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First of all, I think you're a good girl. Don't dislike your boyfriend's family status.

So have you ever asked yourself? What do you want? If it's happiness, then see if your actions revolve around that goal?!

To be honest, according to the situation of your boyfriend's family, you also have to put in more effort in the future, because the burden of his family in the future will be very heavy, so you have to be mentally prepared. In the future, you husband and wife will have to work hard to live a good life. The income from working alone cannot afford that much of an expense.

Because you're going to have children or something in the future. Therefore, the bride price is a trivial matter, whether you have it or not (you can not do it, but let his family know that you are generous and not weak), the main thing is whether you have a long-term plan for life.

My suggestion is 1, try to make more money, 2, take care of both parents, 3, give what should be given, and resolutely do not give what should not be given (you can't cultivate people's greed, including the elderly), 4, and make sure that everyone in the family can earn their own money (such as his younger brothers).

I wish you happiness and happiness, maybe you will encounter thorns, as long as you persist, you can walk through!

I said something unpleasant, think about it before getting married, in fact, in the future family relationship, the relationship with your in-laws is very important I think the generation gap between your two families will be very large. In the future, there will be a lot of quarrels about this, because of the relationship between the in-laws.

Yes, the gap is too big, and there will be many unavoidable contradictions in the future.

1. Don't be too rigid about the form, but don't be too casual either, and show respect for them. 2. Don't be too strong in front of your in-laws, be well-behaved, so that they will like you more. 3. Don't be too nervous, relax and don't be too restrained.

4. Be diligent and take the initiative to help with things, so that they will think you are more virtuous. 5. Don't be too cautious, as this will make them think you are more contrived. 6. Be generous and don't be too stingy.

7. Be diligent and diligent, so that they will be more satisfied with you. 8. Don't speak ill of their family in front of them, but say good things about their family. 9. Don't be too strong, and know how to respect your in-laws.

Gifts are to be brought, but not too expensive.

Gifts are a kind of etiquette, and I believe that no one will go to their future in-laws' house empty-handed for the first time. However, many girls will take this matter too seriously and make mistakes.

For example, many girls will spend their money, and Huai Hetan has bought a lot of expensive gifts, not to mention that they are beyond their own tolerance, and they will also exceed the other party's tolerance.

In this way, you may not be liked by the other party's parents, but will make the other party feel that you are too caught up or too loser.

So, gifts, as long as you put your heart into it, don't be too cheap and too cheap, and focus on practicality. It is best to inquire about the preferences of the other parent's parents in advance and prepare a suitable gift for them, which is worth about 10% of your monthly salary.

Be sure to dress appropriately.

Girls who have watched "The True Story of Hot Mom" must remember that Xia Bing, played by Sun Li, went to Yuanbao's house for the first time, and she felt that she chose the most favorite set of clothes, but from the moment she entered the community, it became a big joke.

You must know that the other party's parents are elderly people after all, and in all probability, they are not used to seeing you wearing heavy makeup or wearing revealing clothes. The first time you go, it is better to dress simply, be generous, and be conservative, and think of them as leaders and colleagues in your unit, and you may be more able to grasp them.

Of course, perfume, I think it's best not to spray it for the first time, and to clean yourself up.

Work is to be done, but don't roll up your sleeves and rush to work.

Do you want to work when you go to your future in-law's house for the first time? I think smart girls will grasp the degree. After all, it's the first time to go, rushing to work, it will make the other party think that you are a good little girl, maybe it will lay the foundation for you to do housework in the future, I don't think there is any need to let the other party look down on you like this.

But ah, if you don't do it at all, like a big lady, it will inevitably make local parents find fault and think that you are a lazy girl.

So, whether you will do the housework, just behave appropriately, it's okay to put chopsticks away and wipe the table, but don't be so smart, go into the kitchen and rush to do everything, with a little bit of reserve that a girl should have, that's right.

Be sure to be true to yourself.

I've heard a lot of guys say to their girlfriends, "Oh my God, I don't even know you when you just went to my house." "I admit that the first time a girl goes to each other's house, she must want to show her best side, which is no problem, but ah, you must not pretend to be over-disguised, this is the biggest mistake, because you can pretend this time, but you can't pretend for a lifetime.

Think about it, if you disguise yourself perfectly this time, then the other person's parents will have very high expectations of you, and then they may be disappointed if you make a little mistake. But if you have a little shortcoming on this day, the other party will be much more tolerant of you.

As the saying goes, you treat a person a hundred times, and suddenly once it's bad, that's bad. If you treat a person badly a hundred times and suddenly get better once, that's good.

Truth be told, don't be too cold and don't be too enthusiastic.

What should a girl do when she meets the man's parents for the first time:

1. Ask your boyfriend about the other party's parents' interests and preferences first, and do what they like.

2. It is also necessary to know more about the occupation of the other father's mother and the etiquette that the family needs to observe.

3. Based on your previous hard work, effectively prepare gifts for the preferences of the other parent.

4. In terms of choosing gifts, boyfriends, as their children, generally don't think about it so much, if they can't give any good advice. It is best to consult other elders, you can go to other elders to ask for leave, and prepare gifts that are in the eyes of the elders to the hearts of each other's parents.

5. Gifts can be chosen: fruits, health products, specialties or for parents' hobbies, such as giving each other's mother cosmetics, giving each other's father tea, etc.

6. The other party has done a similar job, and the next step is to shape yourself. At first glance, you should work clothing, it is best to lean on warm colors, simple style is best, makeup is elegant, and do not wear heavy makeup.

7. The preparation before class is all done, and the next thing is to look at the performance. When chatting with each other's parents, praise your boyfriend more, this is also their child, and they will definitely be happy.

8. When talking about your family, say more good things and try to express your view of family affairs, such as tolerating each other when two people encounter conflicts.

9. When it's your turn to ask, ask about health, life skills, preferences, and so on. You can also talk about your boyfriend's childhood to make the atmosphere relax.

10. When I go to my boyfriend's house for the first time, try to be diligent, help wash the dishes, serve a dish or something. Don't think that this will lower your marital status, the old people have worked hard to make a big table of dishes, and it is nothing to wash the dishes, and they will not necessarily let you wash the stockings.

11. Finally, you can also invite the other party to have dinner or come out to play next time, let the family know your attitude first, and make an appointment to meet next time.