Such a statement about marriage scares me

Not really. Just be yourself.

If you think that way at the beginning, you don't trust him.

Marriage is a small room built of love, trust, and responsibility. If one piece is missing, it's still there.

Stealing these things, that's a matter of looking at a man's eyes, and you have to think about whether you have no novelty for him.

The freshness of two people together is very important, if he sneaks out of the house decisively.

There can be no betrayal in true love, I personally think. Since he chooses to marry you, he will be responsible for you, responsible for his actions, and will make you sad man, you won't marry、。。 It's not going to be like this

Happy marriage except love. There is also a business !!

I've also heard that men don't have good things! But I've never been in favor of that! I think there should be more good people in front of good people, and there should be more bad people in front of bad people.

It's really unreasonable for you to doubt like that, there is no shortage of clean and self-righteous men in the world, the problem is that you have to keep improving, constantly improve yourself, and run your home with your heart! Wishing you happiness!

Maybe even women think this way, so men often say that women are cranky. However, they don't know the worries in the woman's heart at all, they just think the woman is neurotic. Now in this society, there are fewer and fewer happy marriages.

Sometimes it's not a man's character, it's a matter of the environment in which he lives, especially the work environment. Walking by the river is very difficult, not to get your feet wet. Moreover, today's men still have the rhetoric to excuse everything with entertainment, and everything is for the sake of family and other nonsense, which is not credible.

If they all betray each other, what's the use of the family? So, you can talk to your husband formally about this and state your position to him. In this way, if he loves you enough, he will weigh what he can and can't do.

Finally, I wish you happiness!

Everything is changing, and it's not clear what will happen in the future, but it's undoubtedly not worth it to start being suspicious now for the sake of that unknown. People live in the moment first! You can prepare with both hands, first of all, you must have the ability to be independent, even if that day comes, the two of you are separated, you can live freely.

Not everyone is like this, the man who loves to mess with flowers and grass can see it, if your husband is not like that, you have to take good care of him, you two live happily, and there will be no trouble.

The three most terrible words in marriage, the three form a progressive relationship, corroding our marriage step by step, are you also deeply involved in it?

First, apathy. I don't know when it started, the husband and wife have nothing to say, they go home and play with their respective mobile phones, although they sit together, but no matter what you ask each other, the other party says, whatever, almost, you see, etc. Gradually, you feel that marriage has lost its flavor and pleasure, and it makes people stop.

You always want to break the deadlock, you have nothing to say, and you find that in the end, you are the only one who works hard, and slowly you compromise and get used to it.

Second, disappointment. When did you start to lose heart in him? From him forgetting your birthday, forgetting your wedding anniversary, or from him socializing more and more, coming home later and later, maybe you can't remember clearly, but suddenly you feel disappointed, that feeling is empty and cold in your heart.

can make him give up his feelings, basically in the bottom of his heart has been suppressed for a long time, tired to the point of exhaustion, and he really doesn't let go of the decision he can't make. You start to get angry, noisy, and chatter, and he doesn't feel the endless quarrels, and he consumes what little love he has little by little, and you become disappointed.

Marriage is for multiple people to love you and accompany you. When you are sick in the middle of the night, someone will get up to bring you water and medicine, in the pouring rain, someone will come to pick you up home rain or shine, when you are wronged, you will pat you on the shoulder and say, don't worry, I am here, because he is in the lights of ten thousand homes, you have a warm harbor of your own.

Third, despair. Slowly, you get used to this kind of life, you no longer quarrel, you no longer are afraid, you are even used to being alone as if you are not married, there is no quarrel, just cold. You may not even know why you are the way you are, is it marriage that has changed us, or has life changed us?

Have you ever felt this apathy, disappointment, and despair?

I think it's [don't understand], [leave me alone], [whatever you can laugh at] state high school, the two sides have different family growth environments, and many things will have different views on two people, and if you don't communicate well, it will cause conflicts.

Annoying, look at it yourself, there is nothing to check Brother Jane, such words are often easy to hurt each other, and the expression of indifference is not conducive to the easing of the relationship between the two parties, and is not conducive to the continuation of the marriage.

