How to get rid of the vanity you have with your friends

Hehe, good one"The heart is like stopping water, not sad for oneself, not happy for oneself"But, have you ever thought about it? People are not plants and trees, who can be ruthless? If there is affection, there will be joy, anger and sorrow, how not to be sad or happy? All you can do is control your emotions better.

To get rid of your mentality, it is actually very simple: let go of your obsessions, do everything with it, what you are pursuing, don't be reluctant, as long as you work hard, even if you can't get it?

The rain is angry with the wind, the water is angry and the mountains are green, and the clouds are angry and the sky is blue. Pursuit is also a kind of confusion.

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There should be some jealousy in it, friends should treat each other with sincerity, you go and ask him how he progresses, and the two work together; If the other party doesn't want to say, you can cheer yourself, but remember: friendship and competition are two different things, treat friends with sincerity, and then challenge yourself with strength, don't do anything about it!

What friends need is competition rather than vanity, and you'd better figure out what kind of mindset you are in first.

I don't think others have made much progress, and who doesn't want to be better than others? Who doesn't want to be able to progress? And every time I take the exam, I hope that everyone can improve, and progress together is the real progress!

Of course, I will ask myself, doesn't that mean that I have not improved or even regressed? After thinking about it again and again, I finally gave myself a good answer: everyone has to improve, but I want to improve more than others!

I think the key is a "degree", a little vanity or jealousy is something that everyone has. Not being willing to lag behind your friends is just a sign of self-motivation, but if this vanity is too strong, it's not good. You have to learn to control your feelings, calm down, study or do things in a down-to-earth manner, once you settle down to do something, you won't think so much.

Don't just see the beautiful side of others, your friends have also put a lot of effort into the grades.

It's good to have the right mindset for this kind of thing. Friend, you should be happy for her as she progresses.

Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself. Don't be funny, people are not gods, this is a normal psychology.

I think you can let him experience more things, when your friend is covered by some tribulations, you can be by his side to encourage him, but at the same time, you must also make him aware of the objectivity and truth of things, and he must be hurt in some things with strong vanity, so that he can realize himself more objectively and reflect on his own ability.

If you want to have a good talk with this friend, let this friend realize his ability to attack suspicion, and let this friend recognize Chunhuai and recognize himself, you can take this friend to a relatively large commercial trouser hand field to take a turn, so that this friend can realize the gap between himself and luxury goods.

I think it should be up to this friend to see if there are other unbearable shortcomings besides vanity, who doesn't have vanity? Everyone has a little bit of vanity, and in what areas does she have too strong vanity, such as showing off her materiality? Showing off your boyfriend?

Show off your work?。。 Changes in vanity and acquired factors and the environment are all affected, depending on their attitude towards friends, friends and couples get along almost all need to run in, if you can't get used to it, you will scold him, and over time the personality will be very similar, and people will be grouped by clusters.

If it's like the one put in the TV series some time ago because I met you, the female number two will do all kinds of unscrupulous means for her vanity, but fortunately, there is a female number one Mary Sue here, and ordinary people will not be so mentally retarded, because the heroine's kind and pure heart awakens ignorant human beings. It also awakened the conscience of the female number two! But Su, how can there be such a Mary Sue in real life, she is all a scheming, and she will not wake up the scolded female No. 2, who is too powerful, too vain, and wants to throw her with cabbage every minute!

I only watched the first few episodes, and then I really couldn't watch it, something like this. In order to live the life of a rich man, the second female abandoned her mother, saying that she was an orphan, and later the rich man sponsored the second female to go to school, and the second female lived together with a rich second generation at school, and loved him every day. Later, I accidentally knew that my boyfriend's family was bankrupt, and I turned my face faster than a book, so I broke up immediately, slapped someone, and said all kinds of things that hurt my self-esteem.

After going to work, there was a rich second generation, and all kinds of scheming led people to take the bait. It's just a textbook that teaches you how to be so obviously scheming as vanity!

But vanity is vanity, fortunately it's not particularly serious, that is, it was uncomfortable at the time, and you should get along with each other, mainly for so many years. It mainly depends on your own thoughts.

