take the initiative to look at the laughter, they will be considered to be a knot, and the mentality of high status has also changed, and they are unwilling to take the initiative to visit their brothers and sisters.

Finally, there is the problem of family affection, a big family will inevitably have parents loved, although the children are loved, but if the parents love one of them very much, it will naturally snub the other children, the child's psychology is also very sensitive, some will even remember for a lifetime, although after the parents leave, they will not hate their parents, but this kind of complaining psychology will be transferred to the siblings, and over time will gradually choose to be estranged.

Why is the rural family affection with a strong human touch weakened? As a result of the great changes in the living environment of people in rural areas. In the past, the life of the rural family circle was the main environment, and then the people in the village gradually entered the city, gradually taking the four seas as their home, and the people of the world as neighbors, and the physical distance between relatives was far away, so they could not manage each other's family feelings well.

Then, after 1 or 2 generations of changes, the family relationship will gradually fade, and the emergence of the tide of breaking off relatives makes people helpless.

Taking our brothers as an example, one settled in Shanghai and the other settled in Hebei, which has a negative impact on the family relationship of our descendants, but for the sake of a better life, there is no choice but to compromise on life. The emotional relationship between us is based on the blood relationship between our mothers and compatriots, and the emotional bond that we grew up together since childhood. But I found that our descendants, because they have not lived together since childhood, although they know that they are blood relatives of each other, and they also play together for more than a month during the summer vacation, but the blood relationship between them is far away, and they don't have much time to play together, how to cultivate the feelings of relatives?

Then, the blood relationship of the descendants fades from generation to generation, and when one day, the bond of family relationship does not exist, and the family relationship between the descendants is broken.

The situation in which the two brothers live separately and the family relationship between the offspring will undoubtedly become weaker and weaker, which is actually a "microcosm" of the weakening of the family relationship and the breaking of relatives among people in rural areas today. More and more people in the village, in order to live a better life, are distributed in Tiannan and Haibei, and no matter how close people do not live on the same "plane", then their respective hobbies, three views and other cognitions will be different, and there is no opportunity to cultivate each other's feelings, and the family relationship between each other will fade unconsciously. This kind of family relationship between the south and the north of the world, the younger generations can't manage each other's family relationship well, to be honest, it's not as close as their friends who play together.

Since the end of the 90s, a large number of people in rural areas began to go out to work, do business, go to school, work, settle down, etc., and all walks of life have experienced rapid development in Zaohe for more than 20 years, and people's living conditions have been significantly improved. If you turn around and look back, you will find that many new people have been added to the village and do not know each other. It's like when I went home once, I went to my aunt's house, and I met my cousin in the stairwell and didn't know each other!

Because in the past 20 years, we have seen each other no more than 10 times, and our appearance has changed a little, and I can't remember it clearly.

The vicissitudes of life are impressive, just like the artistic conception of the song in the lyrics:Looking back at yesterday in front of the door in a foreign land, sighing and sighing year after year, but the sunset and sunrise have never changed, and at this moment when I looked at my father's smile, I was unconsciously ......speechless”

Economic disparity, if there is money, relatives will say all kinds of good things, if you don't mix well, it is easy to be looked down upon, not to mention any family affection.