Song Ningfeng and Zhang Wanting are a pair. One is used to being a "gas bag", whether he is ridiculed by his partner or hurt his self-esteem, he always looks like he wants to explain but has no chance to explain, and the other is to suppress his partner when he has the opportunity, be aggressive, and never speak well.

Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng were married in a flash, they knew each other for less than a month Zhang Wanting was pregnant, and the two got married until the child was born, and there were all kinds of contradictions between the two, Zhang Wanting still commented on this relationship in an interview - we are not familiar with each other.

The audience thinks it's very strange, three or two months of marriage can be said to be unfamiliar, and children have been born for so long and still can't be acquainted, how should this kind of marriage be lived?

In this marriage, quarrels are full of them, Zhang Wanting feels that Song Ningfeng doesn't love her enough, and keeps asking for love, but what is the love in Zhang Wanting's mouth?

It is the partner who has to notice her emotional changes all the time, it is to save face for her in front of outsiders, it is the partner who can't fight back, the old man scolds and doesn't return the scolding, and it is the divorced Song Ningfeng who meets Zhang Wanting, who is willing to give birth to him and is ten years younger than him, so he has to love her unconditionally.

And what did this woman who asked for love from her partner do? Blaming and suppressing the partner, not respecting the partner's right to speak, and removing the partner's face for the sake of his own face......All in all, the series of operations is very suffocating. There are several scenes that are most impressive:

One is three pairs of "husband and wife" sitting on the moving bus laughing and chatting, Zhang Wanting's spearhead suddenly pointed at Song Ningfeng, and said in front of everyone that Song Ningfeng had a good life and found a good wife like himself, unlike his own hard life, he found a drag oil bottle like Song Ningfeng.

If it hurts her partner's self-esteem very much, Zhang Wanting can blurt it out without thinking, indicating that in places we can't see, similar "verbal violence" often happens.

Just look at Song Ningfeng's expression, embarrassed and a little submissive.

The second is that Song Ningfeng and Lu Ge are happily playing frisbee, Zhang Wanting chatting with several other guests, speaking of Song Ningfeng, using the word "sinner", and immediately after Song Ningfeng sat down after playing frisbee, he turned on the attack mode - disgusted that he was not qualified as an actor, because he couldn't even detect his wife's emotions; If he dislikes the belt, he doesn't know people, and he has such a good time with the insincere Lu Ge; He was forbidden to speak and deprived him of the right to express himself.

Zhang Wanting felt that what she said was reasonable, and finally left very angrily.

The third scene is a love letter read by a waiter, Song Ningfeng said what was in his heart, and Zhang Wanting cried while listening. Just when everyone thought she was touched, she said in the interview that Song Ningfeng's love writing was particularly ridiculous and hypocritical, and shouted in front of Song Ningfeng that she would not change it, saying that what he wrote made her very faceless.

Zhang Wanting often talks about "face", most of the moments when she suppresses her partner are for face, saying that Song Ningfeng is dragging the oil bottle to show her superiority, and the accusation against Song Ningfeng after playing frisbee is that she feels that the other party has not maintained her face, and it is not right to write love letters because he has made himself lose face.

But Zhang Wanting should never have reflected that when she suppressed and blamed her partner in front of everyone, she lost her face.

Nowadays, more and more young people choose to be single or in a fixed couple, but they just don't get married. Whenever parents mention getting married, they feel very stressed and don't know how to live after marriage. Some young people feel that they are very good when they are single, and getting married is a troublesome thing to find constraints on themselves.

In fact, these are people's fears of marriage, if the children's fear of marriage can be alleviated?

1. Marital phobia.

1. Neither fear nor longing for marriage, we must face up to marriage, and of course we must have a rigorous attitude towards marriage, because marriage is not child's play. After all, there must be a gap between the ideal marriage and the actual marriage, and what we can do is, of course, to face up to this gap and strive to do a good job and manage our marriage.

2. Many people think that marriage and love are different, why is it different, that is, although love is together, what they have is separate, and marriage is that all will become common, except for your private space. But in my opinion, marriage is the continuation of love, you must believe this, after all, agreeing to marry must be a good feeling between the two people, and trust is even more needed at this time.

