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If parents scold their children for a long time or deny the value of their children, they may make their children very disappointed, in fact, if parents do not use some correct methods to teach their children, they may make their children become a waste.

When "parents keep demanding of their children, and then break this rule themselves", children will inevitably rebel, because such an unequal behavior pattern makes it easier for children to "disobey" their parents' discipline.

That's not a word, you can't do what you have said, and you will complain if you don't succeed, and you will often say that the child is useless in the child.

You know that always comparing your child with others, criticizing your child, disrespecting your child's ideas, and always having a particularly indifferent attitude towards your child will hurt your child.

Don't communicate with your child, say I'm forcing your child to do something he doesn't want to do, be cold and violent to your child, and often compare your child with others.

I think the four major behaviors of parents that hurt their children the most are: I hit you for your good; You look at whose children; You are the boss, let the little one go; You were born to me, and you have to listen to me for everything.

Often deny the child's efforts. I can't see the progress of my children, I always feel that my children are an accessory of my own state, and I always ask my children to listen to my own words.

Parents who always spoil their children, parents who are always strict with their children, and parents who always educate their children with sticks and sticks, these parents are known to make it easy to raise their children.

Da Zhaotong takes care of the child's affairs, is reluctant to let the child suffer a little bit, does not let the child do any housework, the child does something wrong, the parents will not teach the child, these kinds of disturbance parents will raise the child waste.

Raising a child is indeed not an easy task, sometimes parents have put in all their energy, but the child may not be able to give face, in other words, the child may not be able to withstand it. There are often parents of older children who complain about how much he has done for their children, but the child is facing the development she expects, but it is becoming more and more delicate and sensitive, as if he has become a "mixed eating and waiting for death". How easy is it to raise a child?

The three words of "encouragement" that parents often say are actually severe crackdowns.

As the saying goes, the bigger you lift, the more painful it hurts, and many parents often say that it seems to be "encouragement", but it does not encourage the right area. The first sentence: Look at who won the first place, you have to do your best, "Whoever won the first place" after the addition of "you look at others and then look at yourself" or add "you have to do your best" can not change the original intention of comparing your own children with others.

The child does not like to be told by his parents that he is inferior to others, and when he hears such words, he will most likely resist and may feel that his self-esteem is hurt, and he will not listen to the latter sentence "You have to do your best".

What's more, there are some children who have tried their best, and this statement will make him feel that his diligence has not been seen and will be very aggrieved. The second sentence: The task you are answering is to study hard, and many parents like to say that you don't have to worry about the rest, sometimes it is also when relieving the child who is frustrated in other aspects, and sometimes the child really wants to try some other aspects of the activity.

The idea of parents is very simple, they want their children to study hard and not be disturbed by other things. But children who have nothing to do, who are not responsible, who will panic when doing things, and who even have to take care of their parents in daily life, I am afraid that they will not even be able to go to boarding school!

If you can't even take care of yourself, how can your child not be knocked down by the frustrations in life? The third sentence: What is the difficulty of this, don't give up easily When children encounter problems and face difficulties, many parents will always say a word:

What's so difficult about this, don't give up easily" may be in the eyes of parents, it is really not a thing, perseverance can get through the following, but this words in the ears of the child sounds like saying: a small thing or something, it's really useless, stand up for yourself! I firmly believe that no one should hear this kind of "encouragement" without a sense of loss!

This kind of "encouragement" not only does not help the child improve his ability to resist frustration, but only makes him question himself and become less and less confident. Effective encouragement can enhance the child's ability to resist frustration, which should be a form in which the parent understands the child's problems, tolerates the child's unsuccess, and then tells him that if he tries it, he may be able to do it, or he may be reasonable to try other ways.

You look at who is so good, and then you look at you. Praising other people's children in front of their own children is a big blow to children's self-confidence. It is said that good rejuvenating children are boasted.

The first sentence: Look at whoever won the first place, you have to work hard. Sentence 2: Your task now is to study hard, and you don't have to worry about anything else.

You can't do such a simple thing, come on, you can exceed xx. Saying that children can't do things well will make children lose confidence and ruin them, and asking children to surpass others is actually implying that children are not as good as others.

As model parents, in fact, no matter whether our children are promising or not, the love in our hearts will not decrease or increase a few points. Whether filial piety is true or not in later years, the reputation may not only be seen in form, but also many things cannot be forced.

In this society where young people are generally under pressure, only with more understanding and tolerance, more empathy and self-regulation between parents and children, can there be less complaints and more gratitude between the two generations.

Everyone will grow old, and when everyone is old, what they look forward to most in their hearts, that is, love, is the care and limb care of their children.

I hope we can all be a child who is still promising, does not disappoint his parents, and can try his best to be good to his parents, can help his parents in his old age, and know how to repay his parents' kindness.

How easy is it to "raise a child"? What are the only words that parents need to say?

When the child is just born, he is young, he has no ability to take care of himself, he can't take good care of himself, like a caged chick, he has to wait for the adult bird to feed, once the parents fast or leave, they can't live alone, and waiting for it to conclude can only starve to death. And people who don't have the ability to take care of themselves are the same, as long as their parents will never raise them again, they have no separate function, they are only eliminated by society, and their parents' long-term pampering will make them more pampered and pampered, as long as parents stop"Feed", you will feel that your parents are guilty of them.

They all think that little girls should be rich and boys should be rich, and the wealth here is not a lack of material conditions for the children to be better, but often refers to the inability to take care of the boys' daily life. Only when a boy experiences and bears the pressure of survival more importantly, can they truly become a man, if the boy grows up to encounter difficulties, only know how to blindly complain and avoid, then how can they support a family for their wife and daughter. Therefore, in the case of a boy's family, parents must let them endure a little more hardship in the case of cultural education and training of their children, whether this suffering comes from the content of the textbook, or from the hard work, or from the failure in the matter.

Let them feel more of this taste before entering the trend of social development, only in the situation of repeated setbacks, pain and very successful and happy, can they become strong, so as to become a real boy who stands up to the sky.

Nowadays, the vast majority of families have only one or two children, and the previous patriarchal consciousness has not been completely eliminated, so the vast majority of parents spoil their children are all exceeded. This kind of behavior is wrong, which will make the child lose himself in spoiling, so that he will become pampered and pampered, and gradually lack self-control. It is right for parents to love their children, but they must know how to grasp it, once it is higher than this, the love of parents will become restrictive, which is not conducive to the growth of children.

There have been news reports before, how shocking and ridiculous it is for a young man who gnaws at the old to starve to death at home without the care of his parents.

Different parents around the world have different education methods, and parents who spoil their children excessively will of course be severely investigated and punished for educating their children. Some parents feel that if they want their children to become more and more sound and more daring to take responsibility, then they need to continue to hurt them and deny them, so that they can reform themselves in the accusation and continue to move forward, especially for boys, parents feel that strict investigation and punishment of education is the right way to educate.

You're just a piece of waste, and you can't help it no matter what. You are a useless person, and if you say such things for a long time, the child will be easily raised.

It's okay, you don't have to do anything, you have your parents, your parents will support you for a lifetime, boys don't have to do housework, and often say things that hit children.

I've been working hard every day, can you please not disturb me; We're all for your good, why can't you understand us? I really don't know why I gave birth to you in the first place.

Say words of praise and encouragement to the child, just say these few words, which can make the child very promising.