As the old saying goes: things gather like and people divide into groups. For any kind of human nature, it is probably the same type of people who are easier to get along with.

People with strong vanity often ask for perfection, everything wants better, if they themselves are the kind of people who are particularly easy to meet and are easy to satisfy, look at the kind of friends with strong vanity is all kinds of unaccustomed, the same they look at your various practices are also not eye-catching, even if it is a good friend, after a long time the outlook on life has changed, there is no common topic, or find their own positioning, and then find the same positioning of friends, people with strong vanity do not mean that they can't be friends, A nod is sufficient, but a heart-to-heart exchange is basically impossible.

I think it's better to have less contact with this kind of friend, anyone can actually have vanity, both boys and girls have this mentality, but I can't resist friends who are too vain, so I think it's better to have as little contact as possible.

My friend's friend is a girl with a strong sense of vanity, and her scheming is super heavy, not long ago the girl found a new boyfriend, and wanted to introduce it to my friend, but that girl was not really just kind to introduce her boyfriend, but to show off to my friend that she has a boyfriend, and use her boyfriend to humiliate my friend, vanity is super strong, my friend is very angry, but there is nothing to fight back, as friends, we can only persuade her not to contact such a person again, Because being friends with such a person can only find guilt for yourself. I used to have a friend who also had a lot of vanity, and bragged in front of us all day that her family was rich and how well her house was decorated, but we all knew that she was just too vain, and we were unwilling to demolish her, which made our impression of her worse and worse, and finally everyone slowly alienated her.

You have to remember that no one wants to make friends with someone who is too vain, and such a friend will be very tiring to get along with, because you have to listen to her brag every day, but you can only quietly watch her "perform", you can't do anything to her, every day she lives in her own virtual world. It's right to have vanity, so that you can get a better life, but vanity is too strong, it doesn't make sense, and I don't like such false people, and I don't want to find friends with such people, so friends should be sincere.

You saw him at the time that he was simple and cute, and now he must have his previous simple and cute in his heart, but now there is something more important than simple cuteness, which is to tell others that he also has something that others have.

1 He became less money again. If you don't have that much salary, you won't be able to buy anything to show yourself, and you may return to your previous "simplicity". Speaking of the subject, he is behaving like this now, do you still think he was really simple before?

This way of getting him back to the way he was before, I think it will distort his psyche.

2 He has always been rich, and he is getting richer and richer, so rich that everyone knows that he is rich, so rich that he doesn't need to post all kinds of things, and everyone knows that he is rich. This approach should gradually alleviate his distorted psyche....But where the money comes from is a question.

3What made him like this? It's nothing. He's the kind of guy he is, but you haven't noticed it.

To sum up, he has been insecure since he was a child. They are also insecure about others (this can be seen by the difference in attitude towards you when they have no money compared to when they have money), and they are also insecure about themselves (this can be seen by the desperate need for approval).

If you already have everything you want, then you don't need vanity, right, so, if you don't want vanity, then let go of your desire to compare yourself with others, let go of these, live yourself, and there will be no vanity.

To be honest, I feel a little vain now, my family is rural, the family conditions are average, my parents are workers, and I am the only child in the family, which is actually fine. But after I went to college and came into contact with more people, I found myself a little impetuous, not like when I was a child. I also became eager for money.

I used to watch those vain women in TV dramas, at that time I really didn't understand why they were like that, I thought they were disgusting, I thought I must not be like them when I grew up, and I was secretly glad that I wasn't like that, but as I got older, I was horrified to find that I also became vain, and then I realized that I wasn't different from others, but I didn't understand anything when I was a child.

Now that I have grown up and matured, I have naturally become vain. And he also said to others righteously, I am not vain, I am loving face, but in fact, I know in my heart that this is vanity. Seeing that other people's mobile phones are good, and they are clamoring to buy Apple when they go home, think about it carefully, do you really like this brand?

Actually, it's not, it's just vanity.

Now I have to make good food, clothing, and birthdays, and then I go home and see my parents who are tired from work, I really blame myself at that time, so I am determined to change, I can no longer indulge myself like this, this is not good for anyone. Everyone has vanity, but we must have a degree and learn to control our mentality.