3. If the above methods still can't alleviate your fear of marriage, then I think you need to seek help from a professional psychological counselor. Find a psychological counseling clinic that you are familiar with or have a good reputation, explain your fears and feelings about marriage, and let the psychological counselor give you dredging and counseling.

2. Fear of marriage.

1. Rebellious psychology.

Many people will be restless on the eve of marriage, feeling that their freedom after marriage will be restricted, so they will subconsciously resist marriage.

2. Comparison. Some people will compare their other half with other people's other half, and they will feel that their other half is not as good as other people's other half, so they will resist their marriage.

3. Fear. Some people are inexplicably scared and afraid when they think of getting married, they will think that the current marriage is to get married for the sake of marriage, in fact, this is because he himself is not ready to get married, such a small partner I suggest that you don't get married first, and so on to adjust your mentality, make sure that you can get married, and make sure that the other party is the person you need to be together for the rest of your life, before choosing to get married.

Fear that you won't be able to handle a closer relationship.

The love and sweetness when you are in love is really beautiful, but it is inevitable that there will be bumps and bumps in the relationship between two people. When there is a problem in the relationship, if you resort to blaming and complaining, it can hurt the relationship. Unfortunately, when you get along, you will always get along with each other with the patterns you learned in the growth of your original family.

Fear that you won't be able to get the satisfaction of love after marriage.

If we don't have enough attention and love from our nurturers growing up, we will subconsciously think that I don't deserve to be loved. But at the level of consciousness, he constantly seeks to be loved to satisfy the thirst of the child who lacks love inside.

Fear of repeating your parents' marriage.

The family of origin is crucial to the influence of a person's personality and psychology. If a person experiences parental divorce, emotional discord, quarrels, domestic violence, etc., when he is a child, he will feel that marriage is unpleasant, unhappy, and uncomfortable. Because his cognitive experience is related to the interaction of his parents in marriage, and most of these experiences are negative.

Therefore, subconsciously think that marriage is discordant and unhappy. I am also worried in my heart that once I enter marriage, I will have to live a life like my parents, which is the shadow of my childhood, and I have buried the bitter fruit of fear of marriage.

1. Fear of responsibility.

It is often said that love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families. You are used to the carefree nature of two people, and marriage is often the trigger for breaking that. You'll start working hard for your family, and you'll no longer think of each other first.

I am afraid that the pressure after marriage will make you lose your love or even breathless, so you would rather fall in love than enter into marriage because there are too many responsibilities to bear!

2. Distrust.

If you don't get married at a certain age, there must be a certain reason. For example, a friend next to me, two people have been together for 5 years, and when it comes to marriage, the two parties have not talked about the details because of the details. The sisters disliked the boy for not taking responsibility, and they didn't believe that he would take care of himself and the family in the future, and the marriage between the two had been delayed.

Yes, I think many people are like this now, no matter how good they are in love, when they get married, they will think a lot about it, and there are a lot of worries. In fact, this is all people's selfishness, thinking about what the other party wants to dedicate after marriage, so there will be such distrust, and this distrust will also lead to your pre-marital fear!

3. Divorce rate.

Now that the divorce rate in society is soaring, I believe you should have many such friends around you. Under the influence of such friends, you will inevitably have a fear of marriage, if even marriage will become an unreliable thing, then why get married, it is better to live a chic life. But divorce is someone else's business, as long as you take your marriage seriously, I believe it will not come to this point.

Fourth, the bride price, mother-in-law.

This is addressed to men, for whom mother-in-law is a terrible name. When it comes to mother-in-law, it is the bride price, the house, and the car, and now with the development of society, the bride price is becoming more and more heavy. If a sensible boy's family conditions are average, it means that they have to use the savings that their parents have worked hard to accumulate for half of their lives as a bride price, and they are unwilling to do so.

As a result, I don't want to get married, and if I get married, I have to be sorry for my parents, and I feel guilty in my heart, so I am afraid of marriage. In fact, most of the mothers-in-law are still more sensible, and they will add some to the bride price you give to their daughters, the purpose is to make your life better!