Why does it feel like raising a child is like raising an enemy?

To a certain extent, children are not necessary for marriage, children are the crystallization of love between both parties, and it is also the best time to have children when both parties are ready to take on this responsibility.

In fact, when I think back to my own growth, the impulse of love for the opposite sex in adolescence, and the talk of marriage in adulthood, perhaps more parents do not have a clear concept when they first enter marriage, "I need a child" and "What does this child mean to me". It's just that since this is a program, Zen Han will complete the general execution of the mission of life.

It is more due to traditional concepts, as well as the pressure and gaze from parents or society, I feel that if two couples do not implement or plan to have a child, it will be very "different", just like the current lack of understanding and support for "Dink". Even if we face the "struggle" of "chickens and dogs" with children every day, we will still promote the concept of having children to the young people around us.

There is no need to numb oneself for reasons such as raising children to prevent old age. To this day, parents in the family are still running around for their children to help their children raise the next generation. Even if parents who are not involved in parenting tasks are taking care of themselves, if there is a real need to "prevent aging", maybe there are few things that children can do for their parents.

In order to participate in the growth of a life, a life starts from nothing, from small to large. Feel the wonder of a life, the surprise of two hearts beating in a body, the wonder of slight changes and fetal movements. Feel the tenacity of a life, and come to a world with complete trust.

In order to better understand yourself, to be a seed, a new life, and an understanding that comes to this world with trust. To better understand one's own state in the process of growth, to see and accompany the process of one's life growth, is to take care of and understand oneself in the process of growth.

In order to better understand life, it is with children that our lives are fully possible. It is with children that we can become parents and better understand our own demands, our own love and hatred.

Now raising children is more particular, not only to pay attention to whether the child eats well, dress well, but also pay attention to the child's growth problems, mental health problems should also give the child a certain companionship, to respect the child and love the child, but in the past, when raising children, as long as you pay attention to food and clothing.

Now the cost of raising children is relatively high, and you can neither beat or scold nor spoil, so it is more tiring.

It is because raising a child now not only needs to pay attention to his material aspects, but also needs to pay attention to his spiritual aspects, and now people's lives are getting better and better, and the requirements for children are getting higher and higher, so today is to make a child feel very tired.

Because in my concept, if I raise a child to grow up, it is my love for him, I feel that he is the little angel God gave me, and I will have his presence in my life in the future, and he will have my company in his life, and I will have to accompany him until he needs to leave me. But it's really not his obligation to raise me when I'm old, and it depends on whether he wants to show his love for me or not, and I'll earn enough money to support myself, because he will also have his own little angel who wants to run his life. So, raising a child doesn't seem to me to be necessary.

I think raising a child is the same as raising a dog, but it depends on whether you are willing to accept it and accompany it, this is not asking for anything in return, do you think the owner of the dog will want the dog to grow up to give him what to expect? So some people don't like dogs and don't want to raise them, and some people don't like children and don't give birth, which is reasonable.

Maybe my concept itself is not the traditional set of children to prevent old age, so I don't have any desire to have children.

So am I still selfish like this?

At present, excessive education, excessive medical treatment, excessive practices, and various manipulation voice operations are within the scope of the general Tangerine people in the country, so they dare not have more children.