.From a distance, vanity seems to be a kind of cleverness, but in the long run, vanity is actually a kind of stupidity. The vain often has a small cunning and a black fortune, but lacks great wisdom.

Vain people are not necessarily less astute, but they certainly lack foresight. Vain women are captives of money, vain men are captives of power. Too strong vanity makes men hypocritical and women fall.

The psychology of vanity is associated with dramatizing personality tendencies. People who love vanity are mostly extroverts. Impulsive.

Repeatedly, fickle. Affectation. With a thick one.

Strong emotional response, posturing. Lack of real emotions, treat others and things to highlight themselves. Impetitive.

Behind vanity lies deep psychological defects such as self-esteem and weakness. People with vanity psychology mostly have deep psychological defects such as low self-esteem and weakness of heart, and vanity is only a compensatory effect. Strive to pursue glitz and glamour to hide psychological flaws.

If you're going to take an example, there's a lot of them, and they're all swollen and fat. For example"Everyone has a love for beauty. "Now it's popular to have plastic surgery, and there's nothing to say about how good the plastic surgery is, but in case the whole thing fails, that's an example, I won't talk about the specifics, and I drink alcohol, say how much I can drink, and finally, hehe, don't mention it, etc.

The troubles and distress that vanity brings to people are also obvious to all.

Therefore, we must not become slaves to vanity, so how to get rid of the slavery of vanity? First, recognize the dangers of vanity. Some people with strong vanity are unaware of their vanity and refuse to admit their vanity, so it is difficult to overcome vanity.

Therefore, it is necessary to understand oneself correctly and soberly analyze the harm of vanity. Vanity is a false honor, it may give you temporary satisfaction and fill the emptiness in your heart, but it makes you carry a heavy burden on your back, and you are always worried about losing what brings you vanity, and once you lose it, it will be painful. Therefore, only by recognizing the vanity in oneself and the dangers of vanity can we make up our minds to overcome vanity, and secondly, to overcome the selfishness of individualism.

Vain people pay too much attention to their own names and honors, rarely consider the feelings and evaluations of others, have a strong desire for self-expression, as long as they can bring themselves the opportunity to perform, he will not let go, competitive, reckless, is a manifestation of individualistic selfishness. Therefore, to overcome vanity, but also to overcome the selfishness of individualism, the desire for self-expression, and to cultivate the ground. Seeking truth from facts.

People who are too vain often lack a down-to-earth style of thinking and work. Emotional instability. When vanity can be satisfied, there is a high level of enthusiasm, and once the vanity is not satisfied, the mood will plummet.

Therefore, in order to overcome vanity, it is also necessary to proceed from reality, work in a down-to-earth manner, and cultivate and temper one's true ability and good psychological quality.

In fact, many people have a little bit of vanity mentality, pay attention to grasp their own degree, don't be excessive, and constantly try to get rid of the vanity mentality.

First of all, I think it's important to have a contented mindset. Learn to be content, cherish and love the various types of feelings and wealth that you have. We have to look at ourselves, especially the good places.

Some people are even more vain and unconfident, and the greed in their hearts makes them even more vain, and they can't see their excellent self, and everyone in this society can support themselves, how can people who have real friends be so miserable? There must be an excellent point, contentment, there are many people in the world who are living a more miserable life than you, so you don't need to be vain anymore, you are a happy person.

Vanity, on the other hand, is to a certain extent the desire to be better in the areas where it is missing. Therefore, we can work hard for it, let ourselves get what we want through our own efforts, but we must pay attention to it, it is reasonable and legal to strive for it through our own efforts, and we will not regret it if we work hard, and there is no need to compare with others, especially in our own gorgeousness, in fact, we are vain because others are better, so we can make ourselves better, but don't go crazy, we are all the most special one, vanity can not let a person succeed.

Many times vain people always want to compete with others, and they can be competitive, but vanity is not right, and it is not right to look at others. Making yourself kinder and friendlier can reduce vanity to a certain extent. If you are willing to accept others, be willing to be friends with others sincerely, and be willing to appreciate others, the germ of vanity will not grow bigger and bigger, and we can all be gentle with others, right?